"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why "The One" Doesn't Exist

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We're brainwashed into believing that there exists the one perfect girl for us. A girl so much better than all the rest. However, in reality, a man can command a certain level of women based on his overall status, and there are infinitely many women at that level.

For example: chances are, you could date any HB1 (an oxymoron I know) on the planet. Maybe half of the 4's would date you. If you wanted to marry one of them it would be no problem. But only 10% of the 7's would date you. As you improve your status (which tends to happen with time for all men who work hard and stay in shape), you will suddenly find that you can date say 50% of all 7's, and 25% of 8's.

That means you'll have LOTS of women to choose from in your league. Unless there are a few 9's who also like you, you can't find an 8 will think of you as a prize. If she doesn't have at least ONE girl who is hotter than her who likes you, why would she want you? Even if you trick one, she'll get a consensus from her friends quick. In fact, I think that a woman can see you on a good day or bad and pretty much rate you within .1 points of what other women will think.

Thus, there is no "one" girl. You will have 10 or so girls at the same level and you will have to choose one and give up the other 9.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bigneil said:
You will have 10 or so girls at the same level and you will have to choose one and give up the other 9.
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Or just bang all 10 as long as you can.

Monogamy is another myth foisted on men.
 
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Exactly. This is the realization you come to once you have a bunch to choose from. It also helps you understand how women's dating scene has always been, and why they flake.
 
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Of course there are leagues based mostly on looks and appearance. But for short term mating that league is primarily made up of women 2 points lower in looks. Every once in awhile you get a girl at the top of your league or maybe seemingly slightly above your league. This is the girl you would most consider for a LTR and where the idea of one girl comes from.

The point is as you try to get girls higher up in league the numbers drop. Women have to drop their standards some if they want a LTR. I believe you can run LTR or social circle game on a girl higher league than you can pick up on a regular basis.

Most guys playing the field are hooking up with mostly girls below what they could ultimately get for a relationship.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I agree that there is no such thing as "the one".

A man and woman could be engaged in the most perfect relationship humanly or scientifically possible.

All it takes is the man slipping and becoming too AFC, which men often do when they get too comfortable with a woman. Once he crosses that line, the permanency factor is gone and there is likely no going back. It's a near 100% scientific fact that she will leave him eventually.

So was she "the one"? NO. She seemed like "the one" at one time but I think we will all agree that there needs to be a 100% permanency factor associated with the term "the one", and so long as there is even a 0.001% chance of her leaving him for ANYTHING, then she can never be worthy of the true title of being "the one". No woman can.
 
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