"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why Men Cheat: Science Says 'New' Women Boost Testosterone

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Interesting read on cheating and if your a middle age man I posted the article plus link below.

http://www.aolnews.com/surge-desk/article/why-men-cheat-science-says-new-women-boost-testosterone/19543299?icid=main|htmlws-main-n|dl1|link5|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aolnews.com%2Fsurge-desk%2Farticle%2Fwhy-men-cheat-science-says-new-women-boost-testosterone%2F19543299.

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Andrew Sullivan links to a blog post on male sexuality by Christopher Ryan, co-author, along with Cacilda Jetha, of the new book "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality." Ryan looks at the eternal question: Why do men, in particular middle-aged men, have affairs?

One's tempted to answer the question -- or a revision of it (why do men sleep with other women -- or men?) -- with Sir Edmund Hillary's response to someone who asked him why he wanted to climb Mount Everest. "Because it's there," he said. Sexual opportunities are out there, too.

And while there are myriad reasons one might stray, the authors have identified a biological one.

[O]ne factor we think deserves more attention is the role of testosterone (T) in middle-aged men's eroticism. In their twenties, men's T levels begin a long decline, often experienced as diminished passion and appetite for life. Suppressed T levels are associated with depression, heart attacks, dementia, and overall mortality rates from 88 to 250 percent higher. One of the few things that can reliably and immediately revive a man's sagging testosterone is exposure to a new woman. One researcher found that even a brief chat with an attractive woman raised men's testosterone levels by fourteen percent within minutes.
Ryan writes that men may confuse this testosterone spike with "love" and make decisions they later come to regret. But that seems to be straying from the scientific into the moralistic. There's no reason to think this spike triggers feelings of "love." It may be simply feelings of titillation, which are sufficient drivers of action.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Powerlifter said:
Interesting read on cheating and if your a middle age man I posted the article plus link below.

http://www.aolnews.com/surge-desk/article/why-men-cheat-science-says-new-women-boost-testosterone/19543299?icid=main|htmlws-main-n|dl1|link5|http%3A%2F%2Fwww.aolnews.com%2Fsurge-desk%2Farticle%2Fwhy-men-cheat-science-says-new-women-boost-testosterone%2F19543299.

Powerlifter

Andrew Sullivan links to a blog post on male sexuality by Christopher Ryan, co-author, along with Cacilda Jetha, of the new book "Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality." Ryan looks at the eternal question: Why do men, in particular middle-aged men, have affairs?

One's tempted to answer the question -- or a revision of it (why do men sleep with other women -- or men?) -- with Sir Edmund Hillary's response to someone who asked him why he wanted to climb Mount Everest. "Because it's there," he said. Sexual opportunities are out there, too.

And while there are myriad reasons one might stray, the authors have identified a biological one.

[O]ne factor we think deserves more attention is the role of testosterone (T) in middle-aged men's eroticism. In their twenties, men's T levels begin a long decline, often experienced as diminished passion and appetite for life. Suppressed T levels are associated with depression, heart attacks, dementia, and overall mortality rates from 88 to 250 percent higher. One of the few things that can reliably and immediately revive a man's sagging testosterone is exposure to a new woman. One researcher found that even a brief chat with an attractive woman raised men's testosterone levels by fourteen percent within minutes.
Ryan writes that men may confuse this testosterone spike with "love" and make decisions they later come to regret. But that seems to be straying from the scientific into the moralistic. There's no reason to think this spike triggers feelings of "love." It may be simply feelings of titillation, which are sufficient drivers of action.
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This explains the "why" but this does not justify the behavior.
 

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some are born with an "INFIDELITY GENE" making it difficult to remain fatihful......its the reptilian brain mentality..........why have one when you can HAVE them all.

For these types it's all about them, their needs, whats in it for them and when an opportunity presents itself theY take it without EVER considering possible repercussions. MIND IS STRONG BUT THE FLESH IS WEAK!!!!!!!

CHEATING BEEN AROUND SINCE THE BEGINING OF TIME!!!!!!!!
 

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Is there a study that talks about the effect of "new" men on women?
I think most people accept that women cheat just as much as men.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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zekko said:
Is there a study that talks about the effect of "new" men on women?
I think most people accept that women cheat just as much as men.

That is a good point. When a woman falls in love with a new guy on the side, I'm sure that releases female happy chemicals in the brain as well.
 

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COD said:
some are born with an "INFIDELITY GENE" making it difficult to remain fatihful......its the reptilian brain mentality..........why have one when you can HAVE them all.

For these types it's all about them, their needs, whats in it for them and when an opportunity presents itself theY take it without EVER considering possible repercussions. MIND IS STRONG BUT THE FLESH IS WEAK!!!!!!!

CHEATING BEEN AROUND SINCE THE BEGINING OF TIME!!!!!!!!
Are you a woman by any chance?
 

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Men usually cheat because the opportunity is greater than the risk of getting caught. Men cheat if their gf/wife/lover treats them like crap. Men cheat because they can (have the gift of gab). There are many reasons men cheat.

The biggest reason men cheat is because they decide to.
 

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The Coolidge effect has been known for ages.
 

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Trader said:
This explains the "why" but this does not justify the behavior.
Each man can justify his behavior in his own way. Or, he can, as I do, simply define justification as anything he does.

Since I did it, it's justified.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How in the world am I gonna know what woman to marry, if I don't fvck or try them all? In My experience and preferences I find that I am most turned on by petite spinner-type slim girls. I've experienced the tall ones, the 130-150 lbs ones and while they had great as5es and pus5ies, I just didn't get loved back as much as when I was with shorter and slimmer girls. That's just Me, but I'll try any girl out, except fat ones, even marginally fat ones. I don't need a hard-to-move around girl.
 

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Men cheat because their current wife/girlfriend/LTR/whatever isn't putting out anymore. Do you think he'd have to cheat if she was?

Women cheat for emotional reasons.
Men cheat for physical reasons.
 
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