Why wont Girls look at me...

[ssj245]

Well I think I look fairly decent. A 6 or 7. But even ugs wont look at me or give me any EC. I've changed my looks, I wear nice clothes from places like express or club monaco. My hair is nice, I have no facial acne, and I dont wear any glasess. I try to keep my body language proper. I keep my back up and my chest out. I even feel more confident, so I know Im doing it right.

But I have a friend whom almost all the girls look at regardless whom they may be. He told me that he has a look of mystery. Well thats great but how does one develop a look of mystery unless you have a myserious face? --- he does look better than me.

I think I can narrow it down to the look in my eye's, my face is never bright rather I have a blank look or lost look on my face. And my eye's arent wide and open, there sort of low, there not shining.

Could this be the problem?

Or could it be the way I walk or could people sense the tension in my body or the uneasiness. I try to make smooth movements, as slow and controlled as possible. But still no luck.

 

[reyalp]

Your body language does a lot more than you probably would ever think.


I decided to test out polarities in body language last time I was on Bourbon St.

I walked from the street I came in on to the other end of Bourbon St, like I was looking for a bathroom. In fact, I really was. So I just hurried myself up and walked a little fast. I'm a people-watcher so I monitored how people responded to me. I didn't smile, I didn't stare, I didn't do anything. And you know what? 1 girl made EC with me, and she just looked straight ahead again when she broke EC. Also, AMOGs were bumping into me (I don't get out of their way) and groups of people didn't even try to make room for me.

So when I reach the bathroom at the other end of Bourbon St, I decide "OK phase 1 is over, now for phase 2"

So I deliberately slowed everything down. I stood up straight like I'd just got laid. I imagined myself as a lion stalking its prey. Everything was kind of slow and deliberate. I didn't move suddenly, even if something noisy happened next to me. I walked the street again.

This time was as different as night and day. I would walk straight into the path of a group of alpha jocks and they would go completely out of their way not to bump into me. Women were constantly making EC and looking straight down. I caught up to a 3pk of 8s walking together (stumbling together is more like it), and they were hooting and hollering like a bunch of drunk hillbillies. I slowly turned and looked their way, gave them a grin for just a second, and did the UT "Hook-em" Horns. The one in the middle started laughing and said "See, this guy gets it"
Then they stopped and one of them grabbed me by the jacket and pulled me closer and said "Hey are you here by yourself"
Me: "well not any more"
Her: "Because you are totally cute"
Me: "well now you're just braggin"
and then she grabbed my jacket, pulled me in and kissed me.
OMG she smelled like alcohol so bad (i hadn't had a drop) that it made me sick.

so i knew i didn't want any part in it. i said "well y'all have fun" and started walking again. well they were right behind me giggling the whole time. i finally went into a blues bar and sat down, ordered a beer. i figured maybe if i got enough alky in me i wouldn't mind putting my tongue down that brunette's throat. i finished my beer and came back outside, the trio was nowhere to be found. oh well.

i kind of went off on a tangent there. haha

but the difference is NIGHT AND DAY man.

 

[silverfox]

Originally posted by reyalp


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So I deliberately slowed everything down. I stood up straight like I'd just got laid. I imagined myself as a lion stalking its prey.
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Hey that sounds like a great mental exercise for boot camp - just walk around with different mindsets like that and see what happens.

 

[Keeper]

Cool post, reyalp. You've made good points.

 

[reyalp]

thanks for the comments. i don't usually experiment with mindsets though.

except, when i get drunk out at a club or bar, i start thinking "I can please a woman better than any man here, this is great" and I get this sh1t-eating grin on my face.
For some reason I seem to get approached more when I get to that point, too. The rest of the evening usually takes care of itself.

i don't know much about DJ yet. i'm just one of those idiots that just blindly tromps around, and whatever he's doing is working pretty well, but he doesn't know WHY it works or how to improve it. that's what i'm studying DJ for, is to improve and analyze what i've got

 

[silverfox]

Maybe not but it struck a note with me.

I was recalling a time I went and stayed over with a friend and his gf's cute friend was there too and I ended up hooking with her.

The next day I was travelling home and out of the blue got into a conversation with an even cuter girl (that never happened to me.) We chatted for ages and if I had known about all the DJ stuff I might have got a number. In hindsight I wonder if girls can sense that you are active in the community (haha) and if some other girl wants you they wonder what they are missing out on.

So perhaps putting yourself in the frame of mind that you just spent the night showing the woman of your dreams the time of her life will help you catch the gazes and glances of other women.

Fake it til you make it. Whatever, I dunno.

 

[reyalp]

Well, getting sex seems to incur getting more sex. At least that's what I've found.
Like the old saying: When it rains, it pours.

Thinking back on the past few weeks, I do get asked "Why are you in such a good mood today?" quite a bit.

 

[Ace of Flames]

smile more. simple, but true. smile for no reason. just walk down the hall smiling while u look at the girls. not like an idiot, but just a nice smile like u have after u laugh a lot, and its kinda fading away.

also, u could be a good looking guy, but if your reputation isnt good, then people wont talk to u. have a brighter personality. make people laugh. they'll WANT to be around u. and when u can hardly walk down the hall without saying "hey!" to a bud, or getting a big smile and a quick hug from a girl u flirt with, u'll know u've done well.

 

[Hunterchilla]

yeah, if u have a blank or depressed look about your face people naturally just wont look at you, but if you are actually happy, and u look happy, or look like ur having a good time doing whatever " walking down the street " people will subconsciounsly see this and look at you.

Im really good looking so people look at me no matter what, but still im always smiing and i think this helps.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Originally posted by reyalp
thanks for the comments. i don't usually experiment with mindsets though.

except, when i get drunk out at a club or bar, i start thinking "I can please a woman better than any man here, this is great" and I get this sh1t-eating grin on my face.
For some reason I seem to get approached more when I get to that point, too. The rest of the evening usually takes care of itself.

i don't know much about DJ yet. i'm just one of those idiots that just blindly tromps around, and whatever he's doing is working pretty well, but he doesn't know WHY it works or how to improve it. that's what i'm studying DJ for, is to improve and analyze what i've got

LMFAO, man, you are going on my buddy list, that is amazing. You are a prime example of a younger me...

Theories, like the KBJ's, routines, techniques, FR, LR, KC, experiment with all the methods out there dude. You know what works, and you don't know why... get drunk, and adopt the mindsets, you will get scared.

At work I've got a link to a post over at mASF, that would probably work right into your brain... The guys name was "captain popular" he posts on this site as well.

Check it...

 

[reyalp]

I'll have to check that out.

A girl told me last week that I was a "natural flirt" and that she didn't want to sleep with me because she was sure that I "got around."

Yesterday, I was called "fun horny." I asked her what that meant and she said "Well you're not like 'man i gotta get laid,' you're just fun horny."

She was griping about a guy friend of hers that was being mean to her, I told her "forget him, i'm here right now and i'm not cranky. and if you're nice i might even lick you." she said "is that a promise?"
i should have licked her right then but i just said "yeah, but you have to play nice"
it ended well though.

and man are my abs and back sore today, i've been limping around all day. she wore me out, man.

she called me today when i was driving around, i answered without looking at it. i asked her "so what's new, girl" she said "well i think you broke my vagina! i've been sore all day!"

i was laughing so hard i almost ran off the road. lol

 

[ssj245]

hmm...

So quickly speaking, what should I be doing?

Can you sumeraize all the changes that need to be made.

Also, what if I feel fake doing all of it? Then it doesnt feel right at all.