why haven't you got a girlfriend?

[Jeremymichael]

I have had this alot recently from women. This one woman keeps mentioning that she is on a mission to find me one as is her younger friend (the one who recently flaked on me). I do not know why she keeps saying it?. She mentions that I'm not a leader and that I lack confidence. Great- sounds a bit patronizing to be honest?.

Anyway I have had this from a number of girls\women, not sure how to handle it?

 

[ViciousDADogg]

Get close to her, face to face, take her hand, whatever. Picture something romantik and do something like that..

Then tell her seductively and in the right bed room flirting tone with eyes and all. "I'm looking for a perfect girl." PAUSEEE as you make love to her eyes. "Not just another average girl" as you almost go for a kiss but then back off.

Do it smooth..



Her asking that is a sh1t test for her. (not her friend).... If you answer straight up using your rational, you fail it. She is asking why wouldn't you hit on me you hot guy? Lately you've gotten hotter and smoother, so lately women want you, thus lately they are asking yout his question. Now that you know you're hot, hit on them, they want to get flattered.

 

[Nighthawk]

You sound like the really nice guy that every woman thinks would make an ideal boyfriend for someone else. Meanwhile they are fucking Mr Not-So-Nice.

Be more dominant, work on that confidence, display your sexual state, and you will find women thinking 'I better snap this one up before some other bitch nabs him.'

 

[Zazenth]

A girl who is on mission to set you up with her friends (worse her younger friends) has only pity for you. She already flaked on you, so anymore advice on trying to win her over or get her back, is waste of time.

Do what NighHawk suggest, focus on yourself.

 

[Jeremymichael]

well it's very nice for her to feel pity for me, god knows why. I forgot to mention she kept rubbing up against me. She also mentioned that I was shy and was not a leader but prefered to be led?

 

[ViciousDADogg]

well it's very nice for her to feel pity for me, god knows why. I forgot to mention she kept rubbing up against me. She also mentioned that I was shy and was not a leader but prefered to be led?

That's because you not making move on her (or anybody else).. She thinks you shy and she wants you to make a move...

Do as I said..

It shows them you're a mack.




ANother thing. She's a girl. She can't say why don't you have a girlfriend, how about me..

 

[Nighthawk]

It's not nice to be pitied! Have you no self-respect?

 

[ViciousDADogg]

It's not nice to be pitied! Have you no self-respect?

It's not pitty. Things like this happen when they know you as nice guy for a long while and then you change. Suddenly they want you, but they know you're nice, or at least they assume.

Working on yourself is very nice.

Even with work on yourself though, and complete control of the game, how do you change people's perceptions about you?

The answer is through your actions.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Try this: "Because they're all the same." Throws it back in their face.

 

[Nighthawk]

It's not pitty. Things like this happen when they know you as nice guy for a long while and then you change. Suddenly they want you, but they know you're nice, or at least they assume..

I was referring to the OPs response where he said it very nice if this girl felt pity for him. It could be that she wants him for herself ( and always assume the sale), but if he is constantly being told this by women, and reacts to potential pity with gratitude, he has some more work to do.

 

[Jeremymichael]

don't worry I did not respond with gratitude, i just said I found it patronizing.

 

[Alphamale1821]

She mentions that I'm not a leader and that I lack confidence. Great- sounds a bit patronizing to be honest?.

Patronizing i doubt but truth yes. That's how you carry yourself and it is shown in everything you do. Your posture, voice tonality and body language. Read some ebooks about confidence and work on becoming the best you can be.

 

[Mr_Aries]

She mentions that I'm not a leader and that I lack confidence. Great- sounds a bit patronizing to be honest?.

^^ That right there would piss me off. Who ACTAULLY likes being stuck with one girl? Monogamy ain't great you know?

 

[aussiegoat55]

well it's very nice for her to feel pity for me, god knows why. I forgot to mention she kept rubbing up against me. She also mentioned that I was shy and was not a leader but prefered to be led?

She kept rubbing against you? Well, you may think that's something cool, but it's really chicken shyt.

 

[Zazenth]

pit·y

–noun 1. sympathetic or kindly sorrow evoked by the suffering (=aFc), distress (=shy), or misfortune (=girlfriend less) of another, often leading one to give relief (=rubbing against) or aid (=offering to setup with friends) or to show mercy.

Well that about sums it up.

Hahaha, I'm joking really, I am.

Now get into the game! :trouble:

 

[Jeremymichael]

thanks for the comments, they don't make feel good though, I have to say

 

[Nighthawk]

It's not so bad - they obviously see you as a guy worth a girl. The men I've known that were in similar situations where girls wanted to fix them up were great guys, just not sexual or confident enough. Work on those issues and you'll be laughing.

 

[Cremasta]

Tell her the best way for her to find you a woman is that she should go out clubbing with you. Because girls are really stupid and only want what someone else wants, so when you head out to the club she should be all over you.

Who knows? She might even decide she wants you for herself anyway after spending some time rubbing up against you.

Unless she's ugly... then don't do this.

 

[JLR]

Tell her the best way for her to find you a woman is that she should go out clubbing with you. Because girls are really stupid and only want what someone else wants, so when you head out to the club she should be all over you.

Who knows? She might even decide she wants you for herself anyway after spending some time rubbing up against you.

Unless she's ugly... then don't do this.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[roman]

I have had this alot recently from women. This one woman keeps mentioning that she is on a mission to find me one as is her younger friend (the one who recently flaked on me). I do not know why she keeps saying it?. She mentions that I'm not a leader and that I lack confidence. Great- sounds a bit patronizing to be honest?.

Anyway I have had this from a number of girls\women, not sure how to handle it?

This woman is either a.) testing you because she likes you, b.) telling it exactly like it is because she pities you and wants to help you, or c.) looking for yet another victim she can verbally abuse

If I were you, I would choose to always assume option a. It puts you in the right mindset.

And next time a girl asks you "why haven't you got a girlfriend?", you want to be quick to respond with a ****y & funny statement that demonstrates higher value. but you want to build it up first, like this:

HB: why don't you have a girlfriend?
DJ: i'll tell you why if you promise to be a good girl and keep a secret
HB: i promise! please tell me!!
DJ: *glances to the left, glances to the right, reels her in with a come here finger and whispers in her ear* because i'm sick of dating girls who only use me for my footlong weiner