Since you are here you are a man that likes to think and strategize which is good. It is your goal to meet the woman of your dreams. But more than that it should be your goal to be the man of HER dreams. To accomplish this, you realize, takes a lot of reprogramming.
Your whole life you were taught to be the nice guy. You complimented her, elevated her, paid for her.
But as some point you realized that this was backfiring on you. It probably was a series of failures which finally caused you to take action. After all, human beings never take action until the pain of not taking action is worse than the pain of taking action. We are predictable creatures.
So you set off on the adventure of discovery and stumbled across a site like this that gave you some hope. Finally there was some outlet for the expression of reality rather than fantasy.
Unfortunately, there is one more lesson for you to learn. Most of you will never learn it. A few of you will discover its truth and take the steps toward success.
This lesson contradicts the final aspect of your strategy toward dating women. After all, since you are a man of thought, then you necessarily think that you can THINK, and therefore, TALK your way to creating interest level in women.
In fact, you convince yourself that you already know how to do this since you've got the ****y funny VERBAL habits down pat like some kind of robot.
Unfortunately, you have not learned the most important lesson.
Men THINK and women FEEL.
And for the most part your WORDS are not enough for her.
Ever since she was a little girl she admired her father because he was an adventurous man of ACTION. He stormed into the house, fixed things, took on challenges, showed his strength.
On the other hand, her mother was a person of WORDS.
Which rarely solved anything. In fact, the words stirred up problems, controversies, dramas.
Not altogether bad but her father captivated her emotions by his actions. He didnt just talk. He LIVED. He ACTED.
Therein lies your problem. You have been trained by society to TALK your way to success and this is partly helpful because words COMPLEMENT your actions. But they are a poor substitute for the real thing.
Have you ever noticed a woman have an emotional reaction to a man who "swoops" into her emotional realm with adventurous life force?
I remember such an event. It was several years ago when a much-less educated man than myself walked into a group of about six men and women.
It was a fairly boring outing so far but "Rob" strolled into the gathering and immediately captivated a particularly attractive woman that I'd had my eye on for awhile.
I'd been trying to woo her with words and reasoning but Rob had other plans.
He was dressed in rough jeans and a lumberjack shirt, heavily muscled, and essentially blue collar. Even so, I watched Stephanie's reaction to him in amazement.
He began describing a motorcycle that he was restoring and walked us over to his workshop. He was animated, masculine, and excited.
She was captivated in a way I had never seen before. At that time I did not understand her reaction. "How can she be interested in THAT guy" I asked myself. But I was wrong.
Rob was a man of masculine adventure and his words only complimented and supported his actions. Everything out of his mouth had to do with his aggressive adventures and life force related with the emotionally challenging life that he created every day.
Later on, by reading Doc Love's System I finally apprehended the reality of this truth.
Woman are MOSTLY turned on by actions. They already have enough WORDS in their life.
But most men make the mistake of bringing WORDS into women's lives.
They do it on the phone. They do it on the internet. And they make lots of female friends who put them in the friend zone within the first five minutes.
The man of words has won the woman all right. But into being a friend. Not a potential romantic interest.
This is the reason Doc Love tells you to stay off the phone. Not because the phone is evil, but because you are going to revert to form and try to TALK your way into a woman's heart, when she needs to see your life force and actions first.
She does not fantasize about your WORDS in the middle of the night.
She only sees a man of action which creates emotion which creates interest level.
If she does not see this then you are her friend who buys her things and talks on the phone with her while she is waiting to meet a man of mystery and action and emotion and challenge.
So let me ask you a question. What action and adventure are you involved with that you will show her?
If you dont have one then you are stuck only talking with her, and trying to battle a sub fifty point interest level from the start.
Be exciting and interesting. And then be ****y and funny. And then be mysterious by keeping your words fewer than hers. Which gives you the power.
Do not allow your strategizing to interfere with your success.
Think back to grade school and learn something useful. Which of the boys got their pick of the girls on the playground?
It was the aggressive, challenging, alpha boys who took action and surrounded themselves with drama and conquest.
It is no different now.
The man of action is adventurous, unpredictable, smart, confident, impartial, untameable (women cant control him), disciplined, aggressive, funny, ****y, interesting, and mysterious which means that he doesnt TALK endlessly about his adventures. Instead he lets her fantasize about the extent of them.
