Why is it??

[Knight's Cross]

I know a couple of Higher Quality plates, and yet I'm not as attracted to them? Of course that challenge leads to the whole, Whoever needs the other less has the power in a situation. They FAWN over me, and yet I guess its because they are TOO available I don't go for it as much.
Then there's the plate that isn't showing me as much attention and I have to literally STRUGGLE within to not come on too strong. I hold back and she's all about me when we do connect. Will the dynamic change? Or do I go with Guru and toss her on low interest level? I have seen women turn, they go from playing back to just not being able to stand the challenge that you give them and they lose it and come on gangbuster.
I won't even toss in my ex-BPD, she's showing stalker level attraction. No...I think unhealthy women get tossed from the field. It does reflect the dynamic tho. That unfortunately even women that are unhealthy will CRAVE for you if you ignore them.

The dynamic amazes me. Challenge and a womens imagination are STRONG JUJU.

KC

 

[KontrollerX]

I think its normal for a guy to be attracted a great deal to a woman that plays hard to get just as its normal for a guy to be attracted to a woman that is all over him.

Thing you have to pay attention to within yourself being a victim of BPD is if these new women are really good for you and would've previously been your type before your BPD experience but because of the BPD experience you are now addicted to drama and trying to fix broken women in which you subconsciouly fix a broken part of yourself by fixing them.

If you are not addicted to drama and wild times after all such as the extreme highs and lows of BPD and are totally free of that mindset then to me it looks like you've just ran into some AFC-ish women dude and need to keep hunting for the healthy type of woman that provides a bit of challenge for ya.

 

[Knight's Cross]

K-X I hear ya man. Let me just state, that I learned my lesson with the BPD. I do not want to save a ho. I don't want to fix a problem girl and just want a normal adjusted healthy compatible woman. Working on it. The high quality girls that are into me are just that. Although I don't really desire them. Yes they are acting somewhat AFCish. The plate I do desire is playing semi Rules girl although I catch her betraying that some. She does show her hand some. I'm keeping the dates to a minimum and the phone for setup dates only. There's a part of me that knows she could slip to AFC herself if she lets up just a tad.
No need to fix women I got that one strong and clear. I feel good in the dating arena, don't think the BPD messed that up too bad.

KC

 

[KontrollerX]

I messed up with my last sentence there.

It kind of conveyed AFC women weren't healthy.

They are mentally healthy for sure but like all AFC's simply misguided in life lol.

Anyway yeah looks like you are back in the game 100% and just need to find you a good challenge of a woman thats all.

 

[jophil28]

That is a stretch.
"Addicted to drama" ?? Perhaps those of us who have been "dramatized" by a relationship with a BPD women are DRAWN to seek another. I disagree with the use of the word "addicted" .. because it did not happen that way for me. I found a woman within three months of saying goodbye to my BPD nut, who was almost drama free. I say "almost" because women and drama are like tires and flats. Eventually you are going to have to deal with them.

The key point here is "extracting the wisdom and discernment" from a BPD experience so that you can dodge the next one IF she comes along ( and there are plenty of Pers Dis women out there ).

 

[KontrollerX]

Well jo many of the guys who've been harmed greatly by Cluster B women are in many ways broken and damaged mentally themselves and by putting the woman back together they fix their own problems from when they were a sad lonely little boy by fixing the sad lonely BPD in front of them.

Also if you are raised with a dramatic mother who suffers from depression or bipolar disorder who has that dramatic trait but isn't a BPD or Histrionic you can because of the way you were raised look for and even be addicted to this quality in a woman which makes you seek out damaged women.

If you had a childhood where you weren't raised by a dramatic parent and were generally happy then you and other guys like you that are also victims of these people probably won't become addicted to their drama like reset, myself and others had been.

Hope that clears up what I said a bit.

 

[Knight's Cross]

Interesting K-X,
I still have a good relationship with my mother and father. So I was glad to read that. Got hooked into bad relationship, unplugged from BPD, learned lesson moving on~
KC