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Why improving your looks is ineffective in the long run

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In Nashville, most guys walk around looking like some kind of Iron Man Pickleball King version of Riley Green. But they are usually with busted looking girls who look hungover and worn out, like they had a rough night. What is even more confusing is that you often see the most attractive women with guys who are not Chads at all. So, what gives?

The reality is that most guys can become a seven or even an eight. Unless you have a serious physical deformity, you can make yourself relatively attractive just by getting to a healthy weight, keeping up with hygiene, learning how to dress, and working on your presence. One of my favorite YouTubers did exactly that (Pictured is How to Beast). What he did was not complicated. It just took consistency, some discipline, and the willingness to learn and fail along the way.

This works well in places where most men are not trying. If the average guy is lazy and out of shape, even a little effort makes you stand out. But when every man is trying to improve his looks and presentation, things change. In that kind of environment, women start choosing based on traits you cannot control, like being six foot three, having perfect bone structure, or looking like a celebrity.

With the internet and the spread of black pill ideas, looksmaxing and gym culture have become normal for a lot of younger men. But the truth is, most so called incels are not ugly. They usually fall in that seven to eight range. The issue is they are not quite good looking enough to get the women they want but also refuse to settle for someone they see as below their value.

Honestly, I do not even think How to Beast's wife is all that attractive. That just proves my point.

So, if most guys are out here trying to look like a five foot ten Riley Green, the most desirable women are going to choose the few men who look like Chris Hemsworth. That leaves everyone else to pair off with average women or get left with the options no one really wants.

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Women value the most emotionally and socially resilient men. They often place confidence, status, and presence above physical looks. Yes, looks matter, but most guys just need to reach a minimum level of attractiveness. Once you pass that line, it becomes about who you are, not just how you look. Notice the guys that see the most success from looksmaxxing are guys that went from a 3 to a 6-7 vs the guys that went from a 6 to a 7-8. This is because these guys already had attractive non-physical traits but just needed to reach the minimum level of attractiveness for women.

Unfortunately, a lot of men never even get started when it comes to developing real confidence or status. They are stuck, held back by past mistakes, rejections, or failures that left a mark. It becomes a cycle that they never escape from.

Confidence is not something you can neglect. It is delicate and must be built and protected with care. Too many men treat it like some expendable resource, like a peasant Soviet soldier thrown into the Eastern Front. That mindset leads to burnout and emotional numbness.

The reality is, most guys today walk around with low confidence, low energy, and dry or forgettable personalities. They think having muscles or growing a mustache will somehow make up for that. But women see through it. The performance is obvious, and it falls flat.

Look up any video where a man creates a fake female dating profile. You will see the same pattern over and over. The men reaching out all blend together. They are not ugly, but they give off the same dull, lifeless energy. No spark. No presence.

For many men, this problem runs deep. Fixing it takes time, effort, and a mental reset. A lot of guys have been mentally poisoned by the red pill and black pill mindsets. These ideas strip away hope, joy, and social awareness. They create cold, bitter men who are hard to connect with.

Women will always choose a man who is a six out of ten but fun, confident, and emotionally present over a man who is technically more attractive but acts like a social robot or gives off creepy energy. Women follow how they feel, not a rating scale.

Yes, Chads can get away with almost anything. But here is the truth, you are not a Chad, and no amount of looks optimization will turn you into one. You need to build on your actual strengths, not chase an impossible standard.


TLDR: Looksmaxing can help but it is not the most effective way to become more attractive. Yes, you should go to the gym and take care of your appearance but that is only the beginning.

The real problem for many men is broken confidence and an unattractive personality. You cannot fix that with muscles or a new haircut. For some, the answer is not another workout plan but therapy, moving to a new city, focusing on women that find your type attractive instead of trying to become this magical skeleton key, or making a big change in life.

This is not a simple issue like a cold or infection. It is more like latent tuberculosis. It stays inside you, slowly harming you over time. If you ignore it, it will keep consuming you from within.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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some of the men with subpar looking women chose them due to the behavior of them. they look good enough and treat the man like a king. getting a 9 to treat you like a king over a long time takes you being a 10+. i don't personally know any 10+ men....

the side effects of improving your looks will help.
 

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This theory is so ridiculous.

The number 1 thing hot women look for in men is looks. OP is saying don’t do that, he INSULTS the reader, and says work on personality.

Yes men, for single mothers, for overweight women, for ugly women, for menopausal women, work on personality.

:rofl:
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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some of the men with subpar looking women chose them due to the behavior of them. they look good enough and treat the man like a king. getting a 9 to treat you like a king over a long time takes you being a 10+. i don't personally know any 10+ men....

the side effects of improving your looks will help.
I see that working in some scenarios, but I have seen and personally experienced the exact opposite of that lol.
 

