Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I do get girls. I've never thought about my height, let alone feel self-conscious about it when I'm around people. It's all about your presence as a Protector - which is one major thing women respond to. Height is a physical representation of a Protector. However, there are other things that can do the same job: strength (physical and mental), voice projection, speed & agility, stamina, strong balance etc. If girls feel safe & protected around you, that's all that matters. They often have a height preference because often that's their only way of interpreting their attraction for the Protector type.wutangfinancial said:yo, Jitterbug-do you get girls though?
I felt fine about my height until last year (I'm almost 23) after being rejected for it non-stop. Sometimes, you can feel confident about it, but it doesn't help. I'm 5'8 too. Just be glad you aren't an inch shorter. It's funny, a 5'7 guy looks so much shorter than me, cuz once you get below 5'8 every inch makes you look tiny.
i respect this post. you are honest. it does suck to be short. that is why a lot of short guys have a chip on their shoulders. like they have to pick on bigger guys like me when they are with some hor. shortness for a guy is like age on a broad. both denote lack of fertility (at least in the mind of the opposite sex).LostAndConfused said:I'm 5'6.5-5'7". This is worse than being a tiny bit taller, and its worse than being shorter too, the reason why is that your just UNDER the height where you actually get taken seriously. But you are still under it. When you are even shorter, girls don't take you seriously, but they do give you a fighting chance, and when you are taller, girls are just naturally attracted to you. Most of my friends my height don't even get the opportunity to use game.
And yes its a pain in the *ss knowing that you can beat shyt in a fight out of the guys disrespecting you who only have a couple of inches on you, but they still disrespect you nonetheless.
My only option is to hit the gym, honestly, because an average build short guy apparently looks pathetic to women.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ha You said what I was thinking. So long as you cna make your way in life, have a job and get laid it shouldn't be a problem. I do know a couple of short people who just can't get over it and feel the need to stare people every where they go.Wired for Sound said:He already told you. He's insecure, and thus made an attempt to seek validation from the rest of the forum by telling everyone that he's "tall and good-looking". He also criticizes the attributes of others in another attempt to feel better about himself, so I guess you could say it's a sort of "double-whammy" of compliment-seeking.
wutangfinancial said:yo, Jitterbug-do you get girls though?
I felt fine about my height until last year (I'm almost 23) after being rejected for it non-stop. Sometimes, you can feel confident about it, but it doesn't help. I'm 5'8 too. Just be glad you aren't an inch shorter. It's funny, a 5'7 guy looks so much shorter than me, cuz once you get below 5'8 every inch makes you look tiny.
And yes, ALL the 20 something virgins on this board are under 5'9.
The best solution? GO TO ANOTHER COUNTRY....namely Mexico! anything over 5'6 is a good height in Mexico!
The guys I really feel sorry for are those under 5'5-5'6....they really can't do anything...or ever really be loved...I've never met a guy under 5'5/5'6 that's married, etc. And there's no where in the world they can go where they'll be a good height.
wutangfinancial said:I actually agree with Aldaris, though. Short guys are often pricks, or overly dominating in conversation. But, you have to understand just how awful their lives are. I read somewhere that the suicide rate for short guys is 4 X that of tall guys.
How many times do people need to tell you: you are NOT short. But you are also not tall either.wutangfinancial said:I actually agree with Aldaris, though. Short guys are often pricks, or overly dominating in conversation. But, you have to understand just how awful their lives are. I read somewhere that the suicide rate for short guys is 4 X that of tall guys.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
what? here i thought that this was a thread on guys who dig chicks. easy for gay guys to be the center of attention around broads.Cesare Cardinali said:In 2005 I hung out with Neil Strauss (Style) author of the book "the Game" for a weekend. He is around 5'6, bald, and very skinny. He was able to approach and pick up tons of chicks, even pull girls from their boyfriends. This was before his book came out and he was not some celebrity. In fact, Mystery was also with us and Style clearly had better game than Mystery who was a good foot taller than Style.
Sometimes, when you argue for a deficiency you have you can find so many points to back it up. And in reality if you look in the other direction, you'll find an equal number of points to refute your limiting belief.
Cesare Cardinali
Cesare said that Style was picking up lots of women... now, unless I'm misinterpreting things, surely that makes him hetrosexual?aldaris said:what? here i thought that this was a thread on guys who dig chicks. easy for gay guys to be the center of attention around broads.
well damnstuka1939 said:Yeah they do, but it costs like 60K and you have to take like a year off from work.
How tall are you?
Mate, as I said, my "short" friend has the best-looking girlfriend out of our group.muhuwahaha said:well damn![]()
well I'm 5'9" with sneakers..I guess that makes me a solid 5'8" barefoot.
I'm just bitter at my genetics. I mean chicks are as tall as me ffs, and men tower over me. I hate that so much.
I'm hoping I get taller by the time I'm 23...I'm hoping for a miracle and hope to grow 2 inches.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
God when will anybody learn!?aldaris said:http://www.webmd.com/news/20000112/women-tall-men
more proof that height does matter. i reference scientific research.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.