"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why "let's be friends" stuff...

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My question is why girls want to be friends with you after LTR ???
I never remain "just friends" with my ex's.But why do they want this "friendship" ???Almost all my girlfriends (90% of them) wanted to remain friends after the break up.
I broke up with this girl about a week ago and she started the "but let's remain friends,after all we had it's weird not see each other no more..." BS after I clearly stated that "I don't want to be her "girlfriend".So after 3-4 days she started to message me with "how are you?","what do you want to do in the weekend?"...

So what's this "friendship" all about ????
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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she just wants to continue to use you, the same way a lot of jerk guys would prefer to keep using a girl for sex (in case they can't find it elsewhere) even after they dump a girl

just ignore her calls
 
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she just wants to continue to use you, the same way a lot of jerk guys would prefer to keep using a girl for sex (in case they can't find it elsewhere) even after they dump a girl
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I thought so,but is this the only reason ?
 
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And also it takes a real man to dump someone properly. A lot of the time you will dump someone but then halfheartedly want them back when you don't come across anyone new and exciting in the next several days. So it can be good to keep the old partner on a leash and use them whenever you need them...while still being on the lookout for someone better.

If she had properly performed the horish monkey-branch technique of securing a new guy before she dropped you, she probably wouldn't bother with this friends nonsense.

But my advice is the same. Don't try to win her back.
 
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I think it's about emotional investement.

Think about it...

If a girl gets to know a guy and they spend a year or so to get to know each other and then gets together and becomes a couple they've invested a lot of emotions.

It's like: Hey, i'll give you a piece of my heart, i'll invest in you with my emotions and my time and my effort.

Then, when they break up, the girl is like:

"Oh yeez, I spent so much time with this dude and now he has a piece of my heart and everything, and i cant really take it back and oh god... this is gonna hurt but i'm not in love with him anymore.

Alright, but if we stay as friends we'll at least still have memories and friendship and all the other good things I REALLY DO LIKE ABOUT HIM. "

Girls are not weird creatures... but women tend to think different then men. And that's what you need to think about.

Same with friendship. Let me ask you this:

Do you have any REALLY HOT FEMALE FRIENDS?

If you do, I can bet you would sleep with them if you could. Therefor, there's a sexual interaction in your subconcious everytime you talk with them. In other words:

>> If you female friend is hot you want to have sex with her.

And this is the way it is. I promise. We, as guys, can't really have any hot female FRIENDS without wanting sex from them soon or later. Unless they've been our friends since way back (a girl that feels more like a sister to you).

Now, turn it around: Ask a girl if she can have guy-friends that are hot without feeling attracted to them.

SHE CAN!

And this is the difference.


So, while she's trying to stay friends with you because of the emotions you still want to have sex with her (if you feel attracted to her). And she doesn't want that and therefor you have a conflict.

My advice to you:

Do not try to stay with her as a friend. It will just hurt both her and your feelings.

Next time a girl go:

"Let's just be friends?"

You go:

"You're too good looking. I can only be friends with ugly girls!"


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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do you have any REALLY HOT FEMALE FRIENDS?

If you do, I can bet you would sleep with them if you could. Therefor, there's a sexual interaction in your subconcious everytime you talk with them. In other words:

>> If you female friend is hot you want to have sex with her.

And this is the way it is. I promise. We, as guys, can't really have any hot female FRIENDS without wanting sex from them soon or later. Unless they've been our friends since way back (a girl that feels more like a sister to you).

Now, turn it around: Ask a girl if she can have guy-friends that are hot without feeling attracted to them.

SHE CAN!

And this is the difference.
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True,true

You're too good looking. I can only be friends with ugly girls!
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That's a good one,I'll use it next time :D
I usually use the "I can't be friend with girls that I want to fvck"
 
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They dont see you as a sexual being probably. Nice guys get this line because they wont advance. Dont be friends as it will lead to nowhere. AD has said this and its ciz you must protect your heart.
 
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They dont see you as a sexual being probably. Nice guys get this line because they wont advance.
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Not my case :rockon:
 
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