Why improving your looks is ineffective in the long run

[CornbreadFed]

I don't understand the analogy with dad bods and sexy girls and porn.
What happened to you when a girl couldn't take her eyes off you happens to me often with women, and then they go have hot sex with their dad bod anyway.

A dad bod is a large frame that works out but also will not pass down taco Tuesdays and happy hour Wednesdays. Basically, you played football in HS and College and settled down, but stayed in the gym.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I skimmed the post.
It’s about escalating on a woman’s interest not mine.
What’s that got to do with wearing a leather jacket to get noticed in the first place?

Attracting magnificent people into your life(women included)is most effectively obliquely: Look after our appearances, primairly for the sake of our self-concept, and women end being a byproduct

 

[Gamisch]

In my experience, muscles and your physique are very attractive to women.

Let me understand, with your post, do you mean that a man with a belly has more self-confidence than others because of his "job," which leads to more "confidence," or simply more opportunities to learn "psychological tricks" from his job??

One thing doesn't necessarily rule out the other.

But yeah, a belly doesn't NECESSARILY mean a woman won't love / feck/ want / like you. Just touch grass and observe..

Let's be real : in this space we kinda live in an alternative reality where we focus on shyte like approach, field report and bodycount. It's a world within a world, kinda similar to people caring about world of warcraft shyte.

The majority of people DGAF about these things. I'd even argue that if you have time to be in the gym several hours per day 7 days per week that you're doing something wrong in this economy...

 

[Manure Spherian]

Another one: the busy man belly.

A man who is extremely busy won't have time to be in the gym 24/7 and thus have a less muscular build but a FAT azz wallet...and the confidence to be a winner in life..( yes if you manage to put both together you'll be in the
1-5 percentile meaning you wake up at 4,30 go to the gym and work till 22.00 while eating like a anorexic women EVERY day)

Shyte like aura and energy are hard to put in words , but if you see it you'll instantly recognise it. Recently there was this seemingly normal looking dude who made the entire bar piss themselves from laughing . Average looking dude but after his cconfident jokes( dry face style but shape as knife and unapologetic) his stock went UP immediately.

Men aren’t supposed to be " pretty". That's why if you are honest you'll see plenty of " Average looking men" with attractive women. Those men might not even be thinking about being pretty but about all the other things that are important to his life and his partner..

Finally I'd say that there's a correlation between "pretty" men and ghey men...a very thin line..you tell me what is what.

Women don’t give a **** about pot bellies so long as they’re not excessive. I’ve been shredded to the bone and I now have a middle-aged four pack, but that’s because I love lifting and physical activity generally.

We can go to the beach today and see the majority of men with women are soft-bodied.

 

[Cheeky_James]

Attracting magnificent people into your life(women included)is most effectively obliquely: Look after our appearances, primairly for the sake of our self-concept, and women end being a byproduct

Well ... I don’t think our viewpoints are that different tbh. The basis of attraction to me is “ like attracts like” if you want to attract magnificent people, look magnificent as a start point. I’m a pretty cool guy. I’ve just let my fashion and style slide the past few years .im older now and out of touch re dating.
a guys self concept could include ‘ being a sexy and stylishly dressed quality guy to attract a similar mate’. There is no approval seeking in that , just awareness and social savvy to me,