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why the **** would she say this?

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ignore her.
BBBingo.

She wants you to keep seeming interested in her. Ignore her, and then she'll be thinking "WTF, I'm supposed to be having an effect on him! Why's he not caring anyomre?!?"

And then watch...as she starts following you around. :)
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to ingore her man WTF its simple.

-Say "hello" when you see her but if she tries talking to you say "hold that thought" and walk of dont come back for a while.

-Every time she trys to talk to you say "im busy" or "im watching tv".

-Dont hang around to much when shes there go somewere else cut down the times a week you see her.

-Bring other girls home and dont formaly introduce her.

And be more conrtoling of her. If now you say "come here please" take out the please say "come here". When you want her to sit say "sit" dont over do it.

Say "my shoulders hurt give me a massage"..............

Its simple when your around her control her and ignore her but at time show a softer/romantic side. Like be romantic with one of the girls you take home (she has to be there when you take the girl home). You could also say "im having a romantic dinner with a girl i know so can you please not be here on tuesday night" ect ect.

GoodLuck


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Ignoring her and trying to make her jealous is only going to cause more problems between you and her as roommates and ruin any chance you have with her.

She likes you (and it sounds like she's getting disgusted and about to give up) and it's bothering her everytime she sees you go out with someone else. She hasn't come right out and said that because she's afraid of being rejected and doesn't want to be used...especially if she views you as a "player".

This is going to play out one of two ways...and how it plays out depends entirely upon how you behave with her.

If you flaunt other girls in her face she will end up hating your guts and moving out...or making you miserable with her crankiness towards you.

If you spend more time with her and not talk about other girls or be overt about dating them you'll probably get somewhere with her.

A word of warning, though...if you don't want a relationship with her and to see her exclusively don't even bother because it will end in disaster if you try to turn her into a roommate with benefits while dating other women.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Ignoring her and trying to make her jealous is only going to cause more problems between you and her as roommates and ruin any chance you have with her.

She likes you (and it sounds like she's getting disgusted and about to give up) and it's bothering her everytime she sees you go out with someone else. She hasn't come right out and said that because she's afraid of being rejected and doesn't want to be used...especially if she views you as a "player".

This is going to play out one of two ways...and how it plays out depends entirely upon how you behave with her.

If you flaunt other girls in her face she will end up hating your guts and moving out...or making you miserable with her crankiness towards you.

If you spend more time with her and not talk about other girls or be overt about dating them you'll probably get somewhere with her.

A word of warning, though...if you don't want a relationship with her and to see her exclusively don't even bother because it will end in disaster if you try to turn her into a roommate with benefits while dating other women.
This is retarded advice. If the stupid bytch can't tell you she likes you, she has no right getting pissed off that you date other women.

YOUR LOVE LIFE IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS. Don't kiss her ass and try to figure out her feelings. If she likes you, she should tell you. If not, the quit fvcking worrying about how many women you see.

She's just trying to play the "You should know what I'm thinking, even though I won't tell you" game.

You're not a mind reader, and if she can't come true with her feelings, it's not your job to figure it out.
 

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listen to what i said. Also when u get a chance to have sex with a girl make sure you take her to your apartment and make sure she SCREAMS in ecstacy. Your roomate will get so jelous.

Ninja Out
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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You are so weak .. and she knows that.

How about bringing some chicks home and ****ing them in front of her.
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
This is retarded advice. If the stupid bytch can't tell you she likes you, she has no right getting pissed off that you date other women.

YOUR LOVE LIFE IS NONE OF HER BUSINESS. Don't kiss her ass and try to figure out her feelings. If she likes you, she should tell you. If not, the quit fvcking worrying about how many women you see.

She's just trying to play the "You should know what I'm thinking, even though I won't tell you" game.

You're not a mind reader, and if she can't come true with her feelings, it's not your job to figure it out.
Whether she has the "right" or not is irrelevent. She is his roommate and it's unlikely he wants to fight with her. In fact, he is obviously interested in her otherwise he wouldn't post about her as he did.

She likes him and she's afraid of being rejected or played. She lives with him and is aware of what he's doing and how many different women he's seeing.

