I'm always telling men not to pander to women, but I rarely explain why. Here is another detailed explanation of WHY "pandering" is bad policy.. not only with women, but in life overall.
1. You degrade yourself
A wise man once said: "If you don't respect your own morals and values.. who will?"
You must always honor yourself. If you don't, then no one else will. Its really that simple. No body cares more about your needs and YOUR success than you. When you pander to others.. you are elevating them and degrading yourself. You are basically saying to them: "Your happiness is more important than mine".
When you set that standard with people.. it continues for the duration of the relationship. They will EXPECT that you always put them first over yourself and you have no one to blame but yourself.
2. You create relationships based on exploitation
We all know that all relationships are give and take. But why start a relationship by marketing yourself as someone to be used? This is what you do when you pander. You are telling people: "Its ok for you to use me. Just please, please, please like me! Like me at any cost!"
People will take full advantage of this.
3. You don't make the rules
When you start a relationship by submitting to the desires of others rather than LEADING and pointing people in the direction YOU want.. it leads to a relationship where the other person makes all the rules. They will come to expect this.. and any attempt to take the power back will cause drama.
4. You attract the wrong people
Women are the best example. When you pander.. you only attract self-centered and controlling women. Submissive women want to be lead. A pandering faggot does not lead.. he follows. So you attract self-centered women who will inflict psychological fear and emotional abuse on you when you don't "fall in line" with what they want.
MEN: When I say stop being pathetic faggots I'm telling you this for your own good. You can NEVER be happy living on someone else's terms. Never. If you are living in fear, then you are in a toxic relationship. You should feel free and relaxed in ALL your relationships.
1. You degrade yourself
A wise man once said: "If you don't respect your own morals and values.. who will?"
You must always honor yourself. If you don't, then no one else will. Its really that simple. No body cares more about your needs and YOUR success than you. When you pander to others.. you are elevating them and degrading yourself. You are basically saying to them: "Your happiness is more important than mine".
When you set that standard with people.. it continues for the duration of the relationship. They will EXPECT that you always put them first over yourself and you have no one to blame but yourself.
2. You create relationships based on exploitation
We all know that all relationships are give and take. But why start a relationship by marketing yourself as someone to be used? This is what you do when you pander. You are telling people: "Its ok for you to use me. Just please, please, please like me! Like me at any cost!"
People will take full advantage of this.
3. You don't make the rules
When you start a relationship by submitting to the desires of others rather than LEADING and pointing people in the direction YOU want.. it leads to a relationship where the other person makes all the rules. They will come to expect this.. and any attempt to take the power back will cause drama.
4. You attract the wrong people
Women are the best example. When you pander.. you only attract self-centered and controlling women. Submissive women want to be lead. A pandering faggot does not lead.. he follows. So you attract self-centered women who will inflict psychological fear and emotional abuse on you when you don't "fall in line" with what they want.
MEN: When I say stop being pathetic faggots I'm telling you this for your own good. You can NEVER be happy living on someone else's terms. Never. If you are living in fear, then you are in a toxic relationship. You should feel free and relaxed in ALL your relationships.
