"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Why does seeing the world make me hate it?

loving

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I have a question for all those of you who take time to meditate, or for anyone who can relate.

I am becoming better and better at meditating each time I do it - the great feelings I cultivate get greater and greater each time.

That is, until I open my eyes. When I see the world and exit from the black bubble filled with all kinds of random imagination-stuff, the tip of whatever feeling I had gets knocked off. Within 10 minutes, it is all gone.

I would love to live my life constantly in this state, but I don't understand why beginning to look at the world is putting me down.

How do I keep these feelings?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What do you "do" when you meditate? What do you think about?
 

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I do zazen, sitting meditation, and the goal is to clear your mind. to think of nothing. so I'm wondering what you mean by random imagination-stuff.
 

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Firstly I tell myself to relax until I can't feel my limbs anymore.. Then I think of if there's anything worrying me and use some NLP (or logical conundrums if applicable) to take it away.. That usually sets off a splurge of good feelings and sometimes more things come and I do the same with same results. Once that is done I let my mind free and notice as it imagines all sorts of things. The more I block those things the worse I feel during and the more I let them be free the more they amplify the way I feel exponentially. The things are totally random and change all the time.

Then when I come out of it I do it suddenly and decide to open my eyes. Right before I do (which is after I've decided to) My feeling worsens and soon after I am out I begin to focus more and more on what it is I need to do and just gets me back on auto-pilot and forgetting about enhancing my state while not in meditation.
 

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loving said:
Firstly I tell myself to relax until I can't feel my limbs anymore.. Then I think of if there's anything worrying me and use some NLP (or logical conundrums if applicable) to take it away.. That usually sets off a splurge of good feelings and sometimes more things come and I do the same with same results. Once that is done I let my mind free and notice as it imagines all sorts of things. The more I block those things the worse I feel during and the more I let them be free the more they amplify the way I feel exponentially.
Visualization is one of the most powerful tools we have. The brain cant distinguish between imagined events or events that actually happened. When you meditate visualize yourself accomplishing a goal that you have and imagine how it feels having completed that goal (make a list of goals). Also you can think of all the things that youre grateful for in your life. You feel worse cause you focus on the negative things. Pay attention to the good things in your life and contruct your future how you intend it to be.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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