why girls not willing to meet guys?

[pyros]

Hiya.

I've experienced and observed the following phenomenon:
you go to a social gathering ie house party, social event etc and there you are with your guy friends and some girls that you dont know but you all have a friend in common.

Then you see the girls, girls see you, you may try to talk to them...BUT they just talk to each other, they seem to ignore you all, and they look totally uninterested in meeting or talking to any of the present guys.
So there it is, 10 guys, 8 girls, guys talking to guys, girls talking to girls, all having dinner. (??)
Two hours pass, you go to a club, they still in their little closed bulletproof circle, so you forget about them.

This has happened to me a few times. For example, I went to a friend's of a friend birthday. It was 8 girls, my guy friend and me. My guy friend just knew one of the girls. This girl introduced us to the rest, and there it ended. No more talking to the girls, they 'seemed' just interested in talking to their girlf friends. (??)
Girls were just talking to each other, dancing with each other etc....so after two attempts to break their circle and talk to them, I left cause I was getting bored.


Why does this happen?


Thx.:cheer:

 

[Who Dares Win]

1) they were not attracted from any of you guys (not hard in the entitlemente era)

2)They were in the "lets get attention and ego satisfaction" mode so all they needed was to be looked at and sense to be desired. (not hard in the attention wh0ring ego boosting era).

One of this two, because Im not considering that you guys have a low social intelligence and missed the subtle hints from them.

To elaborate point one keep in mind that you probably looked like all nice guys to them ( the girl who introduced you probably had to give an opinion of you to all the other girls prior the meeting so you were out even before the match) or maybe those girls where simply all engaged or in the wrong mood...you know after reading those magazines or watching those shows about revenge against "evil men" or "women know best" stuff.
Just like this forum can make guys bitter, those magazines can do the same to women and even more since they dont have the sex drive to balance it, the female sheep mentality doesnt help either.

 

[Chamber36]

It all depends on your body language/vibe at one of these gatherings. I recall that about 1 year ago, right after I read The Game, I went to a little birthday party and I AMOGed it and had 2 girls fighting over my attention.

Of course the first half hour to an hour I completely ignored them.

I realise I did make a few mistakes though, such as not shaking my friend's hand when he entered the room. At that point all girls took their attention off me and started talking/clucking among each other, ignoring me, and I had to work for their validation again, lol. Well, I figured they were guaging my friend, so I let things carry on, he made a fool of himself, and then I could continue AMOGing the place.

It was a good experience because it's a reference point for when my game was tight, and I can build on that experience through remembering my state of mind at the time.

I will admit, though, that if you enter a different environment where you don't know a lot of people, some girls really have a "guilty until proven innocent" mentality, where they don't ****-test you and see if you hold up, they just assume that you don't hold up until someone gives you the social proof that you need to convince them that you are indeed "popular".

That's a different case altogether and I advise you to stay away from girls like that. I hate girls that act like I have something to prove to them. They think they have midas' touch on their pvssy or something. Just find a girl who is into you for you.

 

[pyros]

yeah Who Dares Win, but I wonder how and when they meet new guys. Because they seem like they dont want to, they're just there with their girl friends. Maybe they get so much attention from guys everywhere that they dont really need to meet new ones, but not even wanting to talk? to laugh? make some jokes? brbbb... I've met many nice girls but it seems some girls when they are in their group of girl friends they all give you this attitude like they just dont give a **** to talk to you or get to know you. Like they are so happy, proud and satisfied in life, thay they choose to ignore you all. Hah, *****es. Probably they're single or in a bad relationship and wondering why they dont meet a good guy. They all dress up, use all that make up and after that they choose to ignore guys. Smart.

As Chamber36 said, it seems they believe you have to prove yourself to them so you're 'guilty until proven innocent', yeah right, why not? (irony).
Actually its the same attitude the majority of girls have when they're in a disco, but in this case you're not, and you are in a party so its a more relaxed environment. But they behave the same way...

I call this phenomenon the 'coven', you know, when witches get together.

 

[r0cky]

They focus on whatever is most interesting. are you being more interesting and valuable than their friends?

 

[pyros]

I dont know. We're a bunch of decent looking guys. We're laughing, talking, drinking, but they have this *****y attitude, so I'm not gonna make an 'effort' to prove myself to them. Its stupid.

 

[FairShake]

they seem to ignore you all, and they look totally uninterested in meeting or talking to any of the present guys.

You answered your own question. They aren't interested in meeting or talking to the present guys. Maybe they are married or in relationships, perhaps they are clicking well with the female group, or it's possible you guys just aren't getting them hot and bothered.

Fvck girls who are interested in you, don't think about those that aren't.

 

[Zerro]

I dont know. We're a bunch of decent looking guys. We're laughing, talking, drinking, but they have this *****y attitude, so I'm not gonna make an 'effort' to prove myself to them. Its stupid.

That's the attitude to have.

 

[nismo-4]

Either they don't find you attractive (physically or financially) or they are doing a girls' night out. As in, they want an ego boost from guys which they can get anytime, anywhere anyway.

Women band together to raise the price of pu$$y and love and company.

Don't bother with women who aren't interested in you or give mixed emotions.

Case closed. :woo:

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Either they don't find you attractive (physically or financially) or they are doing a girls' night out. As in, they want an ego boost from guys which they can get anytime, anywhere anyway.

Women band together to raise the price of pu$$y and love and company.

Don't bother with women who aren't interested in you or give mixed emotions.

Case closed. :woo:

You forgot the #1 Reason........ They have a dude at home!

