:moon: For those of you who refuse to capitulate to the reality. The old fantasy that there is a perfect match for you somewhere out there is not really realistic. Finding your soul mate is an ancient fairy tale that the media has hyped up throughout the years. We’ve all heard the story of someone’s parents that have been married for 100 years and how they still hold hands, etc. They lived in a different generation and the rules of dating and people in general have changed dramatically.
A lady who holds fast to tradition and old fashion values can expect a long and sometimes un-fufilled love life. Women tend to convince themselves that NOT SETTLING is the correct way to go through life. Now I am NOT, I repeat NOT telling you to settle for any CHIC that takes interest in you. I am just telling you that while you are on this journey of finding the one you may realize that a few decades have past. As you creep up on your mid 30’s , as much as I hate to tell you this but………..the odds of you ever finding true love are very slim. People who focus on their careers and get the house/new car without taking time out to date trade off their romantic life. Many women today focus on their careers and rarely date. When they are satisfied with their material goals, they start to look for a man. There lies the problem-because you have rarely dated your dating skills are almost non-existant. Being too picky becomes a way of life for you and you may find that NO MAN will ever completely measure up to the standards you set for yourself. How can you expect to find your soul-mate when you have very little dating experience.
DATING is a way of finding out how compatible you are with someone. Professional women often come across as serious and direct, THIS IS NOT CONFIDENCE and very few men will see it that way. Dating is supposed to be fun, light hearted NOT an interview or screening process for your future mate. YES you have a great deal to offer a man and yes you expect that in return. But you need to practice your flirting, practice being silly, practice interacting with the opposite sex in a romantic way. Dating a few different men will give you those skills. When you have some dating experience then you can make an objective decision about what you need and want. WITHOUT RECENT DATING EXPERIENCE YOU MIGHT NEVER FIND YOUR SOUL MATE. REALITY- you meet some interesting men, get some free dinners or drinks and you find out whats out there and most importantly you start gaining the experience.
Mr. Right Now could be just what you need to have some fun and learn “stuff ” on your journey to finding that guy you might want to grow old with. Its great to be professional ladies and we men applaud your accomplishments ( buying your own house, new car, your annual salary) but when it comes to dating keep in mind IT’S A SOCIAL EVENT. Have some fun and date a little before getting focused. Look beyond the surface and date outside the box and you may be rewarded. Those of you that have tried internet dating or speed dating to no avail need to realize that its not that there are no good men left, its that you need to relax a little and have some fun. REFUSE TO DO THIS and you will REMAIN SINGLE. There is nothing more pathetic then being 40 and still single. I know right now there are women reading this thinking “well all my friends are getting a divorce”, etc. That’s them and there was a time when they did get married and it was all good. Staying married is another skill and another book. That cliché’ token response is your crutch. If you dwell on the negative you will never find the one.
Marriage is a wonderful event in one’s life. Hiding from commitment, or holding out for the soul-mate DOES NOT EXEMPT YOU FROM GETTING DIVORCED. Love is all around us, but it takes time and comes from being in a committed relationship. It all begins with a first date. In the meantime, don’t take it so seriously, date, have fun and sharpen your dating skills……trust me you will thank me later on. One last tip-lose the preconception rules of dating. Everyone has flaws and no two people are alike, so give a guy a few dates before you rule him out.
A lady who holds fast to tradition and old fashion values can expect a long and sometimes un-fufilled love life. Women tend to convince themselves that NOT SETTLING is the correct way to go through life. Now I am NOT, I repeat NOT telling you to settle for any CHIC that takes interest in you. I am just telling you that while you are on this journey of finding the one you may realize that a few decades have past. As you creep up on your mid 30’s , as much as I hate to tell you this but………..the odds of you ever finding true love are very slim. People who focus on their careers and get the house/new car without taking time out to date trade off their romantic life. Many women today focus on their careers and rarely date. When they are satisfied with their material goals, they start to look for a man. There lies the problem-because you have rarely dated your dating skills are almost non-existant. Being too picky becomes a way of life for you and you may find that NO MAN will ever completely measure up to the standards you set for yourself. How can you expect to find your soul-mate when you have very little dating experience.
DATING is a way of finding out how compatible you are with someone. Professional women often come across as serious and direct, THIS IS NOT CONFIDENCE and very few men will see it that way. Dating is supposed to be fun, light hearted NOT an interview or screening process for your future mate. YES you have a great deal to offer a man and yes you expect that in return. But you need to practice your flirting, practice being silly, practice interacting with the opposite sex in a romantic way. Dating a few different men will give you those skills. When you have some dating experience then you can make an objective decision about what you need and want. WITHOUT RECENT DATING EXPERIENCE YOU MIGHT NEVER FIND YOUR SOUL MATE. REALITY- you meet some interesting men, get some free dinners or drinks and you find out whats out there and most importantly you start gaining the experience.
Mr. Right Now could be just what you need to have some fun and learn “stuff ” on your journey to finding that guy you might want to grow old with. Its great to be professional ladies and we men applaud your accomplishments ( buying your own house, new car, your annual salary) but when it comes to dating keep in mind IT’S A SOCIAL EVENT. Have some fun and date a little before getting focused. Look beyond the surface and date outside the box and you may be rewarded. Those of you that have tried internet dating or speed dating to no avail need to realize that its not that there are no good men left, its that you need to relax a little and have some fun. REFUSE TO DO THIS and you will REMAIN SINGLE. There is nothing more pathetic then being 40 and still single. I know right now there are women reading this thinking “well all my friends are getting a divorce”, etc. That’s them and there was a time when they did get married and it was all good. Staying married is another skill and another book. That cliché’ token response is your crutch. If you dwell on the negative you will never find the one.
Marriage is a wonderful event in one’s life. Hiding from commitment, or holding out for the soul-mate DOES NOT EXEMPT YOU FROM GETTING DIVORCED. Love is all around us, but it takes time and comes from being in a committed relationship. It all begins with a first date. In the meantime, don’t take it so seriously, date, have fun and sharpen your dating skills……trust me you will thank me later on. One last tip-lose the preconception rules of dating. Everyone has flaws and no two people are alike, so give a guy a few dates before you rule him out.