TopGun2000
Don Juan
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she's a better player period
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why Isn't She Jealous?
- Thread starter Racecar
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
zekko
Master Don Juan
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I agree with the others who say she is out playing you.
Mainly because of these three things you said below:
- She has hinted at an extensive dating history.
- She has more male friends than female friends.
- She doesn't call me.
Looks like she has plenty of other options and her interest is low.
You can't really outplay a female who is a good player, just because of the natural male/female dynamic. A woman who reels guys in can get a practically unlimited number of men interested in her.
Mainly because of these three things you said below:
- She has hinted at an extensive dating history.
- She has more male friends than female friends.
- She doesn't call me.
Looks like she has plenty of other options and her interest is low.
You can't really outplay a female who is a good player, just because of the natural male/female dynamic. A woman who reels guys in can get a practically unlimited number of men interested in her.
Dust 2 Dust
Master Don Juan
If she's not calling you she may be a "Rules Girl." The Rules tell women to never call men. Personally, I find these women to be a bore. I expect them to call me every now and then and I will get bored and move on if I feel like I'm doing all the work.
She's still close to her last ex-boyfriend. The guy apparently talks about me and still wants to be a part of her life. She wants to keep him around.
That was the deal breaker.
Thank you all for your input. I'm moving on to better things.
That was the deal breaker.
Thank you all for your input. I'm moving on to better things.
TopGun2000
Don Juan
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she's probably using her ex as a jealousy generator in order to have an upper hand against you. i don't see her to stop playing games in the near future. you made a good move.Racecar said:
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.