You may not like my advice and input on this situation...but I'm spot on and 100% correct. He probably already knows all this anyhow.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Whether she has the "right" or not is irrelevent. She is his roommate and it's unlikely he wants to fight with her. In fact, he is obviously interested in her otherwise he wouldn't post about her as he did.

She likes him and she's afraid of being rejected or played. She lives with him and is aware of what he's doing and how many different women he's seeing.

You may not like my advice and input on this situation...but I'm spot on and 100% correct. He probably already knows all this anyhow.
I don't think you're "on spot" at all. She's his roommate too, why should he have to kiss her ass?

Men already have to take all the risks in the dating game. We have to approach, and take the chance of getting rejected. Now we're supposed to be mind readers, and figure out the woman's true intentions too???????

Like I said before; if she likes you, it's HER job to tell you. If not, she has no right to bytch about it.

Men are afraid of rejection and being played too, but we're still expected to take the chance. Women can do the samething.
 

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Originally posted by StringShredder
The best way to ignore her is to meet other girls. And, oh yeah, bring some of them home while your roomate is there.

Also, you can play with your roommate too. Walk around in a loose bathrobe while ignoring her and **** like that.

When you talk to your roommate, steer toward topics of you and these other women: ask for advice, etc. You know, "I met this girl, it went such and such, she behaved such and such. Do you think she's into me? What's my next move? How long should I wait?"

Act like you are falling for some chick, and keep talking about how great she is.

Be overheard talking on the phone to chicks, having a good time, making plans, cracking jokes, sex talk, etc.

I'm already doing this...:D
 

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Originally posted by Tkman
You are so weak .. and she knows that.

How about bringing some chicks home and ****ing them in front of her.
I'm NOT weak dude, I have power over her and she so knows it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
I don't think you're "on spot" at all. She's his roommate too, why should he have to kiss her ass?

Men already have to take all the risks in the dating game. We have to approach, and take the chance of getting rejected. Now we're supposed to be mind readers, and figure out the woman's true intentions too???????

Like I said before; if she likes you, it's HER job to tell you. If not, she has no right to bytch about it.

Men are afraid of rejection and being played too, but we're still expected to take the chance. Women can do the samething.
It's a man's job to approach and the woman's job to give the man signals that she wants him to approach. She's trying to send him signals and he's responding by trying to make her jealous.

He asked in his first post WHY she was acting this way. I answered his question and clearly stated which behavior on his part would produce which results. It would appear that his goal is to make this girl hate him.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
It's a man's job to approach and the woman's job to give the man signals that she wants him to approach. She's trying to send him signals and he's responding by trying to make her jealous.

He asked in his first post WHY she was acting this way. I answered his question and clearly stated which behavior on his part would produce which results. It would appear that his goal is to make this girl hate him.
I'm not trying to make her jealous she has stated that she doesn't want me so I have moved on and got out looking for better options, if anyone was trying to make me jealous it was her with my best friend and room mate, they suddenly became really close and hung out a lot but I know that nothing is going on or has gone on between them.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
It's a man's job to approach and the woman's job to give the man signals that she wants him to approach.
This is true :yes: You obviously desire her and then she even told you 'She's not into you' when you asked that question. It's great that you moved on. If at some point she DID want you then you messed it up somehow if she doesn't anymore.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
It's a man's job to approach and the woman's job to give the man signals that she wants him to approach. She's trying to send him signals and he's responding by trying to make her jealous.

He asked in his first post WHY she was acting this way. I answered his question and clearly stated which behavior on his part would produce which results. It would appear that his goal is to make this girl hate him.
It might be the man's job to approach, but he should only approach women who don't play games.

You're basically telling the guy he should change his lifestyle for a girl that doesn't have the guts to let her feelings be known.

You're right; It is a man's job to approach, but it's not a man's job to be a mind reader. You say "she's trying to send him signals"...

WHY THE FVCK DOESN'T SHE JUST COME OUT AND SAY IT!!!! Why signals??????????

Usually you're advice is pretty decent, but this time you're off the mark. You sound like the typical woman telling a guy to jump through hoops to figure this woman out.

I say forget about her, and live your life. If she doesn't like it..too fvcking bad.
 

