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Why wont this ch1ck stop contacting me?

MattS

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AW for sure. Knew this ch1ck for about a year, then we started dating. Only dated for a month or so. I was her connection to all my friends, now she is friends with my friends in town. I was just getting done with college when we dated. We broke up. We were living in the same town and still hung and talked everyday (about 98% of contact was initiated by her) after me going no contact on her for a week after we broke up.

She tried to LJBF I was like fvck no and told her that. I said no labels and we can hang she said ok. Obviously she didnt think congruently. I made sure I kept out of that the best I could. Would always flirt super heavy, kino, she slept over a couple of times etc. We hung a sh1t load still. We acted the same as when we were dating. Then we started fighting again etc. Then she started "hanging" with some other dude, AFC no doubt. I am far better than him hands down. So I said fvck it to her and let her know whats up got in an argument etc. Went no contact again for a week. About that time is when I moved back to the city which is about 45 mintues from her. She knows people down where I am at etc. I thought that was the last time we would ever talk.

A week goes then i get a random text from her, I was like wtf? I reply like 10 hours later and we ended up talking on the phone for a while. She was apologizing for disrepescting me with that dude and said sorry for yada yada. I told her Ill be back and forth to pick up sh1t from my house up there. She would call me on the days I said I would be up there. We would have some convos on the phone. (I didnt call her regardless if I was up there or didnt go up). She would always call with some excuse "hey i just found out blah blah oh are you up here?" this happened like 2 or 3 times.

I finally made it up there after 3 weeks of not seeing each other. She calls to see if im in town again. I said ya I pick her up then she starts saying all this sh1t about how I think im better than everyone and too c0cky. Goes on to say other sh1t. Im not blind to see that she feels I need to be brought down to her low self esteem level. Everything was unwarranted. I get her back later that night and text her sh1t to fire her up and she surely does. She was so p1ssed, would hang up and say "im done" then text like 2 minutes later etc. I called the next day cause I felt bad and apologized. She got p1ssed again. We got off the phone right befroe we got off she was like everything is fine between us Im like yea whatever. The weekened goes by I got a text on monday asking how I am doing. We talk for like 5 minutes on the phone (told her to call me cause didnt want to text.) on the phone she seems very aggitated with me saying sh1t. Im like ok.

Today I get another phone call from her. This time its about me not driving up to clean out my house. She leaves a message "he its attention wh0re i just got done cleaning your house yada yada yada call me back" In my head Im like whats it to her. Yea my roomates were probalby b1tching and she was like yea he always calls me back so ill try. Havent called her back cause I dont wanna hear her b1tching.

But the whole point is this ch1ck has initiated with me like 98% of the time. We started dating in may and now its august so I have initiated like 4 times between now and then she was the rest. She is using the AFC for comfort she aint going to get serious with him just waiting till somethign comes along. But I live like 45 mintues from her and she gets so p1ssed and I get under her skin so badly according to her. Then why the fvck does she keep contacting me. She says youre my firend blah blah just laugh it off. I guess I should just stop answering cause nothing good comes from her mouth. Just dont know why she contacts me like twice a week.
 

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Pimp-sicle

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Its funny that you ask why she keeps contacting you. I think a better question is why are you responding to her calls & texts? :rolleyes:

You can call the other guy a chump, an AFC, whatever, but the simple fact is your not completely over this chick because if you were, you wouldn't call her back or contact her in any way. You would ignore her and go on with your day.

Don't enable the attention w-hore, then wonder why she "won't leave you alone."



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MattS

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Well she called yesterday and it was the first time I never returned her call in the same day. I have yet to do so. I might call next week but probably not shell probably send some text or call but if she doesnt oh well. I think shes just looking for drama cause AFC is being a doormat and not standing up to her.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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