"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why is she doing this? (UPDATE #1)

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Previous thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=97508

So yes... It's almost been a month and I thought it was necessary that I recieve new advice from you guys since you guys really opened my eyes and made me think about my situation...

So this is what has happned: she mentioned that she would go to prom with me if she didn't have a BF (not sure if she was joking or not, possible), made me be her partner for the class that she made us take together and chose me over the more popular, better looking same age and older guys, has made remarks as I am "like" her best friend (wtf?) and we have a brother/sister type relationship (wtf?x10) Ummm..honestly? What the hell is she doing this for WHY?

And also an ok friend of mine is the same classes that her and I have together and he is probably what you guys call a "DJ", but not really. More of a wannabe, but he still gets some. He currently has a love intrest and I guess just to see if she is intrested in him he flirts with her and stuff...tries to grab her ass and touch her, nothing like I've seen other guys do...and it's starting to tick me off...I know she doesn't like...I think...she'll just laugh it off and ignore it... But everytime he does it I just want to stand up and deck him or jsut very forcefully push him away...thing is I'm not her BF and he is a very good friend of mine. I'm bigger and stronger than he is (we used to work out together) but I'm positive if we got into a fight he would come out on top, maybe. Plus, I'm not even sure if that is the right thing to do or not...

Thanks guys.

And please remember that all I want is TO BE FRIENDS with her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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all I want is TO BE FRIENDS with her
Why you care what other guys do to her as long as you want to be her friend?? I mean the guy is trying to get some ass and you trying to get in the way, fighting him would be dum, disrispectfull, sick. What you should do, is grow some balls, and get in the game, try being a DJ. Slap her ass, grab her tits and squezz them:D, and tell her cruell sex jokes@!!!
 

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shydude said:
Why you care what other guys do to her as long as you want to be her friend?? I mean the guy is trying to get some ass and you trying to get in the way, fighting him would be dum, disrispectfull, sick. What you should do, is grow some balls, and get in the game, try being a DJ. Slap her ass, grab her tits and squezz them:D, and tell her cruell sex jokes@!!!
Are you ****ing around with me?

Did you read the whole thing? The brother/sister thing? If that was your sister and some guy was grabbing at her, you wouldn't be pissed off?

It's not like I'm looking to fight him, or trying to pick a fight, it's just...I can't explain it.

EDIT: I guess the pushing thing was too harsh, not sure, what about some words to him about stop doing it, she doesn't like it, respect her, stuff like that? Yay or Nay?
 

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Elf, I have read your thread about the chick and to be frank it was pointless because there isn't any guide to how to be friends. Friends talk to each other about anything, tease and have fun. Second, Why would you ask her to go the prom if you just want to be friends?. If you read the Bibble, you would know that when she says she want's to be friends, etc it really means that she likes the attention you are giving her.
About beating your friend up for touching her well don't do it even if she say you are like her brother, and blah because woman say something else and do something else. She would say something if she had problem with him touching her ass. So calm down and don't bust balls for this. Also, start looking for girl to go out with during prom.:yes:
 

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Donsing said:
Elf, I have read your thread about the chick and to be frank it was pointless because there isn't any guide to how to be friends. Friends talk to each other about anything, tease and have fun. Second, Why would you ask her to go the prom if you just want to be friends?. If you read the Bibble, you would know that when she says she want's to be friends, etc it really means that she likes the attention you are giving her.
About beating your friend up for touching her well don't do it even if she say you are like her brother, and blah because woman say something else and do something else. She would say something if she had problem with him touching her ass. So calm down and don't bust balls for this. Also, start looking for girl to go out with during prom.:yes:
I didn't ask her to prom. Nor did I think about it. It came up in a conversation one day kinda like this with another person "So, (insert her name here) are you going to prom?"
"No."
"And neither is (insert my name here)!"
"I'd go with him but I have a boyfriend!"

It kinda went along those lines without me extending it or anything. I have no interest in hooking up or getting together with this girl.

Thanks for the advice on the friend of mine. So I should just let her take care of it?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Elf2 said:
Are you ****ing around with me?

Did you read the whole thing? The brother/sister thing? If that was your sister and some guy was grabbing at her, you wouldn't be pissed off?

It's not like I'm looking to fight him, or trying to pick a fight, it's just...I can't explain it.

EDIT: I guess the pushing thing was too harsh, not sure, what about some words to him about stop doing it, she doesn't like it, respect her, stuff like that? Yay or Nay?


NOOO I am not ****ing around with you!!!!


She is not your sister~~~~
And you cant stop from someone grabbing her ass, as long as she likes it!!
Grow the balls.
 

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If you want to be her friend, why are you coming HERE for advice? This is the place to learn how to get chicks, not friends.

And if she's like your sister, why would you be going to prom with her?
 

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dude, you wanna get in her pants admit it.

if not and you're hanging around her like a puppy, you're an AFC.

or gay
 

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Ok, ELF needs help. As par usual, i'll perscribe a simple 3 step plan to success hehe

1. Wake the **** up, she is NOT your sister, the pathetic genes that made an AFC like you would not produce a girl like that. Period.

2. Get the hell over it. Since she isn't any of the following: Sister, cousin, aunt, girlfriend, lover, sex toy, <b>potential lover</b> and/or biotch, then DON'T defend her. She's a big girl, and if she doesn't like it, let her deal with it unless she asks for your help.

3. Seek help. Dude, if you're this worried over some dude mackin on JUST A FRIEND then you need to grow up some if you expect to be able to handle this **** if you ever get a GF.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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