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Why is it wrong to generalize women based on cliques and give advice accordingly?

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Most PUAs will say nonsense like "all women are the same" or "just approach her with confidence". After following their advice you will be blown out, rejected, and laughed at.

I have lots of years of experience telling me that women find different things attractive based on culture (and often there is a correlation between race and culture). For example, I notice that I do well with just about any girl that isn't White, I have found that Black women and Latina women have been the easiest for me as those women have approached me.

For Black and Latina women, I will say being ****y funny attracts them even if you aren't that good looking of a guy.

Now on the other hand, I have noticed that FOB Asian girls do not respond well to that kind of game and approach.

What might work on an FOB Asian girl or a Latina will not work on a rich upper middle class White girl.

So why are we still stuck in the PUA mindset that you can't generalize women based on what category they fall into?

Don't bother telling me about this gorgeous ginger you know who dances to Bollywood, loves Mexican food, watches Anime, and has a fetish for Latino guys. I am talking about the majority and not the exceptions.
 

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I can't speak for PUA but this is a self improvement forum, we tend to go more towards things that help us improve for the highest number of women.

Let's say a particular clique of girls love hipster guys. So the specialized advice would be given as follows: dress like a hipster. It wouldn't be wrong necessarily.

But then if we gave advice like "Dress sharp and well" or "Workout at least moderately" this advice would probably work with the vast majority of girls. Of course dressing like a hipster would probably help you more with the clique that loves hipster guys, but this advice certainly would not hurt you.

Since a person cannot know the exact specifics of a person's dating life, they cannot always give super specific advice so only generalized advice is given.

In your example for example, C & F, yeah it can work very well on FOB girls as well I know from experience. Because confident and humorous works with all girls. Sure for some girls, their threshold of what is being ****y and what is being insulting is different, as you may have found FOB girls don't like your level of C &F. That just means you have calibrate for each individual scenario.

We can't teach a person to calibrate for each individual scenario online. We can only give general guidelines which is why Pook always said you can't rely on an online website to give you 100% of all the answers.

Approaching with confidence, working out, teasing, and more are merely guidelines, but they do work for the vast majority of girls. You just have to grow into your own person and you can know when to break and bend these guidelines, but for each person it is different. That's why people don't teach it, it would be almost impossible over the internet.
 

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I wonder if you noticed how you just contradicted yourself. You say not all women are the same - then say that every woman within a race is the same, and must be treated by a certain criteria. THEN you act like you speak for everyone, and tell them they're wrong before they can rebutal, because we all have the same experiences as you, and you're obviously right. Just like that other dumbass on here.

But it doesn't matter, because you're still wrong. It doesn't matter how many girls you approached; what your boyfriends told you about their experiences; or how many girls told you what. If a girl thinks you're "hot", interesting, and a cool, likeable guy - she will be all over it. She won't bring up **** like race, or give you conversational excuses, or act friendly. She will be infatuated, flirtacious, etc. It's THAT simple.

The ONLY person having issues with race is YOU.
 

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General sweeping statements are, by their nature, going to have exceptions.

Race doesn't really matter when it comes to attraction. You're either attractive to someone or you're not. Sure, maybe certain genres of people seem to be attracted to certain things, but then you're getting into socioeconomic status and the way a person was raised. There's a lot of other factors at play besides race.
 
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