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Why the wall for men is much worse than the wall for females

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Just saw the Chad from my hs appear on my suggested friends. Dude went from looking like an Abercrombie model to bald and fat with a roughneck beard. The wall exists for men!
 

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Because they are desperate and because you are handsome to them ( no homo). These doctor chicks cant keep a fellow doctor because they are a pain to be around.

If you were to get in a relationship with them they will talk down to you. They will never submit to you. You are their fun boy.

I failed to get a medical residency but still keep in contact with my female doctor class mates. Trust me on this. You have to be making more than them.
Slightly trivial point but i can't stand no homo being used incorrectly, you are referring to the women seeing him as handsome not yourself, no disclaimer required!
 

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Just saw the Chad from my hs appear on my suggested friends. Dude went from looking like an Abercrombie model to bald and fat with a roughneck beard. The wall exists for men!
This isn't a hard and fast rule, but some guys who have it easy in high school/college don't always put in the effort later on to kill it in life. Since women came easily, they sometimes (not always) get fat, don't maximize their career potential, keep partying to their detriment, or even marry and schlub out early.

Again not all Chads do this but it happens to some because things were so easy. So the wall comes a lot faster than if they stayed in shape and focused on their ambitions.
 

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This isn't a hard and fast rule, but some guys who have it easy in high school/college don't always put in the effort later on to kill it in life. Since women came easily, they sometimes (not always) get fat, don't maximize their career potential, keep partying to their detriment, or even marry and schlub out early.

Again not all Chads do this but it happens to some because things were so easy. So the wall comes a lot faster than if they stayed in shape and focused on their ambitions.
He is still better off than most men because he still has experience with women and most guys look like shvt after 25 regardless of them being a Chad prior or not.
 

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Slightly trivial point but i can't stand no homo being used incorrectly, you are referring to the women seeing him as handsome not yourself, no disclaimer required!
Lol yes I know. I am immature and slightly insecure about my sexuality. Its a stupid habit.
 

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Lol yes I know. I am immature and slightly insecure about my sexuality. Its a stupid habit.
Eh. You'll get past it. You'll get where you just don't give a crap what people think. And frankly that's where you must aspire to be.
 

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Lol yes I know. I am immature and slightly insecure about my sexuality. Its a stupid habit.
A lot of high-achieving women, especially in medicine, do struggle with relationships, not necessarily because of attitude, but often due to mismatched expectations or lifestyle differences. Wanting a partner who earns more or has higher status still plays a role, even if it’s not openly said.

Funny enough, that same dynamic shows up in the professional world too. I came across https://www.medicaldirectorco.com/ which helps hire medical directors for clinics and startups. Just shows how much leadership and perceived status still matter, on and off the clock.

And yeah, respect for being self-aware about the “no homo” habit. We’ve all got our quirks.
 

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A lot of high-achieving women, especially in medicine, do struggle with relationships, not necessarily because of attitude, but often due to mismatched expectations or lifestyle differences. Wanting a partner who earns more or has higher status still plays a role, even if it’s not openly said.

Funny enough, that same dynamic shows up in the professional world too. I came across https://www.medicaldirectorco.com/ which helps hire medical directors for clinics and startups. Just shows how much leadership and perceived status still matter, on and off the clock.

And yeah, respect for being self-aware about the “no homo” habit. We’ve all got our quirks.
Yeah, if a high-income woman wants a man who makes even more than her, that's going to drastically limit her pool.
 

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Yeah, if a high-income woman wants a man who makes even more than her, that's going to drastically limit her pool.
That will limit her pool for committed, longer term dating but often not for short term sex.

Depending on her fussiness level, she can have as much short term sex as she wants. The more short term sex she has, the more damaged that she will be.
 

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That will limit her pool for committed, longer term dating but often not for short term sex.

Depending on her fussiness level, she can have as much short term sex as she wants. The more short term sex she has, the more damaged that she will be.
In other words, she'll have casual sex with a lower-earning man; just won't date one?
 
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