Why don't most couples last

[Dhoulmagus]

My friend just broke up with his gf and they were obsessed with each other at first. I personally think most dating in college won't last because its in an artificial environment that caters to Daddy's money. Not just that, but I feel like their are a lot people out there that still live off dad or something at age 26. You are pretty much an artificial you to her and when some signs of real stress hits your life than he or she is gone.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Yes when sh|t hits the fan it causes always a lot of stress and drama and most people don't have enough patience and have no idea how to manage conflicts in relationship.Now, it is so easy to exchange partner that there is no real motivation esp. for women to stick and make it work.Why to try, or give second chance when 100 orbiters,50 white knights msg you every day ? Men are now being seen as 'disposable' and I must say they are in most cases, too many desperate betas or white knights.

We only value things hard to get,unique and difficult to replace.We always like new toys instead of old,used or broken ones.

 

[logicallefty]

Yes when sh|t hits the fan it causes always a lot of stress and drama and most people don't have enough patience and have no idea how to manage conflicts in relationship.Now, it is so easy to exchange partner that there is no real motivation esp. for women to stick and make it work.Why to try, or give second chance when 100 orbiters,50 white knights msg you every day ? Men are now being seen as 'disposable' and I must say they are in most cases, too many desperate betas or white knights.

We only value things hard to get,unique and difficult to replace.We always like new toys instead of old,used or broken ones.

This ^^^ Perfectly put. Thus I will dispose of some +REP and give it to you for this.

This why we must make ourselves into a non disposable man, one they know they won't find another like. Deep, deep down they know all of their orbiters and white knights are disposable betas. But they are good for some temporary attention and maybe even sex. Or maybe some other resources of time and money, all of the woman's benefit (fixing her car, paying her light bill, etc). The attention is like a drug for a woman, she must have it to keep any kind of emotional frame. Why is FB and other social media so popular with women? Because they get big doses of their fix with no effort in short time.

As I have said before in other posts, fellas, we as the SS community should all feel lucky that WE GET IT. We are in a bit of way today's elite man.

 

[GS750]

Well if she and her BF split she can have a new guy lined up to take his place faster than a traffic light changes. Chances are she's got several orbiters feeding her ego on Facebook. No one has any real reason to stay together anymore.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Yes when sh|t hits the fan it causes always a lot of stress and drama and most people don't have enough patience and have no idea how to manage conflicts in relationship.Now, it is so easy to exchange partner that there is no real motivation esp. for women to stick and make it work.Why to try, or give second chance when 100 orbiters,50 white knights msg you every day ? Men are now being seen as 'disposable' and I must say they are in most cases, too many desperate betas or white knights.

We only value things hard to get,unique and difficult to replace.We always like new toys instead of old,used or broken ones.

Yes, how do you know yourself when dad pays your rent and bills and yall both do not even have a real job. Is this any different from a high school relationship? Both don't live an actual realistic life, so how could they both maintain a relationship without losing interest for another candy flavor.

 

[jurry]

Why would they last? Nothing lasts.

 

[Yewki]

I personally think most dating in college won't last.

If you took out the words "in college" your statement would still be accurate.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

If you took out the words "in college" your statement would still be accurate.

It depends on the couple lol

 

[om1xr]

Only a few will get this and understand it fully but here is the answer to your question:

1- Role Playing: Most people are playing some kind of a role when it comes to their interactions with others especially when they interact or meet attractive human being from the opposite sex.

So when it comes to relationships when the masks fall and the role playing stops they realize that they are not attracted to the other person anymore but the reality is that they were never attracted to that person in the first place. But the were been attracted to their mask.

2- Ego Attachment/ Addiction: In other words people with insecure ego become addicted to their Girlfriend/Boyfriend because their ego get his fix of attention/validation and they get attached to that person pretty easily.

But after awhile they start to want more of that fix because with the falling masks the attention and validation decrease as well so their egos start looking for their fix outside of the relationship.

think of attention/validation addiction like drugs addiction and you will get the idea. after a while of using a specific drug you start using more doses to get your fix and you may use a more powerful drug..etc

That's why the best advice most successful people tend to give is "Be True to yourself" in addition of "Don't give a fvck about what other people think of you or expect from you". but most guys don't understand the true meaning of that advice.

 

[Alvafe]

It depends on the couple lol

then that also applys to people who did meet and date during college, then marry later and still are together

and you should let your hate goes, you are fixated too much on otehr people life and not on yours

 

[Comatozed]

this site says relationships don't last but i'm still watiing of any of good friends ltr's breaking up. it certainly would be interesting to see 5 years down the line but right now they all seem like theyre in it for the long haul.

 

[G_Govan]

this site says relationships don't last but i'm still watiing of any of good friends ltr's breaking up. it certainly would be interesting to see 5 years down the line but right now they all seem like theyre in it for the long haul.

There's a couple I've lived next door to for about 5 years. I know for a fact the wife has cheated (even tried to get me interested) and they recently had a kid. The husband has no idea (feel really bad for the guy) and they look like any happy couple.

It's all about options and opportunities. Very attractive women rarely ever "settle down" until they're forced to because of the wall. I've seen plenty of unattractive women in nice, stable relationships though. There are trade-offs. Hooking a truly hot chick is asking for trouble if you want to settle down.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

this site says relationships don't last but i'm still watiing of any of good friends ltr's breaking up. it certainly would be interesting to see 5 years down the line but right now they all seem like theyre in it for the long haul.

This site says all girls are demons and relationships are pointless, but they still go for women and still attempt relationships

 

[lover4721]

Look at Charles and Alli Trippy -- they had lots of years together. They went to a different country together, totally loved each other. Married in 2011, and split in 2014.

Not everything is guaranteed to last. I can't think of a happy couple right now... my parents sleep apart. My ex's parents sleep apart -- never saw them sleep in the same room, yet on the same floor! Girl I know has parents that split. My Gram -- my Nana -- my Uncle -- etc. So many people...

I definitely do want a family when I grow up. So I hope I find one of those relationships that DO last. I can think of many of my neighbors that have those long marriages.