"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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romangod said:
I'll ask you honestly, "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

The answer you give me should be the answer you give them. Cheers!
Well to be honest, I really don't know. It just hasn't happened.

I'll admit I like the idea of changing it up and kind of throwing the question back at her(e.g., "why do you ask?"), but in at least one situation I'm thinking of, the girl kept asking! I think if I keep being to evasive it might come off as weird. I don't know. Just a gut feeling perhaps. I'm certain there isn't a 100% correct answer.
 

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The lame answer is, "I haven't found the right person yet". Otherwise, just throw it back at them.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nick1984 said:
Well to be honest, I really don't know. It just hasn't happened.

Eureka! There's your answer. Cheers! :up:
 

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Nick1984 said:
Hi,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

To get down to brass tacks, what is an acceptable response to the question in the subject line? I've been asked this by multiple women and can't think of an answer that doesn't make me seem like a total mook. The whole spectrum of "I'm a dork" to "No woman can tame me, baby" seems bad/cheezy.

What do you guys think. I'm interested in any ideas.

"women come and go"
 

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Maxtro said:
Somebody on here said this but I don't know who.

"I don't have a girlfriend, but I know somebody who'd get mad if she heard me say that."

Say it confidently, with a sly smile and move on.

Another one you can say is, "I'm currently accepting applications, but I must warn you I only take on qualified applicant's."
2nd one is cheese city.
 

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Answer: "I'm picky." (maintain eye contact and wait until she replies)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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