Why don't I care????

[Jokerlsk]

I dont understand why but all of my friends and peers surrounding me believe that having a gf is everything. My friends earlier this week were acting like something was wrong with me because I never have long relationships. Dont get me wrong, i do go out but i never really go out with the same girl again. Does not needing a girl make me weird or something? And if it helps im a softmore.

 

[splinterkb]

I dont understand why but all of my friends and peers surrounding me believe that having a gf is everything. My friends earlier this week were acting like something was wrong with me because I never have long relationships. Dont get me wrong, i do go out but i never really go out with the same girl again. Does not needing a girl make me weird or something? And if it helps im a softmore.

It makes you stronger because you don't need the comfort of having someone. As long as you're happy, thats all that matters. Not everyone is the same.

 

[antidonjuan]

yes, I have the same peer pressure too. The closest friend even asks me: man, you should get a girlfriend! and it seems like ppl who gets girlfriends are higher class than others.

what i've learned is that don't be needy and do your own self-improvement if you really need one. it's all about peer pressure

having a girlfriend or not is ur own choice, we come to this forum for different reasons



err, i have the same issue too..!! but i noe that LTR doesn't last long and its really worthless at high school

 

[splinterkb]

yes, I have the same peer pressure too. The closest friend even asks me: man, you should get a girlfriend! and it seems like ppl who gets girlfriends are higher class than others.

what i've learned is that don't be needy and do your own self-improvement if you really need one. it's all about peer pressure

having a girlfriend or not is ur own choice, we come to this forum for different reasons



err, i have the same issue too..!! but i noe that LTR doesn't last long and its really worthless at high school

LTR stands for long term relationship.. meaning it does last long. And don't try to tell people they're worthless if you've never had one.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Thanks for the commentary man. Its always been this way lol. My friends, sometimes even go to desperate measures to get a girl but I initiate and wait. I dont know if im doing the right thing, but if i act all desperate i would just be an afc right?

 

[BMX]

You are well on your way towards having a DJ mindset, which will put you ahead of most of your sophomore peers.

 

[Jokerlsk]

thanks alot

 

[Jokerlsk]

splinter, dont get mad at adj i think he was just stating wat he believes

 

[antidonjuan]

LTR stands for long term relationship.. meaning it does last long. And don't try to tell people they're worthless if you've never had one.

i noe what it means, LTR doesn't really last long in high school because only so few of them marry later in life. In my opinion, long term relationship is worthless if you don't marry that person. In high school, I have seen many people having long term relationships from like grade 7-grade12. They tend to brake up because their lives are headed to other directions. I admit that LTR is good in adulthood but i think that high school is too early to have LTR.
It comes down to: why do you need a girlfriend? To impress your buddies? I don't think its reasonable, i mean if u want to impress your buddies and it makes u happy, you can do so. Indeed, i had no girlfriends and i don't plan to have one because you give up so much time into it. Don't get me wrong, I know what it takes to get a girl and I have been successful reading all these attraction tactics, but having a Long Term Relationship in high school just doesn't seem reasonable for me if it is just for the sake of impressing your buddies. if you really like a certain girl and u are willing to spend your extra time into her and find that as happiness in high school, i don't disagree.

Don't tel me it's worthless if you never had one? Again, I have to say that having a long-term girlfriend in high school most likely will end up heart-breaking because lots of my older friends experienced it. I havn't experienced having a girlfriend yet doesn't mean I don't know how it works. I came this site for different purposes and yea, i noe having a girlfriend is always a nice feeling inside, but; you have to take FUTURE considerations and think deeper about your decision.

Based on what you said, I get the impression of "having a girlfriend is worthful", but before you post anything on this forum, read: HIGH SCHOOL FORUM


I am sorry if I was being rude but the way you say things to certain people is no-respect. Sorry

 

[splinterkb]

splinter, dont get mad at adj i think he was just stating wat he believes

If he believes that, then fine. But he shouldn't try to give advice to someone on something he knows nothing about or has ever experienced. How does he know LTRs in HS are worthless? Anything you learn something new from isn't worthless, and chances are a 9th grader doesn't know sh*t about a real LTR. Thats the point I was making.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Well my parents did have a long term relationship starting in highschool till today but that's off topic. Now i have the same girl that i have been trying to avoid texting me tell me that i have to do this thing for her because i made a promise in like 8th grade to her. What do i say to her?

 

[antidonjuan]

Peer Joker, in my opinion, trying to look for a girlfriend because your peers are pressuring you to do it is a sign of desperation. Kill that desperation! Instead of looking for that one girlfriend, work your social skills and self improvement skills and be a true DJ who is the real prize to be won. I think that desperation is a thing that only AFC possesses. You can definately flirt with some girls in your school to practice your DJing skills but having a girlfriend will only limit your practices. People will only see you as an AFC who is desperate to get a girlfriend. Remember, you are gonna be the DJ and from what I have been observing, great and real DJs on this forum only doesn't care damn about girlfriends, they care about how to improve theirselves and their social skills to be a real men



if i am wrong, please correct me, i am totally a newbie and this is only my own opinion, please, please, please correct me if i am wrong. i wanna learn

 

[Jokerlsk]

alright thanks man

 

[antidonjuan]

If he believes that, then fine. But he shouldn't try to give advice to someone on something he knows nothing about or has ever experienced. How does he know LTRs in HS are worthless? Anything you learn something new from isn't worthless, and chances are a 9th grader doesn't know sh*t about a real LTR. Thats the point I was making.

Do you know anything about the nature of women? the only thing they know is to cheat on their boyfriends, real LTRs can easily turn out to be bad. Women cheats on their boyfriends. Only a few, very very few women are good women. LTR doesn't have any mystery and excitements and are only a waste of time in high school. Please don't use these words to me because I am a 9th grader. I noe you have more experiences than me, but if you wanna argue, argue the right way and tell me what I'm saying is incorrect. The point of you posting on is to teach us the right way, if you wanna tell me that i noe nothing about LTR, explain it to us, don't put a 9th grader down like that!
If you find what i'm saying incorrect, correct me then and teach me the right way. all of what you posted on this thread are useless sentences that puts me down but u never tought us anything about LTR (benefits, pros and cons)

i am only putting my own opinion, i'm here to learn.

 

[antidonjuan]

If he believes that, then fine. But he shouldn't try to give advice to someone on something he knows nothing about or has ever experienced. How does he know LTRs in HS are worthless? Anything you learn something new from isn't worthless, and chances are a 9th grader doesn't know sh*t about a real LTR. Thats the point I was making.

stop your worthless sentences and try, please try to post something that are gonna help us and answer to Joker's questions

are u are real don juan splinter? teach us some stuff

 

[Jokerlsk]

Guys, guys conflict isnt the answer. We dont need a feud on my topic lol

 

[Jokerlsk]

Guys, guys conflict isnt the answer. We dont need a feud on my topic lol

 

[antidonjuan]

i'm just saying, did you learn anything from what he said?

geez i g2 sleep now and mr. splinter if you wanna tell me something personally drop a private messege

 

[Jokerlsk]

alright man, i learned some from most all the comments in the thread thanks guys. Have a goodnight sleep

 

[splinterkb]

Peer Joker, in my opinion, trying to look for a girlfriend because your peers are pressuring you to do it is a sign of desperation. Kill that desperation! Instead of looking for that one girlfriend, work your social skills and self improvement skills and be a true DJ who is the real prize to be won. I think that desperation is a thing that only AFC possesses. You can definately flirt with some girls in your school to practice your DJing skills but having a girlfriend will only limit your practices. People will only see you as an AFC who is desperate to get a girlfriend. Remember, you are gonna be the DJ and from what I have been observing, great and real DJs on this forum only doesn't care damn about girlfriends, they care about how to improve theirselves and their social skills to be a real men



if i am wrong, please correct me, i am totally a newbie and this is only my own opinion, please, please, please correct me if i am wrong. i wanna learn

This is much better advice. As to your post before that, noone goes into a relationship planning on it being a long term. If it goes well, then it will turn into one.. that means that you enjoy it and most importantly you're happy. If you're happy, then every aspect in your life will benefit. Just because you're not gonna marry the girl doesn't mean you can't benefit and learn from it. You can only learn so much about something from reading and what you're told or speculate FYI. Just because it didn't work for your buddies doesn't mean that it wont work for anyone. Even if it does come to an end, you will still have experience and learned some things that will help in your next relationship.

And don't try to say you know how a relationship works if you've never had one, because what you see on the outside can differ vastly from what it actually is. In a relationship you can learn a lot of stuff that can only be taught by experience. If you never have a relationship until after highschool.. what makes you think that you will be successful? You have no experience and don't know what to expect. Chances are the girl you are chasing will have had past relationships, and will be turned off because you will be CLUELESS.. not to mention a bad lay because you will only get so much sexual experience in flings.

For the record, knowing how to pick up a chick and maintaining a healthy relationship are completely different. You think you're an expert based on what you've observed, but you've really only seen the surface.

Also, I do know that this is a high school forum, which is why I made a point to correct your sh*t advice on a topic that you have no experience with. Your advice will point people in the wrong direction.