Why would a woman take days to respond to my messages and calls?

[Suityourself]

there is this woman about 30 that i really like and have known for about 5 years
we've never met in person but we met in a chat room
ive always had a crush on her but she and i kind of got serious last year
talking about meeting, spending hours on the phone/skype
but then a couple months we agreed a time to talk on the phone but she didnt answer
i called twice then the next day i asked her and she gave me an excuse
i told her that she could have at least spent 20 seconds to tell me that she was busy or to counteroffer another time

anyway she disappeared for 2-3 week i started to move on
she didnt directly say it but i could tell the way she acted that she tought our plans were still on and she someone picked a petty argument with me
so that lasted a week of her and i at each other i quit and walked away
but a mutual friend got us to talkign again so things started going good again over 2-3 months

but it got to where i would message her and sometimes she'd take 2-3 days to reply
we talked on the phone once but made some other 'dates' but the times were off and several times we couldnt catch each other


the question:
why would she take 2-3 days to respond i thought playing hard to get
i mean even after a couple days she would write long and in depth messages and even ask me questions

last week i asked her if she had plans for the weekend no reply.. didnt see her all weekend thought the monday she would answer.. nope so i waited nearly a week without messaging her then said something like 'ohh i see you're ignoring me.. how are you doing?'

she wrote back "ohhh hey.. i'm fine im following somethign in the news..."

then a few days later i tried calling, no answer so i text her to tell her that i just wanted to hear her voice and to ask her about a friend of ours that is sick.. no call back or text back!


The real question: why might she do this
i would get it if she told me to die and fall off the face of the planet but just to ignore me
i feel like im doing somethign wrong here.
and i dont plan to text or call her until she at least says hi to me
what should i do?????

 

[Johnnyventana]

A better question might be what kind of guy would chase a chick like this? One he's never even met, even.

You figure that out, and your problem is solved.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Facepalm

 

[nismo-4]

*Gets off bench and throws gavel*

You haven't met this girl. And you're going through this? I'm ruling you an Omega male.

And she's just not that into you.

I'm sending you to Delusional Valley, California.

*Bailiff returns my gavel*

Case dismissed. Get out of my court.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

that i really like and have known for about 5 years
we've never met in person but we met in a chat room

WOW!

ive always had a crush on her but she and i kind of got serious last year
talking about meeting, spending hours on the phone/skype
but then a couple months we agreed a time to talk on the phone but she didn't answer

This is the first thing that came to mind when I read what you wrote above:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XGkyviEadQU

i called twice then the next day i asked her and she gave me an excuse i told her that she could have at least spent 20 seconds to tell me that she was busy or to counteroffer another time

What your failing to realize is that this woman whom you NEVER MET IN PERSON, owes you absolutely nothing! Women do not tell you straight up why they aren't interested, they let their actions do the talking. And at this point she is screaming to just let her be; but you keep doing the opposite and smothering her more and more.

anyway she disappeared for 2-3 week i started to move on
she didnt directly say it but i could tell the way she acted that she tought our plans were still on and she someone picked a petty argument with me
so that lasted a week of her and i at each other i quit and walked away

This is called being delusional; your mind is convincing you that she is interested when your gut knows she's not.

but a mutual friend got us to talkign again so things started going good again over 2-3 months

Actually the fact that you have no spine, obviously aren't meeting or pursuing other women in real life is what got you running back to her.... your desperate for a drop of attention from any female life form.

but it got to where i would message her and sometimes she'd take 2-3 days to reply

Ask yourself this question: "Why would I keep messaging a girl who often doesn't reply or takes many days to get back to me?"

we talked on the phone once but made some other 'dates' but the times were off and several times we couldnt catch each other

Actually you are always available like a good little puppy; SHE on the other hand is avoiding you like the plague.

the question:
why would she take 2-3 days to respond i thought playing hard to get
i mean even after a couple days she would write long and in depth messages and even ask me questions

LOL!!! Playing hard to get?! Really man?! That's what you think? She is NOT INTERESTED! A woman who plays hard to get will contact you, will invite you out, then play hot and cold; a woman who's not interested will do what this girl has been doing to you.

last week i asked her if she had plans for the weekend no reply.. didnt see her all weekend thought the monday she would answer.. nope so i waited nearly a week without messaging her then said something like 'ohh i see you're ignoring me.. how are you doing?'

So let me ask you a question again. If you were a father and your kid did something against the rules. Would you buy him a present and pat him on the shoulder while telling him "good job Timmy, keep phuckin' up and I'll keep buying you more stuff?!" Of course you wouldn't!

So why are you REWARDING her bad behavior with MORE ATTENTION??!

she wrote back "ohhh hey.. i'm fine im following somethign in the news..."

Let me translate that for you: "I'd rather watch something completely irrelevant on the news that text you back and since you can't take a hint, I'm going to start disrespecting you now."

then a few days later i tried calling, no answer so i text her to tell her that i just wanted to hear her voice and to ask her about a friend of ours that is sick.. no call back or text back!

Dude this is pathetic!! Grade A CHUMP STATUS! Read what you wrote and I bet you wouldn't even want to text yourself back!

The real question: why might she do this
i would get it if she told me to die and fall off the face of the planet but just to ignore me

Dude.... you are beyond clueless; harsh but its the truth. Women use ACTIONS to communicate what they feel. They aren't going to spell it out for you, although at this rate I can see this girl finally just telling you to piss off since you keep calling and texting!!! Get a spine bro!! PLEASE!

i feel like im doing somethign wrong here.
and i dont plan to text or call her until she at least says hi to me
what should i do?????

Thank you Captain Obvious!!! You feel like your doing something wrong since you've called this girl several times and she won't get back to you? Ground-breaking stuff!


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Look your obviously new to all this and I gave you some tough love. Not to embarrass you or make you upset. But to take the BLINDERS off your eyes and help you realize reality vs your little fantasy world.

Read the DJ Bible, start reading posts in the forum and then get out there and meet some women.

Btw you have a better chance of becoming a sex robot sent back in time, then getting anywhere with this dumb girl.









PIMP

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Simple answer. She is fvcking the next dude. That's why it is taking so long.

 

[nismo-4]

Simple answer. She is fvcking the next dude. That's why it is taking so long.

More specifically, Judge nismo has her in chambers cleaning my gavel while she wears my robe! :crackup:

The princess is in my castle! :crackup: