"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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why is everything about women?

spang

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its all about her. dont ask one thing about me. the actual chat conversation....


spang: hey whats up

girl:hey not alot yourself?

spang: just stuck at home bored on friday night. hows your fall semester going

girl: cooooo. It's hetic but good overall. yours?

spang:going good

girl: coooooooooooooo

spang: did you go to the homecoming game

girl: hell no

spang: or is that tomorrow

girl: i have negative school spirit
girl:no clue

spang: whys that

girl: bc we suck. we're an academic school and I don't care to watch sports in general

spang:thats true. i dont care for it either
i just go to class and leave pretty much lol

girl:i do stuff at school, i just don't care about that

spang:i saw their last football game on tv and there was like 20 people watching the game
probably the players parents
heh

girl:eek:r various drug lords

spang: haha well the players gotta smoke a bowl after the game to celebrate

girl:more like to numb themselves so they don't about how much they suck

spang:youre not still rockin they wheel chair are you

girl:nope. on my feet up to 2 miles running

spang:thats a comeback

girl:yeah well I've been out of the chair since end of july, and been working out ever since. adding a mile each month. I want to do a triathlon in a year, and the Mercedes in feb.

spang:how did u get injured. i think you told me but i forgot

girl:running

spang:you musta been doing some serious running

girl:yeah 12 miles daily
my fastest time was 4 min, 40 secs
but that was in may 2011
i'll get back to it though

spang:i hate running

girl:i can't live without it

spang:i mean i like sports but long distance running no
i usually play basketball in the gym. thats the most i do

girl:coo

spang:so why arent you out partyin tonite

girl:i worked a 12 hours shift and i work tomorrow and I have **** to do

spang: oh ok lol

nothing else....

its just like whatever. this girl has already stood me up on a dinner date once earlier this year, then just acted like it was nothing. i still tried to talk to her several times after that. this is the first we have chatted in over 6 months and its still all about her. this is what pisses me off about women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Purefilth

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spang said:
its all about her. dont ask one thing about me. the actual chat conversation....


spang: hey whats up

girl:hey not alot yourself?

spang: just stuck at home bored on friday night. hows your fall semester goingBORING - make something exciting up/have something cool to interest her

girl: cooooo. It's hetic but good overall. yours?

spang:going goodelaborate, engage her interest

girl: coooooooooooooo

spang: did you go to the homecoming game

girl: hell no

spang: or is that tomorrow

girl: i have negative school spirit
girl:no clue

spang: whys that

girl: bc we suck. we're an academic school and I don't care to watch sports in general

spang:thats true. i dont care for it eitherhere, youre qualifying yourself to her - sounds like youre just agreeing with her
i just go to class and leave pretty much lol

girl:i do stuff at school, i just don't care about thatyour cue to ask what and try to talk to her emotions "what do you do? whats your favorite thing to do? if you could do anything - what would it be?"

spang:i saw their last football game on tv and there was like 20 people watching the gamethis subject is dead in the water - leave it
probably the players parents
heh

girl:eek:r various drug lords

spang: haha well the players gotta smoke a bowl after the game to celebrate

girl:more like to numb themselves so they don't about how much they suckthis amused me a bit :D

spang:youre not still rockin they wheel chair are youvvv talking about her vvv

girl:nope. on my feet up to 2 miles running

spang:thats a comeback

girl:yeah well I've been out of the chair since end of july, and been working out ever since. adding a mile each month. I want to do a triathlon in a year, and the Mercedes in feb.

spang:how did u get injured. i think you told me but i forgot

girl:running

spang:you musta been doing some serious running

girl:yeah 12 miles daily
my fastest time was 4 min, 40 secs
but that was in may 2011
i'll get back to it though

spang:i hate running

girl:i can't live without it

spang:i mean i like sports but long distance running no
i usually play basketball in the gym. thats the most i do

girl:coo

spang:so why arent you out partyin tonite

girl:i worked a 12 hours shift and i work tomorrow and I have **** to do

spang: oh ok lol

nothing else....

its just like whatever. this girl has already stood me up on a dinner date once earlier this year, then just acted like it was nothing. i still tried to talk to her several times after that. this is the first we have chatted in over 6 months and its still all about her. this is what pisses me off about women.
The conversation was boring:
You had nothing interesting to say

You didnt ask her out

you have the power to guide the conversation however you please

dont wanna talk about her? - change the subject

Girls love to talk about themselves - Why are you surprised by this 'revelation'
she probably had this same chat with 10 other chumps yapping at her heels, trying to lick her boots.

do something different, be interesting
ask her out, Take her out, choose the conversation topic -BUT DON'T BE BORING!!!
bang her
 

spang

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why was it boring? what am i supposed to say? i tried talking about myself but shes like whatever...
 

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spang said:
why was it boring? what am i supposed to say? i tried talking about myself but shes like whatever...
OK i just re-read it

Re-read it and tell me what stops it being boring?

you didnt talk about yourself - but she doesnt seem interested anyway(didnt really try to keep the convo going, did she?)
you chose a topic she doesnt care about -(not your fault - but you could've tried a new topic when you saw that one fail)
then YOU started to ask about her - thats her signal to chatter away about her favorite topic because you didnt have the balls to say

'hey look, im bored, you're bored, lets go catch a beer and find something fun to do'

always have a purpose - this had no point to it.
Read the tips section about texting - the tips apply to online chat too.

This isn't her fault - Take responsibility for your own actions, inactions and failures.

Learn from them.

EDIT- Pointed a few bits that stood out to me up there, but im tired and off to bed now :D
 

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She sounds like a man. Aka, a *****. Thats the kind of response you get from one of the homies. "Coo, whats up, hell no, we / they suck, got **** to do"... Nothing about her messages indicate that she's in the least bit nice or feminine, or even female. Another great catch. I await a follow-up post complaining about bad women. :crackup:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JohnChops

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floydb25 said:
She sounds like a man. Aka, a *****. Thats the kind of response you get from one of the homies. "Coo, whats up, hell no, we / they suck, got **** to do"... Nothing about her messages indicate that she's in the least bit nice or feminine, or even female. Another great catch. I await a follow-up post complaining about bad women. :crackup:
Agreed, what girl says "cooooooo", better yet what mature person? Fvck this girl move on shes lame
 
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