Why we don’t like girls which have one night stands for LTR material?

[pirron]

For me a girl having one night stands is a total *****! I’m not succeeding respecting this kind of girl at all. I know how I feel about it but I don’t know exactly why it is so. Intuitively it feels just terribly wrong for a girl to sleep with a guy she barely knows. I know a lot of guys feel the same way. Can you explain me your reasoning?

Let’s put it this way: would you accept this part of your girlfriends past if you think about her in terms of future wife and/or mother of your children?

 

[reasonpolice]

Past civilizations, cultures, and religions have established that a woman's body is a temple. In almost EVERY culture, virgin women are considered to be "pure,"
and as for the men, who cares? In most African cultures, when a woman comes of age she is chosen a "husband," but there are tests to see if she is a virgin or not, and if she is not, they exile her and mark her so that other men know she is "dirty." And in Native American cultures and even most religions, if there is any human sacrifice to be done, a virgin women is always the highest offering because of her "purity."

To me, this is all complete bullsh*t. But most men think that way because men have pretty much always thought that way. In my case, I don't see a women's past as a barrier to an LTR, seeing as how if you're DJing correctly you'll be breaking her bed instead of talking about her past. Concentrate on who the girl is as a person in the present then decide if you like her. Later in the relationship when you're more connected she MIGHT be willing to talk about it with you, but don't get your hopes up for that one. And honestly, at that point, I don't think you'd care anyway.

 

[Proselytiser]

You have a long way to go son. Read the DJ Bible for starters. And lurk for a bit longer

 

[DonGorgon]

For me a girl having one night stands is a total *****! I’m not succeeding respecting this kind of girl at all. I know how I feel about it but I don’t know exactly why it is so. Intuitively it feels just terribly wrong for a girl to sleep with a guy she barely knows. I know a lot of guys feel the same way. Can you explain me your reasoning?

Let’s put it this way: would you accept this part of your girlfriends past if you think about her in terms of future wife and/or mother of your children?

You need to accept human nature. HUmans are animals with large brains. Humans are not monogamous by nature. Random sex partners is a natural part of human sexual experience..

"One man's ho is another man's housewife" - DonGorgon

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

For me a girl having one night stands is a total *****! I’m not succeeding respecting this kind of girl at all. I know how I feel about it but I don’t know exactly why it is so. Intuitively it feels just terribly wrong for a girl to sleep with a guy she barely knows. I know a lot of guys feel the same way. Can you explain me your reasoning?

Let’s put it this way: would you accept this part of your girlfriends past if you think about her in terms of future wife and/or mother of your children?

Judge not lest ye be judged yourself.

Seriously. And, yes, any adult woman you like has had at least one one night stand. Get over it or become a monk.

Don't ever get in conversations about you or your GF/Wife's sexual history in any way. Treat her like she was a virgin until the day you got her and she'll be very happy with you. Related: You can do all sorts of great sexual things with her that make it obvious you've had quite your share of women in your life....as long as you refuse to discuss it in any way she won't care, she'll just imagine in her head that you're a natural or something else positive and then stop thinking about it.

 

[PappyS]

If HB's have one night stands with me then, for some reason, I don't see anything wrong with it. If they have one-night stands with other men instead of me then it is horrible and immoral.

 

[zekko]

The problem is that if a woman is too loose with her body, she will most likely cheat on you at the first opportunity if you try to make her a LTR. I think that's really all there is to it.

If a girl has had a one night stand or two, I don't hold it against her. But if she's out every weekend finding a different guy to screw she's setting a pattern that doesn't speak well of her. Also the more guys she's had the greater the chance of catching some sort of STD from her.

For the guys who are only interested in pump and dump, these "loose" women are the prime targets. If a guy wants the F close the same night he meets her he's not generally looking for a woman of character.