why is it like this?

[Robert28]

i've been in a slump lately, well more like the past 3 months. i'd go on dates and nothing would workout and i couldn't figure out why or what iw as doing to not get a second date. fast forward to the last few weeks and i got asked out by the girl who cuts my hair. i did a post on this awhile back if anyone remembers. she's deffinatley a hottie, out of my usual realm of girl that i usually pull. i know that sounds afc, but its the honest truth. anyways, her and i have gone out a few times and everything is going good acctually. my problem? i have noticed girls are coming out of the woodwork now!!! f*cking EVERYWHERE i turn. i'll be somewhere and strike up a friendly conversation with a girl, not gaming her or anything, and man alive you can tell her interest level is high! i've even got girls that haven't given me the time of day in the past, now adding me on facebook and treating me like we've been long lost friends. girls that turned me down are now wanting to hangout???? i'm talking HOT girls are glad to talk to me now it seems. it's so weird. i don't think i'm acting differently? can they honestly tell i'm seeing a girl who's really attractive? how could they know that when they don't know me? why are girls that have turned me down and others that wouldn't give me a second look before, are now wanting to talk to me and hangout??? it's so funny, for months it's all i can do to get a second date, and now once i meet someone it's like i can't f*ck it up with women if i tried! it's pretty much take your pick. are these girls seeing me somewhere with the girl i'm currently hangining out with? if so they don't mention anything about it. why are the girls who i know i would have a hard time gaming before, now seem to be like puddy in my hand??? has this happened to anyone else? i'm sure it has. i mean it's a real confidence booster, but damn where were all these girls at 3 months ago?:crackup:

 

[doctorj]

women can sense that you're not desperate, they pick up that you're seeing someone of value because you must be giving off a vibe unconsciously

 

[Warrior74]

Yup. Women are like bank loans, if you look like you need one, you won't get one.

Don't worry so much about why...its the flow of the universe, even the bible to says, "Whoever has will be given more; whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him." Think about that. Think about rich people, or people with alot of women, or just about anything. It's a universal law. It's the flow. Now start spinning plates so even more can be given to you. Don't stop now man, your on the path. GO!

 

[Sir_Turtle]

Alot of the game tips on this forum focus on the loud dancing monkey game. the game of the dancing monkey works well If you have that type of personality, constantly joking, putting on a show of high energy behaiviour.

This type of game works well in large social settings. But there are other ways to get women.

the truth is that being a dancing monkey will have the odd tendency to get you numbers in a bar or a large social setting such as a party w/e. this is because you are the most noticeable guy, you are the prize. But once the social setting is gone it doesn't matter how loud or entertain you are. Such behaiviour does not communicate that you are a prize.

This is why quiet game is almost always better in the long term. You work on having three things

confidence- you don't need the girl and you don't bother chasing her at first. You aren't easily ruffled or manipulated by anything she says or does.

Abundance- there are girls in your life. This helps with confidence, and girls know that you aren't desperate, this also helps you practice and stay smooth. If you constantly are in contact with girls and are talking to them you get better at it. Girls also find out about other girls chasing you and it creates a sense of urgency. they feel that if they are ever to have you they must act now. This is why it helps to have friend girls in your life, even if you're not screwing every single one other girls will suspect it/ want to be part of your social network simply because you're well liked.

sexual escalation- get a girl alone and just follow ur instincts. Some guys might not have such instincts but It seems you do.

These three things are all parts of a much stronger game that the attention getting kind on this forum.

It sounds like you're subconsciously or maybe deliberately practicing this form of game and its starting to snowball into success, congrats.