"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why don't women compromise?

SamTheHobit

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As the title says it seems that men are much more willing to compromise than women.

They won't compromise there careers, friends, partying, "guy friends" etc.. For the good of the relationship.

Were as it seems if the man doesn't compromise she will just leave you.

Has a women ever compromised something big for you in her life? Share you stories.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The answer is hypergamy. Like Chris Rock once said, women can never go backwards in lifestyle.
 

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Men value love and women love value.

Ever heard of golden dik? Probably not. Ever heard of golden pu$$y/ vagina? We all have! Oh yeah, women's standards go up, not down. Love, sex, and companionship is highly priced right now (and still rising), and the growing number of desperate men buying PUA guides doesn't help.

Not to mention, women can get their attention fixes from social media all day long!
 

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A brilliant read on topic - http://therationalmale.com/2011/11/14/appreciation/

However, I do get a feeling that sometimes girls do sacrifice certain things for men.

Since men and women are so different, the sacrifices women make could be something that is not registered by us. An example - I had a girl wake up an hour earlier than me (and I usually have to get up early) so she could go to the bathroom and be pretty when I get out of bed. I didn't really think about it, until we had to part ways (I was leaving the country for a few months), so as a nice gesture I decided to wake up an hour early and make a big breakfast in bed for her.

It wasn't that hard to do since I only did it once, but doing that every single day when I'm with her? No way, I want my sleep!

I think it goes to a lot of the little things, such as a long term girlfriend of one of my friends always cleans around and does the dishes in his house.

This does not seem like a sacrifice that some men make (move to different country, switch jobs, etc.), and might seem menial, however, it is a form of a sacrifice (effort, and time) that may often go under-appreciated, in a similar way woman will never understand how much it meant for you to go watch football with your friends or why you chose not to accept that job offer in Barbados.

We sacrifice different things, since we value different things.

For some reason, this topic also reminded me of an old story I heard a long time ago. Details faded, so pardon me for lack of storytelling skills or some sort of logical mistakes.

A man and his wife have been together for 40 years; Every morning, wife would wake up and make toast with butter for breakfast. The toaster they had was a bit weird - it would toast the two slices so that one was always quite crunchy, and the other one was quite soft. The wife really loved crunchy toasts, but since she also loved her husband so much, she would always give him the crunchy piece, while eating the soft one herself. This morning, however, when making a toast, she thought "Ah, damn it. I've been with him for forty years now, so screw it I'll take this one for myself this morning". She took the crunchy toast, and placed soft one into her husband's plate.

The man's eyes lit up - "Oh honey! Thank you!"
"What do you mean?"
"For forty years we've been together, I'd always see you eat the soft toast for breakfast. Since I was a kid, I always loved soft toasts, but since I saw how you liked them, I never said anything! And now, after 40 years we've been together, you gave me the soft one!"


Then, they consummated their love on the kitchen table while rolling in the toasts, or something.
 

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Women do compromise..it's just that their idea of compromise is skewed. They usually expect you to give up way more than they do. Even if you could quantify the extent each person gives up and it was proven that they gave up much less than you, in their minds its a fair compromise.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SamTheHobit said:
As the title says it seems that men are much more willing to compromise than women.

They won't compromise there careers, friends, partying, "guy friends" etc.. For the good of the relationship.

Were as it seems if the man doesn't compromise she will just leave you.

Has a women ever compromised something big for you in her life? Share you stories.
I was living at a friend moms house. I gamed this girl very educated. International asian student, she would drive 8 hours to see me, buy me beer, and cigs every day. I was being a jerk, with a drug problem. I would **** this girl, take her to fun places, she paid for it all. 8 hour drive to see me, ended up staying with me for a couple months, before we ended up living togather for two years. She always paid more. Is that compromise? I really had nothing to offer other than I dit not give a flying fvck at the time. The right woman will bend over backwards for you.

They point is, is dont give a ****. The only reason i got away with this ****, is because I didnt care, but i cared about my next fix.
 

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LOL I love it when a thread that assigns single attributes to whole genders breeds nothing but platitudes in the responses. Guess one shouldn't be surprised.
 
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