"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why some people are perceived as mature?

Jay-X

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i know a guy who jokes around 24/7 and acts like a total fool non-stop, nonetheless he look more mature than many people who are serious all the time... how can you be so mature, when you act like a clown 24/7?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Jay-X
i know a guy who jokes around 24/7 and acts like a total fool non-stop, nonetheless he look more mature than many people who are serious all the time... how can you be so mature, when you act like a clown 24/7?
Since we don't know him AT ALL. How about you study him and let us know.

Pue scrivere multo bene in inglese per un italiano. Bravo.
 

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As Bluelemond and Smooth Player said, you have to observe what he does that makes people think he is "mature."

I do have a view on this however. I feel that the true test of maturity rises when a conflict is presented. In this situation, you can get the real character of a person and see what type of person they really are.

Maybe this guy does really well when conflicts/challenges are presented? But again, I really don't know. Just see what he does.
 
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