Why I feel confidence is much more than good looks.

[DJ_James]

My boss is 24.

Mind you he is probably a half a foot, or a foot taller than me but he probably is like 6'5 and weighs a minimum of 260-270 pounds. Probably much more. Hes a very overweight guy.

But he pulls the hottest chicks on the planet mostly because hes stern and confident. I have seen incredibly overweight guys where you can see their massive tits have really hot girlfriends. They are extremely confident and have never had problem with women.

Whats your opinion on this?

 

[skinnyguy]

I have been very confidently approaching women for the past week, and not gotten a single number.

If I looked like Brad Pitt I'd have at least 10 numbers by now.

 

[Mike32ct]

It's physical dominance. Big guys like that usually do well with women.

Also 6'5" is an elite height. Pretty much any body type will work for a 6'5" guy from super skinny to overweight.

 

[synergy1]

Women will literally drop their panties for a guy who is 6'5" or above. 260 for that height isn't "very overweight". If this guy was ripped, he'd literally have to go out to a bar, stand there like a statue and get approached. Your posts just proved the opposite of what you wanted!

I wish for the love of god people could get off these stupid arguments about ___matters, ____matters more crap. Its a sure sign that most people not only don't get laid, but probably have never even had success with women. What matters is you. If you put in the time, become someone of value, than you'll reap the rewards. The fact is people want to subscribe to simple anecdotal evidence of ____ matters because its intellectually lazy ( as stated on another thread).

Go out there. Get ripped. Get smart. Get rich. Do whatever. it will work. When you become the man, women will come to you. do WORK!!!

 

[Vice]

I always get complimented on my looks; but they only get my foot in the door. Lately I haven't been very confident and I've lost good opportunities my looks initially opened up for me.

 

[El Payaso]

Women will literally drop their panties for a guy who is 6'5" or above. 260 for that height isn't "very overweight". If this guy was ripped, he'd literally have to go out to a bar, stand there like a statue and get approached. Your posts just proved the opposite of what you wanted!

I wish for the love of god people could get off these stupid arguments about ___matters, ____matters more crap. Its a sure sign that most people not only don't get laid, but probably have never even had success with women. What matters is you. If you put in the time, become someone of value, than you'll reap the rewards. The fact is people want to subscribe to simple anecdotal evidence of ____ matters because its intellectually lazy ( as stated on another thread).

Go out there. Get ripped. Get smart. Get rich. Do whatever. it will work. When you become the man, women will come to you. do WORK!!!

This.

 

[machoMax]

Well your "feeling" is OK There was much talks about confidence as factor #1 when it come to women , they simply are attracted to this more than everything else (ok, maybe money can "bat" confidence)

 

[PeasantPlayer]

My dad was 6'5, didn't inherit a damn thing from it lol.

 

[machoMax]

My dad was 6'5, didn't inherit a damn thing from it lol.

depends. I am about same, and I don;t know is it related or not bot works for me

 

[GS750]

6'0" or over, in my opinion, definitely raises your value in a girls eyes. When I was on match all the hotties had 6'0"+ for who they were looking for, even the ones who were 5'0". A guy who's well over six feet tall is going to have a dominant presence. Plus, very few men reach a height of over 6'2". It's not common.

 

[zekko]

I always get complimented on my looks; but they only get my foot in the door. Lately I haven't been very confident and I've lost good opportunities my looks initially opened up for me.

You're blaming yourslef ("I haven't been very confident"), but maybe it's just a matter of the chemistry not being there. At the end of the day, unless you get a first night lay or whatever, you're going to have to vibe with the girl. If the vibe isn't there, it's not there.

The thing about confidence is that it allows the man to take the actions he needs to - make the approach, escalate, etc. Since the man is the pursuer and the woman is passive (in most cases), confidence will get more results than not. The woman can only choose from the men who pursue her (for the most part).

The guy in the OP is technically obese, but I agree his height is a factor in his success. Size can be intimidating and dominant, and a lot of times a big husky fellow can get a girl where the skinny guy cannot. The bigger guy is more able to protect, and less likely to be disrespected.

 

[Jaylan]

^260 at 6'5 is obese? Really? There are football players who are 6'2 and weigh they much and in phenomenal shape. Im 5'9 and 175, yet a slim and athletic build guy. According to certain indexes, like BMI, Id be considered obese based on my height and weight alone. Without seeing someone, height and weight cannot always tell us much.

I always get complimented on my looks; but they only get my foot in the door. Lately I haven't been very confident and I've lost good opportunities my looks initially opened up for me.

A foot in the door is better than no opportunity at all. You must realize that less attractive dudes, even with all the confidence in world, might not get any foot in the door with the attractive women who shoot indicators of interest your way.

Women will literally drop their panties for a guy who is 6'5" or above. 260 for that height isn't "very overweight". If this guy was ripped, he'd literally have to go out to a bar, stand there like a statue and get approached. Your posts just proved the opposite of what you wanted!

I wish for the love of god people could get off these stupid arguments about ___matters, ____matters more crap. Its a sure sign that most people not only don't get laid, but probably have never even had success with women. What matters is you. If you put in the time, become someone of value, than you'll reap the rewards. The fact is people want to subscribe to simple anecdotal evidence of ____ matters because its intellectually lazy ( as stated on another thread).

Go out there. Get ripped. Get smart. Get rich. Do whatever. it will work. When you become the man, women will come to you. do WORK!!!

This.

Btw, OP glossed over that his boss prolly has cash and status that some of those chicks may be on the look out for.

Also, many men have the habit of understating the looks of another man. It could very well be that these women find OPs boss very physically attractive.

 

[Serenity]

Confidence is the key, but the difficulty is explaining it. I know how it works, but also realize the seemingly contradictory phenomenon. The thing about it is that it isn't about anything concrete, it's just the knowledge of when to do what, how and why. And the fact that it's more guided by emotion and an abstract dynamic framework for interpreting them.

Looks are secondary. If you can generate the right emotions and handle yourself like a piece of artwork, then you could pull even if you look like a pile of sh!t.

 

[foreverAFC]

you said he is your boss, so im assuming he has a decent amount of money

 

[GADavid]

I am 6'1" and routinely told I'm good looking, yet I have no success because my confidence and willingness to work for it are in the toilet

 

[Ronaldo7]

I am 6'1" and routinely told I'm good looking, yet I have no success because my confidence and willingness to work for it are in the toilet

Isn't that the truth.

 

[SeymourCake]

Just make sure you groom yourself well, lift, and keep your personal hygiene up and you'll be good.

 

[skinnyguy]

Fat ugly guy who is confident = creepy

Good looking ripped guy who is confident = sexy

Next.

 

[VladPatton]

It's almost always a combination of everything you've got. Imagine it like a pinball machine with one flipper, and no bumpers, which represents that one attribute you offer. When you have many attributes, it's like a pinball machine with a ton of bumpers and 4 flippers. She goes from looks, to money, to confidence, to value, to respect and all the lights light up and you....score.

Develop, develop all you've got. There is no magic single attribute.

 

[skinnyguy]

It's almost always a combination of everything you've got. Imagine it like a pinball machine with one flipper, and no bumpers, which represents that one attribute you offer. When you have many attributes, it's like a pinball machine with a ton of bumpers and 4 flippers. She goes from looks, to money, to confidence, to value, to respect and all the lights light up and you....score.

Develop, develop all you've got. There is no magic single attribute.

Agreed, I would say there is really no point in spending time in arguing over it and being butthurt, I think that we can all try to capitalize on what we've got.