Why you will never get a girlfriend doing random approaches.

[SamTheHobit]

Trying to get a girlfriend with random approaches is like skinning a cat with a spoon.

The reason I say this Is because she is getting approached several times a week. And The chance of anything happening with her is unlikely.

Secondly they have a plethora of orbiters, so you would most likely get shoved into this category.

Thirdly she most likely has a guy shes already interested in so you have to deal with that.

And lastly She will most likely want to be with a guy from her work, college, school and social circle.

This post may seem negative, I'm just pointing out the realities of random approaches.

This post does not advocate stopping "Random approaches" because you will gain a lot of confidence from random approaches, it will make you tolerant to rejection. And I guess they can be fun to see their reactions but don't expect a girlfriend from it.

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Seems like a limiting belief. My longest relationship (4 years) was off a random approach. And I have had short term relationships with other girls off random approaches.

 

[Iceberg]

Trying to get a girlfriend with random approaches is like skinning a cat with a spoon.

The reason I say this Is because she is getting approached several times a week. And The chance of anything happening with her is unlikely.

That would mean something if you approached one girl every two months. If she's getting approached several times a week and you're approaching several girls per week, then odds are, you'll eventually hit a home run. As they say...it's a numbers game.

Secondly they have a plethora of orbiters, so you would most likely get shoved into this category.

How? You meet a girl, you get her number, you text her to arrange a date...then she says "yes" or "no." You're only an orbiter if you allow yourself to be.

Thirdly she most likely has a guy shes already interested in so you have to deal with that.

You could use this argument to prevent yourself from asking ANY girl out.

And lastly She will most likely want to be with a guy from her work, college, school and social circle.

True. There's a comfort factor with knowing someone from work, college, and social circle....but if the guys in those environments suck, then she can't help herself but go for the guy doing the random approach.

Overall, it seems like your theories in this thread could be said about a girl you're meeting in any environment. Random approach or otherwise.

 

[JoeMarron]

Are you speaking from experience and or research or are you just throwing opinions around?

 

[cof33]

IF your game is on point all that is irrelevant

 

[Mr Wright]

Cold approach gets harder the uglier you are, there is a fact but you can make it work for you. If you go in and you're an attractive guy, she will remember that dark stranger who blew her away.

 

[switch]

Trying to get a girlfriend with random approaches is like skinning a cat with a spoon.

get off yar lazy arse and get a life :trouble:

 

[PlayHer Man]

I've had great success with random approaches.

Your problem probably stems from you attitude. If you BELIEVE you will fail that gets carried into your energy and vibe during the approach. The woman will smell your insecurity and get turned off.

They say "attitudes are contagious". If you're having fun during the approach.. that positive energy and warmth will stimulate HER as well. A big part of "game" is your ability to make a woman feel good in your presence. After an approach the woman should feel like she "got lucky". Like how you feel when you find $20 in the street.

- Fun
- Positive energy
- Excitement
- Stimulation
- Arousal

Those are your goals.

Another thing that helps me is I don't give a sh!t about getting a girlfriend. I just enjoy myself. Flirting with hot women is FUN even if you don't get anything out of it.

 

[TheException]

The reason I say this Is because she is getting approached several times a week. And The chance of anything happening with her is unlikely.

Agree with above posters...this is such a limiting belief. Its not even true...

Sure...shes getting approached a lot. 90% is by chodes/beta chumps and nothing ever materializes. We are alphas/Don Juans and we are not in that 90%. We actually enjoy talking to women and they love when cool guys like us approach them. Even if your not there yet....have this mindset.

Secondly they have a plethora of orbiters, so you would most likely get shoved into this category.

Irrelevant. You get put into the orbiter category if you DESERVE to be put there.

Thirdly she most likely has a guy shes already interested in so you have to deal with that.

Classic "what if" question. Wasted energy. Who cares? Id laugh at a girl if she chose another guy over me.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Not sure if you guys are naively optimistic or Ive just become pessimistic :/

I also kinda feel whats the point because im just gonna end up with a slut.

 

[TenOfSpades]

You are deff pessimistic. I do not think I have ever seen a girl get cold approached while in public other then a bar. If they do I am sure its just some dude giving a compliment. They probably never attempt to even close.

 

[Smok1nAce]

The simple answer to this is, if you dont do random approaches you wont have a girl.

 

[switch]

sam the VIRGIN

till i see a field report i'm gonna keep writing that on every goddamn thread started by you.

 

[VladPatton]

There are too many testimonials on this board that declare success with a random approach. Just talk, forget about outcome, and never say never. There are so many pretty girls that are dying for an approach because most guys have a "she's outta my league attitude".

You never know.

 

[youngmack]

sam the VIRGIN

till i see a field report i'm gonna keep writing that on every goddamn thread started by you.

Lmaooooo

 

[Jitterbug]

Good. I'm only trying to get laid from random approaches, not a girlfriend.

I can't think of any girl I've been with - relationship or fling - that wasn't a random approach. I suck. Should've done it the Hobbit way.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Let's just have the site owner and mods implement an EXCUSES forum. Then half the stuff on the main discussion forum would go away.

Anytime you are not seeing success in a particular avenue with women, instead of being negative about it, you should realize that there is a new skill you need to learn.

How about you post some field reports from your cold approaches, good, bad somewhere in between and we can give you constructive feedback on what your doing well and where you need to improve.

Remember the only one stopping yourself from success is YOU.









PIMP

 

[the_stig]

Those could apply to any girl no matter how you meet her.

Contrary to what most on this board think, most girls aren't approached 1000 times a day like we're lead on to believe, nor do they have a queue of rich, handsome men at their beck and call.

 

[playa99]

The girl im seeing now came from striking up a conversation in the pub....

You can only look at yourself and what your doing, fvck what else goes on!

 

[Kailex]

Sam, I wish you the best of luck in this endeavor. I really hope your line of thought spreads like wildfire, because if every guy thought just like you and stopped random approaching because of it... it'd just increase my rate of success much, much higher.

So, thank you.