"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why was my thread deleted??
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Just make sure this thread doesn't get deleted toospeakeasy said:
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Thats why it was deleted.
So yeah you are not being persecuted these were just long standing rules here though it is fun to see if we can get in a discussion about it from time to time before a mod deletes it.
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Here you go, take it here. It's not that we have anything against religion in particular, it's just not the focus of this forum.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Fine, but it's not like I posted it in the dating tips forum either. Kinda sucks because there were some interesting things people were saying in response. I also recently had my thread on The Pickup Artist show shut down because it mentioned race, even though the discussion was completely civil and interesting and totally relevent to the world of pickup, like how to game black chics versus other chics. I just think the censoring is getting a little too heavy handed.Rollo Tomassi said:
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