"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why would a girl do this?

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I have a couple of posts on this forum about my girlfriend/EX, and this thread has gotten me thinkin, she went from wantin to move in wiv me and marrying me and havin kids, to just basically not wanting to see me, but when she does see me she cant leave me alone, like kissin me, cuddlin me tellin me she loves me, she miss's me etc. but im not used to chasing a girl, so it has become my obbsession to gettin this girl to tell me what is goin on, everytime i dont contact her for couple of days she rings me up, askin what ive been up to, would i want to get back together bla bla, just didnt think girls played games like this. (im a bit naive)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She WAS into you, but you refused to man up and ask her out. Did you not like her? Were you too afraid? Does it matter?

Not really. She's done and she doesn't want to fall for you all over again and waste any more of her time thinking about you. So she shuts you down at every opportunity.

Learn the lesson for the next one.
 
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So far I'm getting the drift that she still does have feelings for me, but she is guarding her heart for various reasons.

Originally posted by squirrels
She WAS into you, but you refused to man up and ask her out. Did you not like her? Were you too afraid? Does it matter?
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I could get into why I didn't ask her out, but it is a long story and no, it doesn't really matter.

Originally posted by squirrels
She's done and she doesn't want to fall for you all over again and waste any more of her time thinking about you. So she shuts you down at every opportunity.
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This is probably the most frustrating thing that can happen. She likes me, I like her...but we can't be together it looks like. Even if the boyfriend was out of the picture...you're probably right she doesn't want to get involved with me again because she fears the same thing will happen a 2nd time(namely her giving signals and me being oblivious/turning her down). It would be different this time, I've grown a lot as a person since we first met but from her perspective how is she to know otherwise? Damn I hate this...
 
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