"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why does seeing the world make me hate it?

loving

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I have a question for all those of you who take time to meditate, or for anyone who can relate.

I am becoming better and better at meditating each time I do it - the great feelings I cultivate get greater and greater each time.

That is, until I open my eyes. When I see the world and exit from the black bubble filled with all kinds of random imagination-stuff, the tip of whatever feeling I had gets knocked off. Within 10 minutes, it is all gone.

I would love to live my life constantly in this state, but I don't understand why beginning to look at the world is putting me down.

How do I keep these feelings?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do you "do" when you meditate? What do you think about?
 

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I do zazen, sitting meditation, and the goal is to clear your mind. to think of nothing. so I'm wondering what you mean by random imagination-stuff.
 

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Firstly I tell myself to relax until I can't feel my limbs anymore.. Then I think of if there's anything worrying me and use some NLP (or logical conundrums if applicable) to take it away.. That usually sets off a splurge of good feelings and sometimes more things come and I do the same with same results. Once that is done I let my mind free and notice as it imagines all sorts of things. The more I block those things the worse I feel during and the more I let them be free the more they amplify the way I feel exponentially. The things are totally random and change all the time.

Then when I come out of it I do it suddenly and decide to open my eyes. Right before I do (which is after I've decided to) My feeling worsens and soon after I am out I begin to focus more and more on what it is I need to do and just gets me back on auto-pilot and forgetting about enhancing my state while not in meditation.
 

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loving said:
Firstly I tell myself to relax until I can't feel my limbs anymore.. Then I think of if there's anything worrying me and use some NLP (or logical conundrums if applicable) to take it away.. That usually sets off a splurge of good feelings and sometimes more things come and I do the same with same results. Once that is done I let my mind free and notice as it imagines all sorts of things. The more I block those things the worse I feel during and the more I let them be free the more they amplify the way I feel exponentially.
Visualization is one of the most powerful tools we have. The brain cant distinguish between imagined events or events that actually happened. When you meditate visualize yourself accomplishing a goal that you have and imagine how it feels having completed that goal (make a list of goals). Also you can think of all the things that youre grateful for in your life. You feel worse cause you focus on the negative things. Pay attention to the good things in your life and contruct your future how you intend it to be.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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