Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why you probably shouldn't date lukewarm girls

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How do you spot it so quickly?
Pay attention to her greet and nonverbal queues and then ask yourself a series of questions.

1. Was she late? (Bonus points if she was early.)
2. Is she dressed like it's a date or like she just got done with a Netflix marathon?
3. Does she check her phone even once in the first 10 minutes?
4. Is she smiling and making eye contact?
5. Is she pretty open about doing what you want to do assuming you didn't plan everything ahead?

If she's negative on any of these, it's usually a bad sign. And some will be flat out disrespectful by going on facebook or even taking a call very quickly, or complaining about something.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pay attention to her greet and nonverbal queues and then ask yourself a series of questions.

1. Was she late? (Bonus points if she was early.)
2. Is she dressed like it's a date or like she just got done with a Netflix marathon?
3. Does she check her phone even once in the first 10 minutes?
4. Is she smiling and making eye contact?
5. Is she pretty open about doing what you want to do assuming you didn't plan everything ahead?

If she's negative on any of these, it's usually a bad sign. And some will be flat out disrespectful by going on facebook or even taking a call very quickly, or complaining about something.
Last date I had she complained about the sushi, should´ve known it wasnt going well by then :p
 

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Cold Approach is for desperate losers and it doesn't even work. Like someone said above it inflates female egos. Banging 3 girls out of 100 is failure.
 

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Cold Approach is for desperate losers and it doesn't even work. Like someone said above it inflates female egos. Banging 3 girls out of 100 is failure.
Same could be said about OLD.

I think the best way to approach a woman... because approach we must.. is the opportunistic approach; an opportunity presents itself and we pounce. A cold-approach machine is the opposite of this, he is out there in approach mode, almost stalker-like, and will fire off as many rounds as possible. The opportunist keeps his powder dry, and when the opportunity comes, the interaction tends to have a life of its own... there is nothing forced about it. It's natural as opposed to artificial.

I think the opportunist is counter-balancing the quantity of approaches with the quality of approaches; there will be less approaches, but more of them will go somewhere. I think this is more psychologically healthy for all parties concerned, not to mention the future general well-being of society.
 
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Cold Approach is for desperate losers and it doesn't even work. Like someone said above it inflates female egos. Banging 3 girls out of 100 is failure.
I tend to agree. But there are dozens of guys on this forum who swear by it, and think that by banging 10 average looking girls a year they're a pimp. What they don't tell you is they had to approach 3,000 women to get those bangs, and they got embarrassed 2,990 times. I've had a fair amount of sex in my life, but not with very many partners. Because I am not rummaging around neighborhoods distracting hoes from their iPhone with some canned lines. I also agree that it doesn't work the vast majority of the time. It's just that men have a propensity to lie exponentially about their success with women.

I still have a friend who talks about "sarging" with one of his boys on the weekend. I loved reading The Game the very first time back in the day, but all that sounds utterly stupid now - mostly because women are onto it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That woman, like most women, is a complete piece of trash person the world would be better without.

-Lead a guy on
-Treat him like sh!t
-Ignore him

The holy trinity of 100% CVNT status.
Men need to understand that this is all by design.

Women do not WANT men to be happy. They do not want you to have peace. Reason being.. happy men are hard to control and hard to manipulate. A happy person has no reason to change their behavior or accommodate someone else terms. When you are happy you stay put. Unhappy people can be molded because they are chasing something. This gives women the advantage. Which is why women cause drama in the first place. Politicians tap into the same psychology to get elected.

Women don’t want you to relax. They know if a man is getting too happy and relaxed it means she is losing control of him. She needs to cause drama and misery to keep you in line because this is where she has the advantage. She wants you to have bad days and jump through hoops to keep her. Women rule the emotional world. When there is no emotion, women have no power and they know it.
 

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Pay attention to her greet and nonverbal queues and then ask yourself a series of questions.

1. Was she late? (Bonus points if she was early.)
2. Is she dressed like it's a date or like she just got done with a Netflix marathon?
3. Does she check her phone even once in the first 10 minutes?
4. Is she smiling and making eye contact?
5. Is she pretty open about doing what you want to do assuming you didn't plan everything ahead?

If she's negative on any of these, it's usually a bad sign. And some will be flat out disrespectful by going on facebook or even taking a call very quickly, or complaining about something.
Good list.

However, being late does not really apply. A lot of women are late to not look "desperate". Women always want to create the appearance of being "busy" and in high demand. They do this to give the man a stronger sense of urgency so that he will pedestalize her and compete with invisible men to win her. Women go out of their way to keep the "scarcity" myth strong in men's minds. This gives them the advantage.

Spinning plates is one of the easiest things in the world to do. Yet, most men don't do it. I can get into the reasons why, but that's for another post.
 
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Good list.

However, being late does not really apply. A lot of women are late to not look "desperate". Women always want to create the appearance of being "busy" and in high demand. They do this to give the man a stronger sense of urgency so that he will pedestalize her and compete with invisible men to win her. Women go out of their way to keep the "scarcity" myth strong in men's minds. This gives them the advantage.

Spinning plates is one of the easiest things in the world to do. Yet, most men don't do it. I can get into the reasons why, but that's for another post.
I agree, but if a girl is EARLY for you, it's usually a huge green light. If a girl is 10 minutes early AND dressed up, you've got a 10-0 lead in the 1st inning & it's your game to lose.
 

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Good list.

However, being late does not really apply. A lot of women are late to not look "desperate". Women always want to create the appearance of being "busy" and in high demand. They do this to give the man a stronger sense of urgency so that he will pedestalize her and compete with invisible men to win her. Women go out of their way to keep the "scarcity" myth strong in men's minds. This gives them the advantage.

Spinning plates is one of the easiest things in the world to do. Yet, most men don't do it. I can get into the reasons why, but that's for another post.
Great insight! Most men don't spin plates because they can't. If you don't have at least 2 chicks you're routinely banging, you're not spinning plates.

You gotta give the illusion you're in high demand and she's got competition.
 
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