You're not approaching enough women. So you are unable to recognize patterns in your feedback data. Back when I used to approach alot, I would get like 10 numbers a day. Every girl that looked super interested and had long interactions with would usually flake, and the ones I had 1 minute or less interactions with were the most interested and would show up.
It doesn't make any sense if you're a guy. But intrigue is part of attraction. Alot of guys solve themselves and even categorize themselves as Romantic nice guy before the woman even gets a chance to try and figure him out. With the short interactions, the woman feels an emotional pull towards the mysterious stranger who intrigued her and swept her off her feet and is curious to find out more about him. She feels like she needs closure. Remember, women are all about emotions. Make her feel intrigued and she will chase.
When a woman hasn't been able to categorize a guy yet, she feels uncomfortable. She feels that attraction pull and must resolve the issue of figuring him out. The problem is most guys are so desperate that they do all the work of categorizing themselves within the first interaction. There is nothing else for her to solve.
A man is a mystery even to himself. He should never be solvable....even to God. He should always be spontaneous and unpredictable. So how pathetic does it look for a woman to figure everything about you in 5 minutes? Lol.
After approaching for years, I've realized that past 1 minute, you reach a point of limited return on your investment. You'ved already passed the looks and confidence test, piqued her interest, and figured out logistics (or at least you should). If she is not able to go on an instant date on the spot, you have to leave to maintain an air of mystery and intrigue.
A relationship either moves forward or backwards. It never stays the same. Lingering past the point where you figured out that her logistics isn't suitable for an instant date would move everything backwards. This is when you enter HER frame where you are just entertaining her and getting no sexual escalation in return. She is getting all the validation without having to do anything. So what incentive does she have to see you again? She knows that you will remain there like a loyal dog as long as she wants you to. As if you had no life and anywhere else to go.
Technically you have to see her a second time or at least bounce her to a different spot to create a sense of rapport and trust. Remember, women are emotional. Dont ask why venue bouncing creates the illusion of rapport. Just know that it causes an emotional reaction in her. And she backwards rationalizes that she must trust you to be moving around with you.
All game is creating emotions in her, and her backwards rationalizing she must be interested in you for her to feel this way and do these things with you.
After 15 years of cold approaching and hundreds of phone numbers, I have emperical evidence that the 1 minute number close is the most optimal number close. Even better if you can go on an instant date and change venues. But if you can't, you can't linger like a puppy.
Another thing, dont ask for her number. Suggest a date on the spot. Figure out logistics and agree to a date and time. Then get her number as just a tool to touch base before the date. The number is an afterthought. Never place importance on her number. It's pathetic actually.
As far as intrigue goes, I've been told by women in my social circles that I am the most mysterious guy they know. This is because I am a mystery even to myself. I don't know who or what I am. I am always evolving. Am I a romantic or a bad boy seducer? Who knows. That's up to the women to figure out. I could be both....or neither. Or maybe something even better. That's how women should think about you.
No matter how great you think you are, a woman's imagination can do a better job. She can mentally rationalize you into sex god status. So never solve yourself in front of a woman. Put her hampster to work. And most importantly, never solve yourself to you. Always be evolving towards something greater.
