"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why does my stomach stick out?

Master Bates

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For as long as I can remember, my stomach has stuck out. It's not fat, it's just my stomach sticking out. Even after I lost weight a few years ago and have been trying to build muscle since then, it doesn't look much if any different. My gut just sticks out, and it doesn't take much more pushing it out to make it look like I'm pregnant or something. I do crunches, and for a while I've even done stomach vacuums every week, but it hasn't made much difference. My gut still sticks out. Do I need to do a bunch more crunches or what? Do I just have an abnormally large stomach that pushes out my abs? I mean what the hell. I'm sick of it and it really hurts my physique. :(
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I often see that with muscular guys. Some have abs that protrude out further than their chest. It's not like it's fat or anything, it's muscle. And when they're really ripped it looks like they have a turtle shell under their skin.
 

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I suppose you have bad posture. Your back pushing your lower stomach to the front.
 

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I have the same issue man.

Last spring I did everything I could for 3 months to try to fix it. I even cut my bf down to 10%.

All the different things I tried are documented in this thread:

Large belly

To this day I can't figure it out conclusively. My best guess is that it is either

A) Posture problem. My chiropractor said I had tight hip flexors. I'm going to book in a new guy and ask him about this issue.

B) Intra-abdominal fat. Unlikely but in about a month I'm going to get an ultrasound to be certain.

C) According to my mom(who has the same thing), she has an extra loop in her intestines, that causes it. In this case, there is nothing I would want to do about it. There is an operation for it, but it's far too risky and dangerous.

Scour that thread I posted, because I covered all possible causes, and one might be the cure for you.

I'm also posting some progress pics soon, so you can see if we are the same or not.
 

Master Bates

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speakeasy said:
I often see that with muscular guys. Some have abs that protrude out further than their chest. It's not like it's fat or anything, it's muscle. And when they're really ripped it looks like they have a turtle shell under their skin.
I don't know if it's a muscle issue, though, or at least a matter of having too much. Like I said, my stomach has been like this since long before I started working out.

quicksilver- thanks, I'll take a look at that. extra loop in the intestines? man that's crazy!

Are there any tips for improving posture? I figured mine was pretty good, and I stood beside the mirror looking at myself from the side, changing my posture around and the only times it had a positive effect on my belly was when i was leaning over unnaturally, so I don't know if it's posture either. I figure it's just really really weak internal obliques that aren't holding in my innards, or my innards are unusually large or something.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Try sprints. My abdominals always look best when I'm sprinting. I've never seen a man or women sprinter with a stomach sticking out either. I'm not sure if it'll solve your problem, but it couldn't hurt to try it out.
 

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sway back (lordosis). i have that a bit too. it makes you look fat with baggy shirts lol. focus on your chest out when u walk, and do abs exercises and hands-to-toes hamstring stretch.
 
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