"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why this chick acting weird?

manofladies

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I'm taking a summer class at a local community college. Met one woman who is cool. She's older. Sat in class the first day and she smiled at me about twice. I didn't see a wedding ring or anything. So I don't know if she was taken. After class, I asked for her number so me and some other students can work together on our work. Their was no class today from a tornado warning and so she texted me "just to let you know class has been canceled." So I texted her back thanks and blah we went back and forth texting just a bit.I told her I was busy training clients all day. I'm a PT for my job.She asked how my day was. She texted me first. I said if you would like to come to the gym, I could get you in for free. She got excited. I'm looking for new clients also. The thing is she wants the gym to be in the county she lives in. specifically. The gym thats not too far from where she lives in not in her county but its 15 mintues away from where she lives, but she said thats not close enough.

I am confused why is the gym location has to be in her county. I was thinking maybe she doesn't have a car or is it boyfriend/husband issue? For her example lets say she lives in dooring county. The gym location I work at its dumbler county. The gym is not in dooring county where she lives, but is just a 15 mintue drive to dumbler county. She actually texts me in a decent amount of time. Again, she texted me today first. I don't text her at all. Next time I'm just going to ask her out to maybe hangout. Thoughts??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If she had high interest then location would not matter..

Personally, sounds like shes just trying to use you for free membership. Maybe she knew beforehand somehow.

Try and reschedule something else like an actual date or "hang out" and judge her interest instead of offering her free stuff.
 

manofladies

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Good point. I didn't find a location anyway to my gym. i'm going to ask her in person Monday via after class if she wants to hangout. If not, I'll move on.
 

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Why are u offering her favors after a few text messages?

She obviously has some interest in you; smiling, initiating texts.

Game her, flirt and escalate.

The problem now is your over-analyzing based on outside semantics.

Drop the whole getting her into the gym card and start flirting and get her out 1 on 1.







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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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