 

[nismo-4]

You forgot the #1 Reason........ They have a dude at home!

And they have a harem of dudes in their iphones they can have quickly!

All women have guys who want them at all times.

 

[bigneil]

Women can't hide their emotions very well. When they like you, it's totally obvious, or they don't like you (at least at the moment). When meeting them, they are either holding eye contact and smiling, or uninterested.

 

[Krueg]

Its because thats what women do. Sit around and talk all day with their friends. Men arent like that, we use action; Hunting, fishing, video games, sports and ect.

@bigneil, I agree but, also disagree. Women hide their true feelings. Especially the good looking ones.

 

[sstype]

Look, the simple truth is for whatever reason, those girls weren't interested in what you had to offer. They do want to meet guys, just not you and your friend unfortunately.

Coupled with the low pre-existing attraction they felt towards you, they probably expected you and your friend were going to try and game them since most guys see social circles as their only shot at getting laid.
Next time, if you sense you're getting a cool reception, I would just ignore them the entire night and go hit on other girls at the venue.

For one, it breaks the whole stereotype of being the typical AFC that relies on friends to "set you up" and two may stir up some competition anxiety/jealousy among the girls if they see you chatting up a random attractive women but not them.

The key with dealing with new mixed social groups is to always keep your receptiveness a couple notches down with how they are responding to you. So if you're getting a chilly reception, then be a complete ****head and ignore them, give curt responses if they make some weak-ass attempt to be polite. You don't need to "prove" yourself to the group, make them wonder why you aren't impressed with their inside jokes, showboating, and witty banter.
When they start to open up to you, you can start to let your guard down a bit but never match their level of enthusiasm and receptiveness towards you. Make them work for your approval.

You don't need to be f*cking Dale Carnegie trying to win over everyone you socialize with. If you feel like you have to do this to gain the good graces of a social group, you are operating from a submissive frame and while they may like you, they may not necessarily respect you (or in your case, f*ck you).

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Crap, are you from Toronto? That is EXACTLY the mentality girls seem to have in Toronto. You go to clubs/bars and it is basically entire groups of girls sticking together and ignoring men.

 

[Trump]

Don't expect other people to entertain you. Entertain them with your adventures and findings. If you cant, you are boring and if you boring, you can be considered unintelligent. Imagine if you won the Nobel prize or owned a fortune 500 company, do you think those girls would still be in there own circle? They would be all over you.

If you think you are an awesome product, show the customer. But don't think just because you exist the customer has to buy it.

 

[ilikecharlene]

Maybe they just wanted to go out without being gamed, or gaming men.

 

[In2theGame]

Hiya.

I've experienced and observed the following phenomenon:
you go to a social gathering ie house party, social event etc and there you are with your guy friends and some girls that you dont know but you all have a friend in common.

Then you see the girls, girls see you, you may try to talk to them...BUT they just talk to each other, they seem to ignore you all, and they look totally uninterested in meeting or talking to any of the present guys.
So there it is, 10 guys, 8 girls, guys talking to guys, girls talking to girls, all having dinner. (??)
Two hours pass, you go to a club, they still in their little closed bulletproof circle, so you forget about them.

This has happened to me a few times. For example, I went to a friend's of a friend birthday. It was 8 girls, my guy friend and me. My guy friend just knew one of the girls. This girl introduced us to the rest, and there it ended. No more talking to the girls, they 'seemed' just interested in talking to their girlf friends. (??)
Girls were just talking to each other, dancing with each other etc....so after two attempts to break their circle and talk to them, I left cause I was getting bored.


Why does this happen?


Thx.:cheer:

You have to just go for the one you like and start talkin to her. 2 weeks ago I went to my best friends house party and it was loaded with girls. My best friend was dancing with the girl that he liked and i was around the drinks offering everyone. Every other guy was just hangin around. (hottest girl in the party) This sexy brunette was hangin on the side with her friends, i went straight up to her and asked her if she wanted anything,... i flirted a little and told her to come with me to the drinking area, i gamed it up and ended up making out with her, she was sitting on my lap all night, i danced with her, i just did my ****ing thing man and you just need to do the same. Later on, some other girls came up to me and tried hooking me up with one of their other friends lol. The point is, if your standing around and no one is interacting with the girls, you need to go in and talk to them, offer them a drink, a dance or whatever. lol as i type this the brunette is textin me, "Hey baby" lol gotta love it...

 

[cablecow15]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Q6gw00CqWE

lol , sometimes girls plan get outs just for themselfs , its uncommon , but it can happen after one of them gets in a "omg i hate all guys " funk. screw it and find a more receptive group

 

[pyros]

Hello.

In2TheGame: I agree with you, and I would do the same thing if I was at my best friend's house party, but I am referring to these situations where you go to a party with your guy friends because for example, one of my friend's cousing is having a party. So we are there, we just know this dude, and all the rest are strangers. So there are some girls, in a 'coven' circle, bulletproof as I said. So I try to talk to them eventhough they are sank in their own private reality and they do not respond with much enthusiasm. And Im pretty sure it is not because I am not funy or handsome, it seems it is the 'plan' to have that attitude that night.
I say to my friends: 'come on dudes, lets talk to them, I tryied why dont you?' and they reply something like: 'dont you see they are in that ****ing bulletproof circle, if they wanted to talk, they would not act like that, they would come to say hello or something.' And I say: 'but maybe they're thinking we should start the interaction'.

I guess if we all tried to talk to them they may open, but it is obvious that they are in a weird mood, not social at all, not willing to meet guys.