"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why does she keep calling

Thane_Blackwood

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So just a while ago I got a call from my ex girl. This woman calls my house phone because she couldn't get through on my cell.(why try so hard to get a hold of me?) So we talk for 20 minutes about pointless sh*t I don't even remember. I decided to test her and see if she would meet up with me even though I wasn't going to anyway. She says she's busy and is seeing her boyfriend. Don't know why she's calling me seeing as I haven't talked to her in a month. Before that she would call all the time. Anyway at the end of the convo I'\told her what shes doing talking to me if she has a boyfriend she says, "What? I can't talk to my friend? We've know each other since we were little kids" My respose... "No we can't talk" I told her she should go on with her business and I hung up. Any thoughts on how I handled this? Also I'm wondering why was she calling so much if she never wanted to see me again? Must be a way for her to stroke her ego...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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You did the right thing. As a man we need to value our time. Time is more important than money. She is calling your because she wants an ego boost as well as a back up dude to fall back on if her current boyfriend and her aren't working. Just ignore this female.
 

Thane_Blackwood

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Thanks man. But I also want to point out she was my first girlfriend. I didn't even try pursuing her she pursued me. Yeah I know "21 and only 1 girlfriend?" Yeah sad. I used to get girls numbers by doing absolutely nothing, but I never followed up. I'm new to the game so any advice is beneficial. But a college guy like me with nothing to his name? Yeah I think I'd have a hard time.
 

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Thane_Blackwood said:
So just a while ago I got a call from my ex girl. This woman calls my house phone because she couldn't get through on my cell.(why try so hard to get a hold of me?) So we talk for 20 minutes about pointless sh*t I don't even remember. I decided to test her and see if she would meet up with me even though I wasn't going to anyway. She says she's busy and is seeing her boyfriend. Don't know why she's calling me seeing as I haven't talked to her in a month. Before that she would call all the time. Anyway at the end of the convo I'\told her what shes doing talking to me if she has a boyfriend she says, "What? I can't talk to my friend? We've know each other since we were little kids" My respose... "No we can't talk" I told her she should go on with her business and I hung up. Any thoughts on how I handled this? Also I'm wondering why was she calling so much if she never wanted to see me again? Must be a way for her to stroke her ego...
lol

first of all think positive dude...that whole "she's talking to me cuz she wants to stroke her ego" is the train of thought that comes from someone with low self esteem

i mean really...do you see yourself as just an "ego booster"? get real dude!! don't think so negatively of yourself!

what's going on here is that she's probly having problems and/or is bored with her current bf and looking for an out...i.e. you.

she's basically handing you her vagina on a silver platter....take it if you wish :)
 
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