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BPH

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All good my friend. And let us be absolutely clear: I am in no way judging you, In fact you are waaaay ahead of most men. I do not think you are an idiot whatsoever, in fact the opposite. You just need to make that transition from player to master. I think you have tremendous potential. You are just making easily correctable errors.

Also, don't confuse love with mental illness. Everything I do during the first 3 months is a screening process. Any hints of any problems whatsoever and the girl is out. But when women love you they will do some amazing things. Committing to a gal at the 8-10 week mark means something....but from there I have to get "The Golden Year". That is one full year of perfect dating. No red flags, no major arguments, no problems of any sort. Mind blowing sex is a given. She must be wiling to rob banks for you. Prior to meeting my wife I was engaged to a doctor, but she started dragging her feet on the wedding and I immediately dumped her. Over the next year I seduced and had sex with more than a dozen women, all 8's and above. And I was a still dirt poor graduate student. I apologize for the bragging but pictures tell a thousand words. This was me and my wife a week ago.

View attachment 14155 So it does not matter that you are living with your parents. You are "in transition" while developing your goals. If a woman really likes you and believes in your potential she will have you at her place banging every last drop from you. Many of the gals I dated were extremely well off financially and often I went to her place. Usually sex and dinner were waiting. I would have sex 3-4 times with each one. This was Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday, so I was having sex more than 10 times a week. You have seen how old and ugly I am, I will DM you a week old picture of my wife. EDIT: DM didn't go through...that is why I posted here. I have nothing to hide.

You could easily be banging that blonde by next week. Are you really telling me that that is not something you would like? You can't wait one extra date...a date that could take an hour and should not cost more than 20 bucks. Really?

I will take a look at your post tomorrow. I am sure that you know that what you are posting is something called a "field report." Field reports are absolutely phenomenal ways to sharpen our game. It is time to start fighting back against the War Against Men.

If you do not want my advice, that is perfectly OK. I just think you could easily be having sex with most of these women you are meeting.
I appreciate your time and would certainly appreciate your input and advice, as I have so far.

I just wanted to highlight that my goals have some fundamental differences compared to yours, notably that I usually operate in the moment, while you operate 2-3 dates from now. I've had plenty of experiences involving getting numbers, makeouts, and even some below-the-belt play from girls who went cold when it came to sex somewhere down the line - whether immediately, or by the next weekend, or the weekend after. Therefore, I don't have a lot of faith in the reliability of a drunk girl to follow through with plans.

People are unreliable; friends, women, whoever. So, I generally treat each interaction as what it is, rather than what it might be later on. Understandably, this also leads to getting blown out by rushing into things, as I have above. But it also works out quite often as well, as it has so far for me, generally speaking - not recently lol.
 

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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I appreciate your time and would certainly appreciate your input and advice, as I have so far.

I just wanted to highlight that my goals have some fundamental differences compared to yours, notably that I usually operate in the moment, while you operate 2-3 dates from now. I've had plenty of experiences involving getting numbers, makeouts, and even some below-the-belt play from girls who went cold when it came to sex somewhere down the line - whether immediately, or by the next weekend, or the weekend after. Therefore, I don't have a lot of faith in the reliability of a drunk girl to follow through with plans.

People are unreliable; friends, women, whoever. So, I generally treat each interaction as what it is, rather than what it might be later on. Understandably, this also leads to getting blown out by rushing into things, as I have above. But it also works out quite often as well, as it has so far for me, generally speaking - not recently lol.
OK, so you have identified the problem. You are successfully opening, getting numbers, getting those first/second dates, then things go south. Why would you not want those 3rd and 4th dates when those are the dates that involve great sex? Your experiencing cognitive dissonance here...not getting something and then convincing yourself that since you are not getting it that thus you do not want it.

The reality that most relationships fail, more than 95% even if you do everything right. By 7-9 weeks in (after having tons of amazing sex) you start to see red flags...the most common of which are arguments. At that point you end things and move new women into your rotation. Because you are not making mistakes you have a constant supply of gorgeous high quality women moving in and out of your life giving you the best sex ever. How is that not better than things going cold every time by the second date?

OK, so you said you had another gal...one you connected with that you wanted some input over. Is this the one? looking-for-some-help-curbing-some-bad-behavior-im-considering-engaging-in.283886
 

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I get men telling me they don't want to fvck a ton of women because they want a "relationship". They see no need to go and fvck everything that moves, let alone TRY to fvck anything that moves.

For those wanting to get into a relationship, it's still EXTREMELY important to become good with women. You can end up with someone you think is nice and six months later she stops the "good girl" charade and starts acting like a disrespectful wh0re. If you're experienced, you'll have the confidence to quit wasting your time with her and toss her ass in your ex-gf graveyard. Take a day to mourn her stupid a55, and then go find yourself a couple of new women to date.

Unfortunately, lots of men will just put up with a disrespectful wh0re and think spoiling her will make it all better. You're not getting any younger as the days go by, so why waste those days with a 5hitty excuse for a woman?
 

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I get men telling me they don't want to fvck a ton of women because they want a "relationship". They see no need to go and fvck everything that moves, let alone TRY to fvck anything that moves.

For those wanting to get into a relationship, it's still EXTREMELY important to become good with women. You can end up with someone you think is nice and six months later she stops the "good girl" charade and starts acting like a disrespectful wh0re. If you're experienced, you'll have the confidence to quit wasting your time with her and toss her ass in your ex-gf graveyard. Take a day to mourn her stupid a55, and then go find yourself a couple of new women to date.

Unfortunately, lots of men will just put up with a disrespectful wh0re and think spoiling her will make it all better. You're not getting any younger as the days go by, so why waste those days with a 5hitty excuse for a woman?
This is a pretty good TL;DR of the OP.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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