"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Helllll yeeeaahhhhh.

I'm subscribed to him bro. As soon as I read this title I thought......wait....could he be referring to TimothyD...? YES

Haven't watched it yet. Pretty think I know what I'm going to hear. Good to know guys are still out there preaching the game keeping it real.


He's on of my most respected youtubers, I hope to meet him at Vidcon 2013
 

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Kind of funny, interesting video.
Great point how guys like girls who are submissive and girls like guys who are aggressive. It's the whole male/female dynamic.

But of course the point he makes isn't that a girl wants an @sshole, the point is that she wants a MAN. A guy who is MANLY. I don't know why everyone seems to interpret that as being an "@sshole". Nobody likes an @sshole.
Probably part of the whole feminization of the culture/emasculination of men thing.
 

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zekko said:
But of course the point he makes isn't that a girl wants an @sshole, the point is that she wants a MAN. A guy who is MANLY. I don't know why everyone seems to interpret that as being an "@sshole". Nobody likes an @sshole.
seems like you need some years of experience to really get the difference.
 

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zekko said:
Kind of funny, interesting video.
Great point how guys like girls who are submissive and girls like guys who are aggressive. It's the whole male/female dynamic.

But of course the point he makes isn't that a girl wants an @sshole, the point is that she wants a MAN. A guy who is MANLY. I don't know why everyone seems to interpret that as being an "@sshole". Nobody likes an @sshole.
Probably part of the whole feminization of the culture/emasculination of men thing.
That's it, they simply transfer to the a$$hole gimmick all the qualities of a real man so that those who posses them are sh1t tested and shamed into quitting part of it.
You don't take sh1t from a woman? well you clearly are an a$$hole for not respecting her etc, she pisses you off and you leave? same.

Its no different how qualities which are feminime are transfered to the "stupid" gimmick so girls are discouraged to be that, just imagine not being a b1tch and cook for a man instead of following the "independant smart girl" gimmick.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm gonna spin this a bit. Why do most of us want a slvt?

As Rollo says, "every man wants a slvt, he just wants her to be his slvt."

As zekko says, "the male/female dynamic." Further, they don't want an a$$hole, they just want a "man."
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
for some girls there is no difference. Some girls actually do want *******s, or at a minimum, can't tell the difference.
I agree some girls actually do want *******s. However, from my observation, these girls are trash.
 

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zekko said:
Kind of funny, interesting video.
Great point how guys like girls who are submissive and girls like guys who are aggressive. It's the whole male/female dynamic.
Girls like guys who are assertive, NOT aggressive.

That is the subtle difference that so many people here who talk about being "alpha" don't understand. It's not about being alpha at all. You just have to be assertive. They're NOT the same thing.
 

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
Girls like guys who are assertive, NOT aggressive.

That is the subtle difference that so many people here who talk about being "alpha" don't understand. It's not about being alpha at all. You just have to be assertive. They're NOT the same thing.
Exactly. And another thing:

Girl thinks the (objectively) assertive guy is good looking enough=assertive, confident and attractive guy

Girl thinks the (objectively) assertive guy isn;t good looking enough=a55hole, jerk, creeper

Assertiveness/a55hole isn't an active ingredient that by itself makes everything happen attraction wise. It is just a mostly necessary ingredient.
 

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I haven't seen the video, but what makes a guy manly as oppose to being an azzhole? Let's do some comparison, and contrast.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Stagger Lee said:
Exactly. And another thing:

Girl thinks the (objectively) assertive guy is good looking enough=assertive, confident and attractive guy

Girl thinks the (objectively) assertive guy isn;t good looking enough=a55hole, jerk, creeper

Assertiveness/a55hole isn't an active ingredient that by itself makes everything happen attraction wise. It is just a mostly necessary ingredient.
True indeed, aggressivness and assertivness simply multiply what you already are.
 

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You guys don't know what you are talking about..
The only thing a women want is a guy she feels attracted to.

Some women are attracted to a**holes, some are attracted to men.. And I'd f
Go so far as to say some are even attracted to wimps.

Think about it.. No matter how manly you behaved that girl just didn't like you.. Well the reason is she has different tastes.
 

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Women love aggressive a-holes, especially the young ones. Men, on the other hand, like nice girls. If I had to choose between a hot, young, beatchy girl and a somewhat less attractive, but "nicer" one, I'd probably pick the nice one.
 

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Girls don't like guys who are as*holes. Girls call guys they like (and who dumped them) as*holes.

When a guy is independent he doesn't care whether she "comes, stays, lays or prays". That is what girls like.

If you have a great girl and suddenly act like an as*hole she will dump you quickly.
 

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[QUOTE+SamTheHobit]Some women are attracted to a**holes, some are attracted to men.. And I'd f
Go so far as to say some are even attracted to wimps.[/QUOTE]
Some are even attracted to other women.

bigneil said:
Girls don't like guys who are as*holes. Girls call guys they like (and who dumped them) as*holes.
True.

bigneil said:
When a guy is independent he doesn't care whether she "comes, stays, lays or prays". That is what girls like.
There's truth in that, although I wouldn't take it to extremes.

A lot of times, some girls won't even really notice you until you pay them some interest or attention. It's that little spark that captures their imagination. And even after that I don't think it's harmful to show them some interest, you just have to keep a level head about it. Don't melt down into a pile of googly-eyed mush over her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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