why is it that if she loses IL but her head tells her to try it's still difficult?

[big weezy]

once a girl loses interest in you but in her head on paper you are exactly what she's looking for why is it difficult to recover from that?

I understand she thinks with her feelings, and her feelings have the deciding vote, so if she doesn't feel that attraction for you but her head says she should.. wouldn't you think she'd give you more chances to do that?

or is it that they have so many options that they just move on to the next guy who makes her FEEL that attraction irrespective if he ticks the boxes on her head checklist?

I know you are suppose to go no contact on her so she questions her decision, but if you don't and are still on speaking terms is it still possible to turn it around by meeting her for 1 more date in person or is this just a date to justify her decision for rejecting you? i.e. an ambush

 

[loveshogun]

Interesting question. Let's assume, theoretically, that you find a girl who has "the things you're looking for," but you just don't feel it for some reason.

Now, if you had options, would you stick around? No?

Well, that answers your question.

Even better: spend your time making yourself into someone awesome, and all of this psycho-analyzing suddenly becomes much less relevant.

An awesome guy has no time to be thinking about what's going on in a woman's mind. He's jumping out of a plane while shredding a wicked guitar solo, and writing a memoir about how to be more like him.

Yeah... it's been a while since I've been on the board. Anything new happening?

 

[st_99]

she doesn't feel that attraction for you but her head says she should..

if she is struggling to decide on whether she likes you or not, she does not.