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With the internet and the spread of black pill ideas, looksmaxing and gym culture have become normal for a lot of younger men. But the truth is, most so called incels are not ugly. They usually fall in that seven to eight range.
I bet most women would disagree with you. I'm not saying most incels are ugly, but I don't believe that women would rate them as 7s or 8s. Women tend to rate most average men rather low in the looks category. It takes something special to get their attention to rate them higher. They're probably rating most of those incel guys at around a 5, or less.
 

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Why do you think this?
I bet most women would disagree with you. I'm not saying most incels are ugly, but I don't believe that women would rate them as 7s or 8s. Women tend to rate most average men rather low in the looks category. It takes something special to get their attention to rate them higher. They're probably rating most of those incel guys at around a 5, or less.
If one is a 7 or 8 and an incel, one must have a SEVERE mental illness or personality disorder.
I know several incels. They are 4-5.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Why do you think this?
Aside from lack of discipline/time/money/geneics… to get a good body. Most men don’t have the baseline facial good looks to get to 8. Perhaps a tall guy with an average face and a body of Adonis could be a 7.
 

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But the truth is, most so called incels are not ugly. They usually fall in that seven to eight range.

Agree that they aren’t typically hideous ugly. Maybe 4 to 6, with a 5 average is more common. Many are lower tier normies.

Unfortunately, a lot of men never even get started when it comes to developing real confidence or status. They are stuck, held back by past mistakes, rejections, or failures that left a mark. It becomes a cycle that they never escape from.

Confidence is not something you can neglect. It is delicate and must be built and protected with care. Too many men treat it like some expendable resource, like a peasant Soviet soldier thrown into the Eastern Front. That mindset leads to burnout and emotional numbness.

The reality is, most guys today walk around with low confidence, low energy, and dry or forgettable personalities. They think having muscles or growing a mustache will somehow make up for that. But women see through it. The performance is obvious, and it falls flat.

They are not ugly, but they give off the same dull, lifeless energy. No spark. No presence.

For many men, this problem runs deep. Fixing it takes time, effort, and a mental reset. A lot of guys have been mentally poisoned by the red pill and black pill mindsets. These ideas strip away hope, joy, and social awareness. They create cold, bitter men who are hard to connect with.

Women will always choose a man who is a six out of ten but fun, confident, and emotionally present over a man who is technically more attractive but acts like a social robot or gives off creepy energy. Women follow how they feel, not a rating scale.

Yes, Chads can get away with almost anything. But here is the truth, you are not a Chad, and no amount of looks optimization will turn you into one. You need to build on your actual strengths, not chase an impossible standard.


TLDR: Looksmaxing can help but it is not the most effective way to become more attractive. Yes, you should go to the gym and take care of your appearance but that is only the beginning.

The real problem for many men is broken confidence and an unattractive personality. You cannot fix that with muscles or a new haircut. For some, the answer is not another workout plan but therapy, moving to a new city, focusing on women that find your type attractive instead of trying to become this magical skeleton key, or making a big change in life.

This is not a simple issue like a cold or infection. It is more like latent tuberculosis. It stays inside you, slowly harming you over time. If you ignore it, it will keep consuming you from within.
I think there is some really good stuff here (shown above) that is getting glossed over due to disagreements on some looks numbers or looks issues.

Looks aside, plenty of guys definitely are carrying mental “wounds” from past rejections and have a very dry “zombie” vibe. And they do not have the genetics to rock a strong/silent/dry Chad kind of persona. So, their personality/confidence will definitely matter a lot.
 

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I see that working in some scenarios, but I have seen and personally experienced the exact opposite of that lol.
nothing overcomes if the man is not in tune. he can look like a god, and fail. there is a vibe and sub channel that radiates, most women can read that fast. if the man is in tune, it can work well. if the man is lost, all bets are off.
 

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I bet most women would disagree with you. I'm not saying most incels are ugly, but I don't believe that women would rate them as 7s or 8s. Women tend to rate most average men rather low in the looks category. It takes something special to get their attention to rate them higher. They're probably rating most of those incel guys at around a 5, or less.
Because women rate men differently than men. A man can be an 8 on paper, but if he he’s not a woman’s type then he’s an invisible 1 to her. This is why i emphasize not being average/weird because you put yourself in the unattractive boring male category otherwise.
 

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If one is a 7 or 8 and an incel, one must have a SEVERE mental illness or personality disorder.
I know several incels. They are 4-5.
Aside from lack of discipline/time/money/geneics… to get a good body. Most men don’t have the baseline facial good looks to get to 8. Perhaps a tall guy with an average face and a body of Adonis could be a 7.
You can easily be a 7-8 incel by not marketing yourself appropriately and having a terrible outbound strategy. An 8 is the highest, but a 7-7.5 is definitely within reach for most guys. A 6-7 isn't Chad Lite territory, but you should definitely meet the baseline for minimal attraction for most women.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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OP I think you need to log off Usually, your threads are spot on but this is just nonsensical drivel which is compeltely false
This theory is so ridiculous.

The number 1 thing hot women look for in men is looks. OP is saying don’t do that, he INSULTS the reader, and says work on personality.

