That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hey man .. Probably the guy(s) she was really interested in DUMPED her and now she comes back to you (the reliable sucker) ! DO you want to be the reliable sucker ? Either way you deserve what you want!PimpOfTheSouth said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
This is weird. She lost interest in you ,but yet she continues to contact you. Well,this I do know:if she keeps trying to contact you,but at the same time she has no interest in getting back into a relationship with you,then she's just being an attention wh0re. You said that you used to have oneitis over her. So if you used to call her all the time,text her,initiate getting together and spending time with her,then it's just all the attention from you that she misses.PimpOfTheSouth said:
Well,you could just ask her why she keeps calling you. It's a direct question,so you may get a direct answer,but I doubt it. She'll probably just give you some little song and dance,but the true answer will leak out more through what she doesn't say than what she says.PimpOfTheSouth said:
Sounds like my ex. Some women (especially manipulative vain ones) need to be wanted. by everyone. She wants to see that you miss her, and pine for her. As soon as she is satisfied she'll stop talking to you, until she needs another confidence "fix". She's a junkie.PimpOfTheSouth said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
hope your doing good...byebye. Sounds like you two had a good reason to break up.PimpOfTheSouth said:Ok Its been about a week since she has private called me so we have now officially had no contact for the longest time ever. 1 Month. Today I got an Email from her and this is exactly how it was written..
hey, how have you been doing its been some time now huh??
well you don't have to respond back i'm not expecting you too..
What is everybodys opinions on this?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
