Mr_knowit_all
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I've been on this forum for quite some time. I've read the e books by most of the so-called "gurus". I've read the endless banter about what we as men can do to not only increase our chances of getting a mate, but keeping her for the long term as well.
What I realized is that while most of the information does help to an extent, it really isn't going to matter in the long run.
Why?---Because no matter how you look at it, women will always have more options in the dating arena than men, and that very fact will ALWAYS give them the advantage. I don't care how indifferent you act, or how much of a challenge you are, as long as women have more options, those things only have limited success. I'm not saying they don't work; they do, what I'm saying is they may take so long to finally work that it could end up being years before the stupid bytch realizes that she wants you. Who wants to wait around for that crap?
What you don't realize is that for every "DJ" who is a challenge, there are 200 AFC's waiting to kiss their ass. Sure a woman may be more attracted to a challenge, but she also has plenty of chumps who'll buy her dinner and nice gifts. They may yearn for a real man, but a lot of women are quite content using men for monetary gain.
Now I'm not saying certain guys haven't mastered "the art of seduction", but to be honest, even those guys aren't doing anything different than you or I are. Regardless of what some might say, some guys just naturally do better with women. It's not necessarily that they're doing something different, that's just the way it is.
So, you might ask, what's a guy to do? Well as far as I can see, we still have a few options.
1) It comes down to a numbers game. Men have to realize that the more women they ask out, the higher their chances are that one of them will say yes. I know this has been discussed before, and it's really quite obvious, but it also really works. Sure you'll be turned down hundreds of times, but the one or two that say yes will make that all worth while. Women play their options, you should as well.
2) You truly have to stop caring what most women think. I know this can be tough because in contemporary society, almost everything men do is to attract or please women. One day you're going to wake up and realize all the opportunities you missed by worrying so much about this nonsense. If you find a great woman- WONDERFUL-if not, there are plenty of other things in your life to define your success by.
3) Lastly, realize that you can't control other people's behavior. We can only control our response. If anything, having confindence and not being needy in and of itself should attract a lot more women.
Women are great, but they're not the be all-end all of existence. Sure they have the advantage, but if you have the right mindset, you're already ahead of the game.
What I realized is that while most of the information does help to an extent, it really isn't going to matter in the long run.
Why?---Because no matter how you look at it, women will always have more options in the dating arena than men, and that very fact will ALWAYS give them the advantage. I don't care how indifferent you act, or how much of a challenge you are, as long as women have more options, those things only have limited success. I'm not saying they don't work; they do, what I'm saying is they may take so long to finally work that it could end up being years before the stupid bytch realizes that she wants you. Who wants to wait around for that crap?
What you don't realize is that for every "DJ" who is a challenge, there are 200 AFC's waiting to kiss their ass. Sure a woman may be more attracted to a challenge, but she also has plenty of chumps who'll buy her dinner and nice gifts. They may yearn for a real man, but a lot of women are quite content using men for monetary gain.
Now I'm not saying certain guys haven't mastered "the art of seduction", but to be honest, even those guys aren't doing anything different than you or I are. Regardless of what some might say, some guys just naturally do better with women. It's not necessarily that they're doing something different, that's just the way it is.
So, you might ask, what's a guy to do? Well as far as I can see, we still have a few options.
1) It comes down to a numbers game. Men have to realize that the more women they ask out, the higher their chances are that one of them will say yes. I know this has been discussed before, and it's really quite obvious, but it also really works. Sure you'll be turned down hundreds of times, but the one or two that say yes will make that all worth while. Women play their options, you should as well.
2) You truly have to stop caring what most women think. I know this can be tough because in contemporary society, almost everything men do is to attract or please women. One day you're going to wake up and realize all the opportunities you missed by worrying so much about this nonsense. If you find a great woman- WONDERFUL-if not, there are plenty of other things in your life to define your success by.
3) Lastly, realize that you can't control other people's behavior. We can only control our response. If anything, having confindence and not being needy in and of itself should attract a lot more women.
Women are great, but they're not the be all-end all of existence. Sure they have the advantage, but if you have the right mindset, you're already ahead of the game.