Yes men, for single mothers, for overweight women, for ugly women, for menopausal women, work on personality.

:rofl:
Agreed any man who use to be skinny or fat, and gets buff or in shape will realize not only do women choose morer but it also builds confidence. I can speak from perosnal experincer when I dropped 50 pounds a few years ago, being able to fit in a tight polo and having gorgeous women stare me down when they use to give me the "Ewww" face gives a big boost to your confidence
 

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Agreed any man who use to be skinny or fat, and gets buff or in shape will realize not only do women choose morer but it also builds confidence. I can speak from perosnal experincer when I dropped 50 pounds a few years ago, being able to fit in a tight polo and having gorgeous women stare me down when they use to give me the "Ewww" face gives a big boost to your confidence
Yes, I stated this in the OP.

Notice the guys that see the most success from looksmaxxing are guys that went from a 3 to a 6-7 vs the guys that went from a 6 to a 7-8. This is because these guys already had attractive non-physical traits but just needed to reach the minimum level of attractiveness for women.
A guy going from a 3-7 will have much more successes at looksmaxxing because his confidence is affected by physical traits not the non-physical traits. Once you go from Nutty Professor to Micheal B. Jordan, you bring in confidence, finally pass the baseline threshold for attractiveness, and more than likely possess non-physical traits that set you apart from other men. However, a guy that is already average/ borderline attractive will see marginal gains from looksmaxxing because he is held back by internal non-physical setbacks not physical. His problem is that he truly lacks confidence, has an unattractive personality, arrogant, and etc which cannot be fixed by muscles. Yes, it might give him a few leads, but women will quickly realize that he is just another gymcel fvck typical boy and reject him.
 

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Yes, I stated this in the OP.



A guy going from a 3-7 will have much more successes at looksmaxxing because his confidence is affected by physical traits not the non-physical traits. Once you go from Nutty Professor to Micheal B. Jordan, you bring in confidence, finally pass the baseline threshold for attractiveness, and more than likely possess non-physical traits that set you apart from other men. However, a guy that is already average/ borderline attractive will see marginal gains from looksmaxxing because he is held back by internal non-physical setbacks not physical. His problem is that he truly lacks confidence, has an unattractive personality, arrogant, and etc which cannot be fixed by muscles. Yes, it might give him a few leads, but women will quickly realize that he is just another gymcel fvck typical boy and reject him.

Gymcells and FBoys get the most women from what i see or the prettiest. It's like the skinny girl with a big butt and big breasts(if that's what you'rer into). The reality is that there are women who love FBoys. Not every woman is some emotionally intelligent creature looking for a good guy, there are toxic women who love toxic men. Women who like a guy who they can't control cause they view it as a challenge etc.

Like most things in life and women it's about nuance
 

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Gymcells and FBoys get the most women from what i see or the prettiest. It's like the skinny girl with a big butt and big breasts(if that's what you'rer into). The reality is that there are women who love FBoys. Not every woman is some emotionally intelligent creature looking for a good guy, there are toxic women who love toxic men. Women who like a guy who they can't control cause they view it as a challenge etc.

Like most things in life and women it's about nuance
Unfortunately, I just have to disagree with you here on this lol. Yes, there's women that prefer FBoys, but the market for them is over-saturated. In economic terms, it is not a winning strategy to be a fvck boy/gymcel because the competition is too high for the market and your area really easy to spot out in the crowd. Being a fvck boy/gymcel is like being a relatively attractive female with tattoos and piercings everywhere openly displaying to every man that you are toxic af. This is why you see these guys flooding the apps with desperation because the market is so over-saturated with them. Last, if a girl is openly into zombie minded fvck boys then what does that say about her? Do you really consider her a girl of long-term value at the end of the day? Even if you are just pumping and dumping, this is the type of girl to show up to your house unannounced and pull some crazy shvt.
 

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Unfortunately, I just have to disagree with you here on this lol. Yes, there's women that prefer FBoys, but the market for them is over-saturated. In economic terms, it is not a winning strategy to be a fvck boy/gymcel because the competition is too high for the market and your area really easy to spot out in the crowd. Being a fvck boy/gymcel is like being a relatively attractive female with tattoos and piercings everywhere openly displaying to every man that you are toxic af. This is why you see these guys flooding the apps with desperation because the market is so over-saturated with them. Last, if a girl is openly into zombie minded fvck boys then what does that say about her? Do you really consider her a girl of long-term value at the end of the day? Even if you are just pumping and dumping, this is the type of girl to show up to your house unannounced and pull some crazy shvt.
I mean it could be a regional thing but gymbros and Fboys (who look good) are cleaning up where I live. They have their choice of the prettiest girls. I live in the same state where they shoot "Love is Blind Season 8" and you notice one of the characters named Dave was the biggest douchbag and had the nice girl chasing him the whole season even though he didn't want her. This is the reality where I live.
 
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