Why does my girlfriend become clingy when I refuse to do this...

[narcissist]

Its very interesting how this happens. Maybe someone can explain why this happens to me.

I tried an experiment when I was chilling with my girlfriend the other day. I purposely refused to kiss her or hug her, and when she tries to I say "eww" or "yuck" and make a face of disgust. And when I did this, I remained distant, and kind of talked sh1t to her as well. And, another thing, I will purposely do the opposite of what she says. Like If I am getting dressed and I am putting on a sweater, and she says she likes it I go "well in that case, fvck this sweater" and I take it off.

When I do this, she becomes REALLY clingy to me, to the point where she is grabbing my leg begging for hugs and kisses. She becomes like a child. Its weird. Explain why this happens.

 

[narcissist]

Learn push/pull.

Yeah i know push pull. I am curious of the actually psychological mechanisms behind push/pull. That's what I mean with, why does she act like this? Or more specifically why do girls act like that when you do push pull?

 

[narcissist]

Well, women typically filter their sexuality for alpha DNA.

The whole idea of 'game' is challenge. It is the art of being a challenge to women.

Think back on your experience, briefly... a challenging man is to a woman what a sexy arse is to a man.

Every experience that I've ever had correlates the example of push/pull. A wise man one said that plating a woman is like catching a fish: too much tension (or pull) on the line and it snaps, she gets away - not enough tension (too much push), and she gets away too.

This is obviously true for anyone that approaches regularly. You literally have about 5 minutes to ply game, and push/pull is most evident.

In a nutshell: she acts like this because it is her sexual strategy. She looks for alpha DNA and beta provisioning. Women categorize men very quickly in my experience. However, you can control how others perceive you... this opens up opportunity.

good analysis. thanks

 

[narcissist]

No worries.

Push/pull is the most basic mechanic of game. Yet, no-one seems to understand its relevance.

Even a herbivore understands that he should probably wait a while to text a girl who's number he has recieved. The herb doesn't understand that this is meant as a push.

Once you understand the basic mechanics, you can write the rules however you want

I definitely have an innate pre-disposition and talent for push/pull. I do however think that it would be beneficial for me to know the nuanced psychological reasons why it is so effective, you know? Because a natural ability coupled with an understanding of the reasons why it works would make me an unstoppable player haha cheers.

 

[El Payaso]

The person with the lesser interest in a relationship holds the most power.

 

[skinnyguy]

Just imagine if you went NC on your gf for 3 months.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This kinda opposite effect thing is what I'm looking for

 

[El Payaso]

Just don't overdo it or it will lose its effect.

 

[narcissist]

It's just flat out abusive, manipulative behavior if done in a non teasing way. A normal person senses something's wrong and wants to fix it.

Nah yeah i always do it in a teasing way. I'm a pretty jovial person, so every I do is with a teasing smile.