Why should I be interested in YOU?

[BeDJ]

Hey SoSuavers! I'm was planning to put this in the tips section, but I think it would be nice to have a general discussion regarding making people interested in you. The last thing I want is for you to think I am bragging or boasting myself. It's a thin line that can easily be crossed when you want to give advice from experience. Please keep in mind that I'm just sharing what has been successful for me and I can confidently say for almost everyone here.


Myself, like most of you guys out there are picking up women who we have never met before. Why should they talk to US instead of the people that they already know? Because we are one of a kind. We have the advantage compared to their acquaintances. What is that advantage?

The Unknown.

The Unknown can easily differentiate you from a creeper to Mr. Popular in ANY given interaction.

QUESTIONS (muthafvcker, do you even ask?)

Most people will try to ask the most basic questions because they aren't as creative as me, or YOU after reading this thread. I can have the MOST SCINTILLATING conversation with them and at the end, they ask..........
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So what do you do for a living?

Imagine you were talking about how you would make a utopia and someone asks if the lunch truck has arrived. Conversation halts. Escalation halts. Opportunity gone.

Of course we all know to tailor the conversation to your prospect. Have them talk about themselves. The 80/20 rule absolutely works. The moment you find yourself talking more than the other person, you are FVCKED. Remember that people like to talk about themselves, the moment you 'dominated' a conversation, you have FAILED.

I'm guessing you are wondering - how do I get that person to talk about themselves in a productive manner? I will admit, I honestly think that a lot (I didn't say most =] ) of the people on here are socially awkward. Ask questions that you are building some connection in the beginning. She is studying psychology? Most fvcking chicks do that BTW. Simply say that you friend is a psychologist and SHE THINKS that ______ and _____ reflect ______. See? That opens up conversation. Simply AGREE with what dumb ass remark she has to say. NOW, you both have common ground. She feels good on her degree/argument and is MUCH MUCH MORE open to what you have to say.

That is the FIRST step to seduction.
THAT IS THE FIRST STEP TO SEDUCTION.

This is an opening for this thread so I would like feedback or criticism. Please chuck your ego out the window and let's get this going. I will post my methods of identifying interest if this thing is popular enough.

Good night!

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

When you meet a new person for the first, you're not really meeting that person, you're meeting his/her sales representative. If the lizard isn't trying to sell herself to you, you're doing it wrong.

How I approach women? I try to sell my product to her in a commercial that lasts no longer than 30 seconds. The product being me and the 30 seconds being the total amount of time I will speak to her and try to grab her interest. If after 30 seconds she's talking almost non-stop about herself to you, you did it right. If she isn't, you failed your sales speech. I usually don't even ask for the number in that case and simply move on. If she is however talking non-stop after those 30 seconds, feel free to cut her off and ask for her number (say you're busy and you have to go, but you'd love to talk another time). You'll most likely get the number.

30 seconds is all you get. Better make those 30 seconds count!

 

[skinnyguy]

I thought you were gone forever BeDJ

 

[BeDJ]

When you meet a new person for the first, you're not really meeting that person, you're meeting his/her sales representative. If the lizard isn't trying to sell herself to you, you're doing it wrong.

How I approach women? I try to sell my product to her in a commercial that lasts no longer than 30 seconds. The product being me and the 30 seconds being the total amount of time I will speak to her and try to grab her interest. If after 30 seconds she's talking almost non-stop about herself to you, you did it right. If she isn't, you failed your sales speech. I usually don't even ask for the number in that case and simply move on. If she is however talking non-stop after those 30 seconds, feel free to cut her off and ask for her number (say you're busy and you have to go, but you'd love to talk another time). You'll most likely get the number.

30 seconds is all you get. Better make those 30 seconds count!

Good morning Mr. Kalikoat!

You are very lucky to be in the Netherlands! I met a crazy beautiful duch girl last night. Boobs were lacking, but everything else was stunning. She has a BF so we'll see where it goes.

I agree with your post and think it very important to make a good first impression. Personally, if I give my elevator pitch and grab the number soon after, they tend to be a lot of fakes and flakes. Having your prospected very interested and then abruptly ending the conversation could be an effective technique, but I've never recall it working in my favor when I first meet someone. You have the prospect right there in front of you, why not think of it as a "mini date?" Show her that you are capable of carrying an interesting conversation with her, socially attractive and most of all, genuine. The 30 second elevator pitch works to grab their attention and it's a perfect segue into deeper conversation.

One of the more effective ways to be more socially attractive and display assertiveness is to bring in a stranger to join your conversation, preferably a very beautiful woman. Simply just stop her when she is walking by and ask "HB and I were talking about how ____ affects ____. I told her she was crazy! Don't you agree?" This puts your prospect in a playful defensive mood and display that you have the ability to engage in hotter prospects. After a few bullsh!t banters, excuse yourself and your prospect by saying "Oh, we were just about to go to XYZ, it was a real pleasure meeting you!" This should be your 'sign on the dotted line' because numbers these days don't mean sh!t. Most of the time, she is caught off guard that her natural instinct would be to oblige because you are one charming muthafvcker. She may refuse the proposal, which is already a sign of low interest and you can attempt a number close.

I thought you were gone forever BeDJ

I thought I was too. I'm very glad to be back.