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
I'm not trying to make her jealous she has stated that she doesn't want me so I have moved on and got out looking for better options, if anyone was trying to make me jealous it was her with my best friend and room mate, they suddenly became really close and hung out a lot but I know that nothing is going on or has gone on between them.
Did she tell you she didn't want you before or after she noticed "all your girls"? She acts like she likes you but is also mad at you. If you already showed clear interest in her before doing a lot of dating around and she shot you down then she's not interested. If you were dating a lot before you voiced interest she likely doesn't want to be used and just doesn't trust you.
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
Did she tell you she didn't want you before or after she noticed "all your girls"? She acts like she likes you but is also mad at you. If you already showed clear interest in her before doing a lot of dating around and she shot you down then she's not interested. If you were dating a lot before you voiced interest she likely doesn't want to be used and just doesn't trust you.
She told me before Wyldfire...there is so much to tell...

But I have moved on from it all, personally I think she does like me and is warming up to me more each day...I get some

I know it's probably nothing but she has been getting into a lot of the music I listen too lately.

Her body langauge says it all too, but i don't think I will make a move until after my friend has gone, I do want her to make the moves on me though.

Whatever happens, happens and it's always good to have hot *****es as friends.





:cheer:
 

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Originally posted by jprjrjr
It might be the man's job to approach, but he should only approach women who don't play games.

You're basically telling the guy he should change his lifestyle for a girl that doesn't have the guts to let her feelings be known.

You're right; It is a man's job to approach, but it's not a man's job to be a mind reader. You say "she's trying to send him signals"...

WHY THE FVCK DOESN'T SHE JUST COME OUT AND SAY IT!!!! Why signals??????????

Usually you're advice is pretty decent, but this time you're off the mark. You sound like the typical woman telling a guy to jump through hoops to figure this woman out.

I say forget about her, and live your life. If she doesn't like it..too fvcking bad.
There are many reasons why a woman won't give clear signals. Some girls just aren't very good at attracting guys. Also, a lot of guys are clueless and she can be sending him clear signals and he is oblivious to them. You're expecting females to behave like males...and that's a waste of time. Men and women are different and they think differently. The signals that make no sense to you make perfect sense to the girl sending them.
 

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
She told me before Wyldfire...there is so much to tell...

But I have moved on from it all, personally I think she does like me and is warming up to me more each day...I get some

I know it's probably nothing but she has been getting into a lot of the music I listen too lately.

Her body langauge says it all too, but i don't think I will make a move until after my friend has gone, I do want her to make the moves on me though.

Whatever happens, happens and it's always good to have hot *****es as friends.



:cheer:

See, I give advice based on the information given. She was clearly showing signals that she might like you, which is why I said what I did. I didn't know your friend was there. It sounds like she is interested in both of you but him a bit more than you.

If you are interested in her and want a shot, you should not flaunt other girls in her face. That doesn't mean don't keep dating people...just don't flaunt it or try to make her jealous. Playing those games with opposite sex roommates only leads to trouble.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire
See, I give advice based on the information given. She was clearly showing signals that she might like you, which is why I said what I did. I didn't know your friend was there. It sounds like she is interested in both of you but him a bit more than you.

If you are interested in her and want a shot, you should not flaunt other girls in her face. That doesn't mean don't keep dating people...just don't flaunt it or try to make her jealous. Playing those games with opposite sex roommates only leads to trouble.

I know this I have been there before...nah she only sees him as a friend do you know how I know?, I have never seen any of the hair flicking, adjusting hair or looks she gives me to him, it does seem to be a very brother/sister thing between them.
 

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Originally posted by Wyldfire


If you are interested in her and want a shot, you should not flaunt other girls in her face. That doesn't mean don't keep dating people...just don't flaunt it or try to make her jealous. Playing those games with opposite sex roommates only leads to trouble. [/B]
hang on, she has told me that she isnt' into me that way so I'm just talking to her about it, she doesn't want me I have accepted that and moved on, it's her problem if she thinks I'm doing it to make her jealous or whatever, if this is the case then she should stop being a ***** and tell me how she really feels I am only going by what she says...although her actions are almost always different from her words I go by her words.

I should give you an interesting example about something that happened in the past few weeks, she was a ***** to me one night so I ignored her completely and she ended up being at a party I was at and I didn't say a word to her and while she was there with a friend of hers, she was like a little high school girl, whispering in her friends ear and looking over at me while I was chatting to a cutie...and there were quite a few looks too.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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