"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why I used to attract girls even as an AFC

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I dunno why but on my way home a few minutes ago i came to a big realization for myself. Sometimes (not often) i wondered how i managed to attract girls i was aiming for even as a total AFC. I just always figured it was because i was a pretty decent looking guy, however i just realized thats not really it at all.

I think the thing that did it for me was sexual tension. As an AFC, i used to be so shy, i wouldn't even talk to the girls i liked because i was too afraid. However, i would always give them positive body language and lots of eye contact. This definitely created a tension between me and the girl, and since i was attracted to her she began to be attracted to me ala Gunwitch.

I realized this because there is this HB8 i used to have crazy one-itis for last year. I did all these things to her and got her attracted to me but sadly never made a move. (dumb AFC me:cuss: ) Now, i see her sometimes in school, never really often, but never talked to her. At our schools football game the other day, my friends were hanging out with hers and voila, she practically burst out in conversation flirting all over the place, grabbing me etc.

This all ties into ignoring the person i guess, however i think i added my own little twist into it. Anyway, it was a revelation for me and i just felt like sharing it:up:

P.S. Number closed that girl:up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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im the same way i use to be shy but not as much but still i would maybe meet a girl or talk to them for a while then i would see them and not approach. shyness comes off as cute or being ****y win win situation. next thing you know they are all over me. i cant tell you how many girls have been like geez you seemed so stuck up.
 
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Chances are you ARE good-looking. You're describing me, I was like this.

You might not be a model but you're probably ALOT better looking than you think.

Girls like confidence so don't think you are doing anything right, I had a similar oneitus that I didn't do anything (I always thought she would ask me out if she liked me), eventually she just lost respect for me. You can play bit of hard to get but eventually you will have to step up and ask her out because she won't do it.
 
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sorry to be totally ignorant but could someone expand the AFC acronym for me please?
 
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Afc

AFC is average frustrated chump, average in the sense that he's ordinary not a DJ,and usually these guys are frustrated in life as they cant get any nookie, these are what we call chumps hence A.F.C
I hope its clear.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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very clear, what i've been for the last 3 years since i stopped visiting forums like these basically. sosuave's very different since i last visited

can't believe i let things get so out of control, heh
 
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