"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJnoob

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We'd be talking and all the sudden, she would check her phone and say "oh, no new messages".. WTF?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJHoolahoop

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then piss her off and say something like "yeah, that sounds about right" and then she could get offended by that saying like how dare you or how would you know or what gives you the right to say that... or like whatever she comes up with, then just be like well, i'm only really re-saying what you just told me.
 

biker_gixxer

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She's testing you... I would pick up my phone and say to her, let me know when you're done and start dialing a number. It doesn't matter if it's a close friend you're calling or whatever, the key is not to freak and play in to her 'games'. When she see's that you are not bothered by it, she'll stop doing it OR test you even more with some other non-sense...

Either way, ALWAYS play it cool, nothing she can do bothers you...Right?
 

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She is trying to let you know that she is not that interested in the convo, or you for that matter. You may be boring her. It is a hint that a message may be more important than what you have to say...
 

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She is trying to let you know that she is not that interested in the convo, or you for that matter. You may be boring her. It is a hint that a message may be more important than what you have to say...
Bullshlt!!!

...wait.. no I actually have to agree with you on this one.

I don't think this was a test. Think about it. Girls and Guys are not so unalike that they have 180 degree different behaviours to _everything_. In fact we act quite similar when we are expressing that we are bored. We act quite similar in more ways than people care to realize! I find people hiding behind the exucse of "women are crazy" instead of seeing the forest through the tress...usually due to attachment to expectations. But anyway I digress....

If a girl is going to test your patience or how easily you're put off balance by something annoying...she's going to do something a LOT bigger than look for messages on her cell phone during a conversation.

She's going to hide your wallet on you before you go to work to see how easily you get frustrated or upset with her in a tense situation...or something to that degree.

You'd be surprised how infrequest women REALLY conciously test you and how the pop-culture idea of "testing" actually gets in the way of the reality that's staring you right in the face. People like to call most of womans "**** behaviour" testing because it gives you an easy finger to point and an immidiate way to react to a situation, but not always the best way.

Real tests usually only come after a girl decides she likes you and is thinking about being with you to some degree, and are they REALLY OBVIOUS, because they will be things that she does that are far out of context from her usual behaviour.

If a girl is checking her cell while you're having a conversation it's probably because you're not being interesting.

DJHoolahoops suggestion may have worked since it would have added some emotion to the situation = more interesting. It would have thrown her out of her bored state fairly qucikly and given you the opportunity to build from base level again.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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