Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Alright so I'm extremely confused by what is going on here. I like this girl, she knows it because I told her and she seems to like me suggested by the way we are but... She has huge extremes when it comes to testing someone out.

She asks questions and puts down scenarios, but not simple ones like "would you still like me if I get fat?" nope.

The contradictions are what is making me think too much. She comes off as religious and the entire no sex for a long time stuff (which is how I am anyways) but then she comes out saying stuff like "I would make a terrible girlfriend" I cheat on all my boyfriends, or that she can be a b*tch, etc.

Like personally. Why would you say those things??? And then it's countered with what's seems to be an innocent girl that likes me and hugs me and has strong values and seems like she wouldn't do those kinds of things.

I feel like she is trying to push me away because she is scared or something. Then its followed by us being close again...Anyone have experience with this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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JohnChops

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First line "this girl knows I like her because I told her" ..... Bad mistake there . However this girl seems like she is mental. Back off and go find some new fish
 

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Hate to throw out the cliche line....but this post is BEGGING for it....

Spin more plates.

ARguy said:
Alright so I'm extremely confused by what is going on here. I like this girl, she knows it because I told her and she seems to like me suggested by the way we are but.
Never a good move to tell a girl that you like her...Especially considering that there is no real relationship between you two.

The contradictions are what is making me think too much. She comes off as religious and the entire no sex for a long time stuff (which is how I am anyways) but then she comes out saying stuff like "I would make a terrible girlfriend" I cheat on all my boyfriends, or that she can be a b*tch, etc.
Honestly, man. It just sounds like it's a typical situation where the guy neutered himself.

The girl doesn't respect you. She knows she has you by the balls. So, now she's doing what girls do in that situation - which is, push boundaries for the sake of seeing what you'll put up with.

Like personally. Why would you say those things??? And then it's countered with what's seems to be an innocent girl that likes me and hugs me and has strong values and seems like she wouldn't do those kinds of things.
Would I say those things? No. Would women I date say those things? No. Would a woman who has no respect for me.....yes.

I feel like she is trying to push me away because she is scared or something. Then its followed by us being close again...Anyone have experience with this?

Haha. She's not scared, my friend. That is what we tell ourselves when a girl doesn't accept our efforts to start dating them. "She's scared.....she's been hurt before.....she's just taking it slow." Trust me, if George Clooney walks up and offers to move her to his Paris condo, she wouldn't be "too scared."

A girl who wants you will find a way to have you. A girl who wants you isn't "too scared."

You'll find out when you see how quickly things progress with her NEXT guy.
 

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i would abort mission dude.

girls say stuff like that so when you do catch her cheating, she says "i told you! i'm terrible! please help :-("

so they can play the victim role

girls like this are bad news my friend
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stop worrying.

Spin more plates.

There's no good in this that is for you.

Case closed. Leave my court. :yawn:
 

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She just isn't into you, there is nothing confusing going on here. You need to go out and meet more girls.
 

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Lmao!

Okay, Possible Reasons:

She's not interested.... if she were, she'd be in your arms telling you lovely junk not playing games.

She's just mindscrewing you.... mostly a bye-product of disinterest, might not be though. be true to yourself to know if she really is.

About the cheating on her be-fores.... ultimate sign of no respect, if she were so scared of losing you, she would leave all that out of the story for now. nobody's Christ here so we cannot know for sure....

what's the only way to have you giving the least possible fucck? Get options now. work on getting options, its time consuming enough.
 

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Thanks guys. Yah I don't think I would want to be with someone that starts things off that way at all. Everything you guys said sounds very logical and not worth my time. It's weird because I thought I knew her as a person a little better but what a surprise I got..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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