Your whole life you were taught to be the nice guy. You complimented her, elevated her, paid for her.
But as some point you realized that this was backfiring on you. It probably was a series of failures which finally caused you to take action. After all, human beings never take action until the pain of not taking action is worse than the pain of taking action. We are predictable creatures.
So you set off on the adventure of discovery and stumbled across a site like this that gave you some hope. Finally there was some outlet for the expression of reality rather than fantasy.
Unfortunately, there is one more lesson for you to learn. Most of you will never learn it. A few of you will discover its truth and take the steps toward success.
This lesson contradicts the final aspect of your strategy toward dating women. After all, since you are a man of thought, then you necessarily think that you can THINK, and therefore, TALK your way to creating interest level in women.
In fact, you convince yourself that you already know how to do this since you've got the ****y funny VERBAL habits down pat like some kind of robot.
Unfortunately, you have not learned the most important lesson.
Men THINK and women FEEL.
And for the most part your WORDS are not enough for her.
Ever since she was a little girl she admired her father because he was an adventurous man of ACTION. He stormed into the house, fixed things, took on challenges, showed his strength.
On the other hand, her mother was a person of WORDS.
Which rarely solved anything. In fact, the words stirred up problems, controversies, dramas.
Not altogether bad but her father captivated her emotions by his actions. He didnt just talk. He LIVED. He ACTED.
Therein lies your problem. You have been trained by society to TALK your way to success and this is partly helpful because words COMPLEMENT your actions. But they are a poor substitute for the real thing.
Have you ever noticed a woman have an emotional reaction to a man who "swoops" into her emotional realm with adventurous life force?
I remember such an event. It was several years ago when a much-less educated man than myself walked into a group of about six men and women.
It was a fairly boring outing so far but "Rob" strolled into the gathering and immediately captivated a particularly attractive woman that I'd had my eye on for awhile.
I'd been trying to woo her with words and reasoning but Rob had other plans.
He was dressed in rough jeans and a lumberjack shirt, heavily muscled, and essentially blue collar. Even so, I watched Stephanie's reaction to him in amazement.
He began describing a motorcycle that he was restoring and walked us over to his workshop. He was animated, masculine, and excited.
She was captivated in a way I had never seen before. At that time I did not understand her reaction. "How can she be interested in THAT guy" I asked myself. But I was wrong.
Rob was a man of masculine adventure and his words only complimented and supported his actions. Everything out of his mouth had to do with his aggressive adventures and life force related with the emotionally challenging life that he created every day.
Later on, by reading Doc Love's System I finally apprehended the reality of this truth.
Woman are MOSTLY turned on by actions. They already have enough WORDS in their life.
But most men make the mistake of bringing WORDS into women's lives.
They do it on the phone. They do it on the internet. And they make lots of female friends who put them in the friend zone within the first five minutes.
The man of words has won the woman all right. But into being a friend. Not a potential romantic interest.
This is the reason Doc Love tells you to stay off the phone. Not because the phone is evil, but because you are going to revert to form and try to TALK your way into a woman's heart, when she needs to see your life force and actions first.
She does not fantasize about your WORDS in the middle of the night.
She only sees a man of action which creates emotion which creates interest level.
If she does not see this then you are her friend who buys her things and talks on the phone with her while she is waiting to meet a man of mystery and action and emotion and challenge.
So let me ask you a question. What action and adventure are you involved with that you will show her?
If you dont have one then you are stuck only talking with her, and trying to battle a sub fifty point interest level from the start.
Be exciting and interesting. And then be ****y and funny. And then be mysterious by keeping your words fewer than hers. Which gives you the power.
Do not allow your strategizing to interfere with your success.
Think back to grade school and learn something useful. Which of the boys got their pick of the girls on the playground?
It was the aggressive, challenging, alpha boys who took action and surrounded themselves with drama and conquest.
It is no different now.
The man of action is adventurous, unpredictable, smart, confident, impartial, untameable (women cant control him), disciplined, aggressive, funny, ****y, interesting, and mysterious which means that he doesnt TALK endlessly about his adventures. Instead he lets her fantasize about the extent of them.