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why won't she quit me?

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I wasn't expecting this.

About 10 months ago this girl sorta fvcked me over. We weren't a couple or anything like that, just had this back and forth thing for a couple years. She told me she just wanted to be friends a few days after the one time we had sex, I said no, she said she wanted to talk about it. A month of me trying to put some distance between us, and her always being the one to contact me, later, I find out she's fvkcing one of my friends. Still trying to string me along the entire time, mind you. She even got jealous whenever she saw me talking to other girls, even while she was texting my "friend". She wasn't exactly keeping it a secret, especially towards the end, but she never came out and said it. So I cut her, and him, and his circle of friends off completely after things became glaringly obvious. Actually all I did was delete them off myspace. The horror!

A flurry of increasingly revealing e-mails later, and she gave up on contacting me. Actually, I had to block her. I only saw her once in the time between then. I saw her at a bar, and I quickly left.

I deleted my old myspace thing a bit after all this, but started a new one recently. Mostly to talk to some friends who've moved away. Yesterday morning I received a invite from her to be friends. A few hours later she sent me an e-mail. Pretty simple. Just asking me how I've been, saying we should forgive and forget (I guess I did do a couple of fvked up things to her along the way, like making sexytime with one of her friends after one of her "let's just be friends" speeches a long time ago, then later telling the same friend all the smack she was talking as punishment for making out with some guy in front of me when she was drunk), that we shouldn't be "enemies", and saying "i don't blame you if you aren't interested in another go around". Another go around at what?

To some extent I don't blame her completely for what she did. I was always acting needy around her. Always waiting for her to make a move. Childish headgames. Ect. I remember sometimes standing at her cardoor like a lost dog when she was trying to leave. No wonder she went elsewhere. What a fvkcing nut case I must have seemed. I know I wasn't right in the head during that whole time. I still don't think I deserve everything. All she would have had to do was tell me what was up instead of playing me for a fool.

Anyway, all I did in response was tell her I wanted to think things over. Honestly, I don't think it's healthy to go through life carrying on childish grudges, but I don't want her thinking I'm some pushover anymore either. I don't need her in my life. Life as been pretty much fine ever since. I don't know if she's doing this to feel better about herself, like maybe she feels guilty, or if she just needs an egoboost. Why couldn't she just leave me alone?
 

wolf116

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The real question is why you can't leave the hor alone
 

penkitten

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because she doesnt want to.
if you dont want to deal with this anymore, you have to speak up and state your intentions very clear.
 

Dntueva

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Just tell her the truth if you want to see her then tell her if you don't then tell her. But if you say NO then stick to it cause she will think well if I'm bored or lonely he will come a running, just like he always does.
 

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You wouldn't be holding a grudge by not talking to her. It's not as if she's family or a super close friend.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

KontrollerX

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This chick isn't relationship material dude.

Sure your head may of not been together back during the time you knew her but I sense her head was never together.

I guess though if you like try dotcomwill's plan and see if you can get a fvck buddy relationship going with her.

Just know that it could backfire with this chick and she could cut you off if you try to get with her as maybe by contacting you she's just looking for validation and an ego boost with getting you to talk to her again rather than really trying to apologize for what she's done in the past.
 

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Nobody cares, but I did re-establish some sort of contact with her.

Just let her know some of the general things going on in my life, and she told me hers. She seems so boring now. "I might move out soon." Woop-dee-goddamn-dee-doo! It's about time.

I asked her why she decided to contact me now, and she went on about how she "owes it" to herself because we shared some good times together, or some rubbish. Just wanted to know how I was.

I ended up telling her that despite my decision to allow this, I think there's too much damage done to go beyond simply being "e-friends". I mean, I didn't shut any books, but at the same time I didn't reopen any either. If she takes the initiative and tries to take things further, and behaves herself, I might reconsider, but I'm not going to get on my knees or invest any emotions in it. It's no loss if I never hear from her again.
 
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